acezero
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Post by acezero on Dec 12, 2009 11:26:04 GMT -5
So I don't want to go through a scenario, but we both got to the point where we told each other we like each other because someone asked us when we were cuddling up at lunch.
How do I close this to make this into a relationship? I'm gonna wait till monday in person instead of over the phone.
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lolwut
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Post by lolwut on Dec 13, 2009 8:49:56 GMT -5
im curious of what you guys think as well, im in the same position.
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Post by extra on Dec 13, 2009 11:27:18 GMT -5
Personally, I'd make sure you guys are already hooking up and stuff at least. Since i'm not an expert on the subject, I'll show you my past experience in such where it has worked out well:
Here's what I did:
-Me and this girl were on-off hooking up for months, but this time it had only started again recently.
-So we're hanging out with friends at a pool, afterwards I tell her to come hang out with me at my casa
-We mess around and stuff
-I ask her if she wants to be official, she says some token thing like "do you think it will ruin our friendship" or something, I say nah and she says OK
Background info:
-This girl was very very into me at the time, after I proved that I was willing to end anything we had going on together at an earlier time
-Shit was so shallow at the time, though we didn't realize it then. Just comparing us then to us now it feels like we didn't even know eachother
-She's told me afterwards that at first she wasn't sure if "official" meant bf/gf or what, so maybe use a more clear statement
-She's probably the coolest girl ever, make sure you can see that in your girl. Relationships eat up SO much time/energy, even if it's not obvious to an outside viewer
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acezero
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Post by acezero on Dec 13, 2009 12:20:17 GMT -5
Yeah I'm 100% sure this girl is really into me. If I don't make a move when she wants, she forces it.
Like asking me to sit a certain way and putting my arm around her stomach and holding her and stuff.
I figured I was gonna ask her if she was ready.
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Post by wespeezy on Dec 13, 2009 14:59:53 GMT -5
you dont have to be having sex to be in a relationship. Chances are if your already having sex, you dont want to get into a relationship. If a girl wants to be in a relationship she will hold off sex.
You should "talk" with her for a few weeks, if you guys constantly talk and so things that you see other couples doing, your ready to ask her out
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acezero
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Post by acezero on Dec 13, 2009 17:47:41 GMT -5
This is a girl I've been on and off with for 2 monthes...
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Post by wespeezy on Dec 13, 2009 18:03:35 GMT -5
whats you definiton of on and off
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acezero
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Post by acezero on Dec 13, 2009 19:01:51 GMT -5
We are texting each other all the time, telling each other we like each other, cuddling up sometimes then off as in we just stop altogether.
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Post by Alek on Dec 13, 2009 20:29:22 GMT -5
so, have you even kissed her lol?
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Post by Caesar on Dec 14, 2009 7:06:42 GMT -5
hmm, i dont really see whats so difficult, i would just ask her out on a date if i were you, and by the way, make sure you kiss close at the END of the date, for some reason, everytime i do that, the girl wants to get intimate
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acezero
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Post by acezero on Dec 15, 2009 20:26:40 GMT -5
Thanks guy it turned out badly. I forgot the most important part of the game. Seduction.
Good though, learning experiances and I'm ready to try again with another girl tomorrow.
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Post by lolwut on Dec 15, 2009 21:31:49 GMT -5
^^this is the kinda shit im worried about. what do you guys look for before officially asking a girl out?
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Post by Alek on Dec 15, 2009 21:49:03 GMT -5
well there is nothing official about it...you guys should have a connection, so what ever happens shouldn't matter. And it is low pressure its not like your saying "HEY lets go on a "date" to the movies and dinner, ill pick you up at 7 oclock!". Now thats high pressure...if its just something as casual as "Hey, omg I found this reallly amazing neighborhood...and I want to show you it. Thats cool
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acezero
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Post by acezero on Dec 16, 2009 6:20:28 GMT -5
^^this is the kinda shit im worried about. what do you guys look for before officially asking a girl out? I realized it was my fault, I passed my seduction opportunities up too much. I lost fear when I decided I'd go natural instead of thinking of lines to say. It's more fun that way. |
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Post by blaze on Feb 8, 2010 17:28:33 GMT -5
We are texting each other all the time, telling each other we like each other, cuddling up sometimes then off as in we just stop altogether. i'm in the same position with thir girl that i like, we talked for hours, texted each othe. but now the attraction is gone. she said that she likes me a lot. but now we hardly talk, maybe it passes away, coz valetine's day comes closer so any tips on how do i fix thigs again ? |
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