Post by sylar on Oct 17, 2008 14:31:39 GMT -5
On an episode of Pickup Podcast, they had a young PUA named Orleans on, and he was talking a lot about natural game and under-18 game. It was a great episode, you should really seek it out. But the best part was near the end, when he talked about a really important inner game tool: The 11 Immutable Laws of an Attractive Identity.
These are brilliant because they're specific enough that you can really target them and incorporate them into your inner game, but they're broad enough that they cover virtually EVERYTHING.
They're called laws, but they can also serve as affirmations.
The 11 Immutable Laws of an Attractive Identity
1.) You are okay right now
--Don't just write this one off, this is extremely profound. Even if you are a complete AFC, you should believe this. Learning pickup will improve your social skills, but it WILL NOT make you a better person. You're simply learning how to communicate the value you already have.
2.) You are comfortable in a position of leadership
--This doesn't neccisarily mean that you ALWAYS have to lead, it simply means that you have no reservations about leading and having attention on yourself when you have to.
3.) You are comfortable in your sexuality
--I would change this one to "You are unapologetically sexual" because that is the point of this law. You have no reservations about being sexual because that is just the kind of person that you are.
4.) You have vision and goals outside of women
--This all comes back to not trying to leech value from the HB. Style put it best when he said that 50% of being a PUA is having something better to do.
5.) You have a positive energy that people want to be around
--Thinking that women are going to be bored or turned off by you almost always becomes a self-fufilling prophecy. This law will also become a self-fufilling prophecy if you believe it.
6.) You are unattached to outcomes and do not easily get upset
--Failure has nothing to do with pickup. It is an emotional frame that makes you feel bad that can easily be avoided. If you're not expecting an outcome, a CRUCIAL aspect of inner game, how can you fail to reach that outcome?
7.) You are interested in human psychology and in others
--This one is pretty straightforward, it pertains to a mindset that is good for keeping a conversation going as well as learning more about social dynamics.
8.) You are playful
--Very important, so many aspects of outer game such as kino, negging, etc., REQUIRE this frame. I consider smiling to be the one cardinal rule of this game.
9.) You are comfortable in social situations
--If you have the option of staying home or going out, you are going to go out and be social. And not only that, you are extremely comfortable with people, even more so than when you're not with people. That is what this law is about.
10.) You have a deep knowingness that women want you
--Assumed attraction is an excellent tool for your game, it can make everything else profoundly easier.
11.) You have strict rules about what behaviors you do and do not accept from other people
--This one applies more to real life than it does to pick up, it is fairly self-explanatory, but very profound nonetheless.
These are brilliant because they're specific enough that you can really target them and incorporate them into your inner game, but they're broad enough that they cover virtually EVERYTHING.
They're called laws, but they can also serve as affirmations.
The 11 Immutable Laws of an Attractive Identity
1.) You are okay right now
--Don't just write this one off, this is extremely profound. Even if you are a complete AFC, you should believe this. Learning pickup will improve your social skills, but it WILL NOT make you a better person. You're simply learning how to communicate the value you already have.
2.) You are comfortable in a position of leadership
--This doesn't neccisarily mean that you ALWAYS have to lead, it simply means that you have no reservations about leading and having attention on yourself when you have to.
3.) You are comfortable in your sexuality
--I would change this one to "You are unapologetically sexual" because that is the point of this law. You have no reservations about being sexual because that is just the kind of person that you are.
4.) You have vision and goals outside of women
--This all comes back to not trying to leech value from the HB. Style put it best when he said that 50% of being a PUA is having something better to do.
5.) You have a positive energy that people want to be around
--Thinking that women are going to be bored or turned off by you almost always becomes a self-fufilling prophecy. This law will also become a self-fufilling prophecy if you believe it.
6.) You are unattached to outcomes and do not easily get upset
--Failure has nothing to do with pickup. It is an emotional frame that makes you feel bad that can easily be avoided. If you're not expecting an outcome, a CRUCIAL aspect of inner game, how can you fail to reach that outcome?
7.) You are interested in human psychology and in others
--This one is pretty straightforward, it pertains to a mindset that is good for keeping a conversation going as well as learning more about social dynamics.
8.) You are playful
--Very important, so many aspects of outer game such as kino, negging, etc., REQUIRE this frame. I consider smiling to be the one cardinal rule of this game.
9.) You are comfortable in social situations
--If you have the option of staying home or going out, you are going to go out and be social. And not only that, you are extremely comfortable with people, even more so than when you're not with people. That is what this law is about.
10.) You have a deep knowingness that women want you
--Assumed attraction is an excellent tool for your game, it can make everything else profoundly easier.
11.) You have strict rules about what behaviors you do and do not accept from other people
--This one applies more to real life than it does to pick up, it is fairly self-explanatory, but very profound nonetheless.
