nutrick
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Post by nutrick on Dec 31, 2009 2:38:48 GMT -5
you complimented her wayy too much. remember to flirt, tease her a bit, get her laughing, and then on the high point, invite her out. next time you try to invite, be absolutely sure of where you are going, when, and how, all the logistics you need to plan ahead of time, because you are the leader. other than that, you did fine.
Patrick
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Grape
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Post by Grape on Dec 31, 2009 9:19:21 GMT -5
please dont ask for just one person's help like this. it's better off if you PM him.
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Dec 31, 2009 12:28:20 GMT -5
just by reading it you could tell she was the powerful one in the
situation... which isn't helpful.
SHE was the busy one and YOU were the one trying to get her
to hang out. its fine to ask them to hang out but you gotta have
a busy life. don't be so flexible all the time.
AFC: "hey wanna hang tomorrow? no? next day? how bout any
time next week?"
PUA: "hey, so hmm, i'm gonna be busy today and over the week
end, so lets hang out tomorrow."
I'm assuming your new to the community. Nutrick was right, you
complimented way to much and she obviously had the upper
hand. Learn some of the stuff that is taught around the
community and try applying it.
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masterchi
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Post by masterchi on Dec 31, 2009 13:42:47 GMT -5
Sorry grape; I couldn't think of a good post name at first so it just called it "for tantalus" cus i wanted to show him at the time but I wanted all the other pro's to see it too.
At 9:39 she said
"perhaps a hangout at my or your place would be better =)"
I said maybe and then said I was busy right now(I was really busy with college apps)
Should I take "control" and turn it down and tell her to hang out on the weekends? Cus we both have hella asian parents.
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nutrick
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Post by nutrick on Dec 31, 2009 14:03:07 GMT -5
dude, your place or her place is wayy better than some stupid movie,hangout on the weekend. please don't blindly follow the "be dominant" thing and try to be dominant ALL the time. you have to use some common sense and adapt to what exactly is happening. it's a skill you'll learn only through trial and error and practicing and learning from your mistakes. cheers Patrick www.patrickdomingo.com |
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darkpwns
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Post by darkpwns on Dec 31, 2009 14:04:49 GMT -5
For a second I thought this was a post where you were giving tips for online convos so I read that all in the wrong frame and by the end I was like "wtf is this guy talking about, that was..." but now I realize you were asking for tips sooooo....as nutrick said you overcomplimented her. Tease her a bit (Something like "When you're my doctor if I'm good do I get a lolipop? Her: Sure You: Well what do I get if I'm bad I have problems being good (some crap like that, I just made that up and its sorta cheesy) )
Really I think you should take the offer, make it at your place and don't be a nice guy, not saying you are but don't be all supplicating and letting her take control of the interaction, be in charge at all times because you are the man and she is the woman (glad there aren't any feminists on this site). But next time don't be so available (come on not doing anything on friday OR the weekend? Where is the fun guy you are supposed to be?)
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