Date or be friends?

[jackiemoon]

So I've started talking to this one girl in between and during classes.. and the more I seem to talk to her, the more I find out how cool and chill she is. She's very attractive physically and mentally, and I keep wondering if I should ask her out or just be friends with her. I wish I could have both of my wishes, but more often than not that doesn't happen. Most people, including myself, are not often friends with their ex's after they break up. I'm leaning towards being her friend, because she's really an awesome person, and I wouldn't want our relationship to be very short because our romance didn't last long. Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks,

jackie

[Johnny Bravo]

Dude, I saw your avatar and then your sig under it, and then your name...and im fucking busted up laughing.

Nice!

But...I have no clue about the girl issue =/

[nutrick]

Dec 9, 2009 21:11:33 GMT -5 jackiemoon said:

So I've started talking to this one girl in between and during classes.. and the more I seem to talk to her, the more I find out how cool and chill she is. She's very attractive physically and mentally, and I keep wondering if I should ask her out or just be friends with her. I wish I could have both of my wishes, but more often than not that doesn't happen. Most people, including myself, are not often friends with their ex's after they break up. I'm leaning towards being her friend, because she's really an awesome person, and I wouldn't want our relationship to be very short because our romance didn't last long. Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks,

jackie

well whatever you choose, don't choose it out of fear. don't lie to yourself and say that you'd rather be friends when you truly want something more. ANDDD you don't relaly know this girl that well enough, anyone can put on a fantastic front and show how awesome they are, so dont get head over heels just yet, you have to have somewhat of a screening mindset, don't give her too much credit too soon.

ciao,
patrick

[Alek]

Why not both? But really, do what you truly want and dont let any other mind set or anything change you from that belief. Im sure u can go at it, but not be offical

[$wagg]

THere's one thing I want you to remember though, whatever you choose:

DO.NOT.LOOSE.YOURSELF.

Because you want to please her, or game her, or keep her as a good friend, do not under-value your beliefs and opinions. This shit tends to happen to ALOT of people has they become attracted to a girl.

[jackiemoon]

Thanks for all of the responses guys.. really appreciate it.
Unfortunately she's dating this guy (they both deny it, but it's really fucking obvious)
She still talks to me, and we chill at lunch and during class and stuff.. but she doesn't really flirt with me like she used too.

Her friend is into me.. from what I've noticed.. and I'm not sure if I should ask her and the original girl I was into to hang out outside of school just to be with the original girl.. seems sort of mean and twisted to me but it might be normal. any further help would be appreciated

[acezero]

IMO, I'd say date her, not only does it open more doors for you, since other girls will want you and you can act faithfull to an extent, but you get to hit' her.

[jackiemoon]

The only problem is that she's not very attractive.. meh.. I'll just be friends with her.

[nikkisixx]

Well if you want to date her don't NOT do it because of other people (if anything they'll get jealous). Ive dated a girl to get another one lol.... no joke

[nate303]

Well, try to go out with her. Usually if the girl rejects you, you would still be their friend.