IOI List

[RedDog]

This is from the pickup artist forum, not mine. Thought this could help ;D

*She re initiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She's disagreeing but laughing
*She's punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like something, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heart breaker
*On her way out, she re approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you
*She mirrors your gestures

Passive IO Is

*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token Resistance to avoid feeling like a slut)

The most important IOIs to look for are:

*She re initiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you

[Grape]

These will get very obvious by the time you're socially adjusted. Don't try to memorize them all, instead find out there these actions came from and you'll be much better at reading people.

[SamethP]

lol at Grapes sig xD
and awesome thread man =]

[sylar]

Everything that we do in a social interaction is, to greater or lesser extents, either an:

-IOI
-IOD
-DHV
-DLV

Basically, any kind of positive action from a girl is an IOI. If you really need to wonder about it, you're operating from a weak frame. In fact, if you assume that everything she does is an IOI and maintain the frame that you're the prize, you WILL get a close.

One of the big things I've learned from this community is the nature of attraction and how girls are constantly demonstrating their interest in seemingly subtle ways.

[Volt]

Grape, the math in your sig is phail. This list isn't.

[Grape]

hahahahah i know!!
i was waiting for someone to catch that ;]

[SenorBubbz]

should be:

((3*356)+1)*5

[Grape]

well,, in multiplication order doesnt matter....
the thing i'm laughing about is the fact that 15 * 356 is well over 3286.

[optimus]

... answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070514163312AAcQXNd

[Paetar]

Hey, can you pinpoint the difference between sexual IOI (like touching you) and non-sexual, friendly IOI (like initiating convo). How do I know where is that IOI coming from?

[optimus]

To most PUAs, interest is interest. There is a difference, but it doesn't matter. If she's interested in you, all you have to do is escalate and it becomes sexual, rather than platonic.

[blade]

*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back

I didnt get this one....

How can she NOT come back?

I mean, she isn't going to wait in the bathroom...
Or am I missing the point entirely?

[Grape]

it means at places like clubs, carnivals, and shows, a girl you've just met says "I GOTTA GO PEE" and leaves, doesnt actually goto the bathroom, and never sees you for the rest of the night.

but if she legitly does go pee and then comes back to you, it means she is interested

[wespeezy]

Found this on my Yahoo homepage

Five signs your date is into you…

1. She tilts her head
“When a woman sees and feels especially comfortable with a man, she will tilt her head,” Hartley says. A tilt in any direction — right, left or down — are all signs that she’s interested in getting to know you better — say, over another date.

2. She takes a sip when you take a sip
When a woman is drawn to a guy, she’ll instinctively mirror his actions, Hartley says. While men do this, too, women are more likely than men to first begin the copying. What should you look for? “You might notice she will shift her body in the same direction as yours or take your lead for behavioral changes like, picking up a glass to drink or blinking her eyes repeatedly if you’re doing so,” he suggests. If you want to test her, lean forward and see if she comes closer, too.

3. She twirls her hair
Since the beginning of time, a woman’s hair has been celebrated as a symbol of her beauty and power. And it’s true today, says Hartley: If your date begins twirling or playing with her hair while talking to you, it is a good sign she’s into you and subconsciously trying to attract you. Browse Local Singles at Match.com on Yahoo!

4. She gets a glow
While blushing often means embarrassment, don’t assume that her rosy cheeks are an indication of discomfort. When a woman is attracted to someone, blood flows to her face, causing her cheeks to get redder, Hartley explains. And if your date is smitten, he adds, her lips and even eyelids will get fuller, too.

5. Her pupils dilate
While your gaze is fixed on her, pay particular attention to her pupils, advises Hartley. “When a woman is attracted to a man, her pupils will dilate,” he notes. “Essentially, the body does this in order to allow itself to take in more of a good thing.”

[zegoni]

"5. Her pupils dilate
While your gaze is fixed on her, pay particular attention to her pupils, advises Hartley. “When a woman is attracted to a man, her pupils will dilate,” he notes. “Essentially, the body does this in order to allow itself to take in more of a good thing.”"

Wow, I used to hook up with this girl whose pupils were like 1/4" wide. Says enough.


Seriously though, take all IOIs with a grain of salt. if the same thing happens a few times (ex. mirroring your BL), it's a sure thing. But really, just because she looked at the clock the same time as you, it doesn't necessarily mean her pants are all wet.