how to start a conversation with her

[comedian]

Ok there is this girl i have a crush on, but i rarely see her. Ok actually i see her in the hall everyday @ the end of school when im walking 2 my locker. The class i get out is right next to hers. The plan was to wait till 1 of the girls i know walked out talking to her and i would latch on an talk 2 the 1 i know and move in on the 1 i want. Problem is that only never happens even tho the girls i know are friends with her.
I think she might like me cause on all of the rare occasions when i see her we always have that akward moment when we look @ each other and look away. You know what im talking about.
Any tips on how i can start talking to her.

[doonagoowin]

Go up and say hi.
It's actually pretty simple

[sleeky]

First of all
Dont look away. You looking away shows you have low confidence, and is unattractive. Obviously dont stare at her looking like a deer in the headlights, but just keep relaxed eye contact. If this feels awkward, get used to it, because most guys do not do this, and it is a noticeable difference for girls when a guy does this. Just look her in the eye as you are passing her by in the hall, maybe even with a half smile, and it will break naturally when you pass her. No awkward moment, as it will break naturally because you both are moving in opposite directions.

As for starting a conversation? If you are fretting about it this much, I dont recommend doing it. Youre going to be putting too much pressure on yourself, and will just end up blowing yourself out.
Though, this is counterproductive, because if you never start conversations with new girls, you will never evolve and move forward. So basically, what Doonagoowin said, just do something simple. Make small talk. Dont try and be too direct, but make it known that youre a man, and that as a man you find her attractive. So flirting is ok, but just small talk. Make this a sort of thing that evolves over time, where you just start off talking a tiny bit then parting ways, then stating to have better and better conversations.
But Im getting to far ahead and probably am not helping you out. Just small talk. Dont put too much pressure on yourself, this is NOT the girl you will marry, NOT the "one". Just a girl.

[Luis the awesomest of awesomes]

Apr 8, 2010 15:20:01 GMT -5 sleeky said:

First of all
Dont look away. You looking away shows you have low confidence, and is unattractive. Obviously dont stare at her looking like a deer in the headlights, but just keep relaxed eye contact. If this feels awkward, get used to it, because most guys do not do this, and it is a noticeable difference for girls when a guy does this. Just look her in the eye as you are passing her by in the hall, maybe even with a half smile, and it will break naturally when you pass her. No awkward moment, as it will break naturally because you both are moving in opposite directions.









As for starting a conversation? If you are fretting about it this much, I dont recommend doing it. Youre going to be putting too much pressure on yourself, and will just end up blowing yourself out.
Though, this is counterproductive, because if you never start conversations with new girls, you will never evolve and move forward. So basically, what Doonagoowin said, just do something simple. Make small talk. Dont try and be too direct, but make it known that youre a man, and that as a man you find her attractive. So flirting is ok, but just small talk. Make this a sort of thing that evolves over time, where you just start off talking a tiny bit then parting ways, then stating to have better and better conversations.
But Im getting to far ahead and probably am not helping you out. Just small talk. Dont put too much pressure on yourself, this is NOT the girl you will marry, NOT the "one". Just a girl.

I have to disagree (a bit =)) the eye contact really wont matter, neither will what you say. Let me ask you a question: Are you a pervert? How bout a rapist? Insane? If the answer is no then you're already one step ahead. congrats
FuCK THE RULES
although...
there are some rules to follow> they are usually preety obvious.
the key is to be confident, go up to her and say something in a confident/ firm(not loud) voice. also, read some shit about opening dude, these guys are the shit

[comedian]

i have actualy tried approching girls in the mall, which probably isnt the best place, but i did good i talked to about 3 girls each time i went and didnt stuter or embarase myself. I know i need more experience because i cant do it to any girl i want but i know i can do it because ive done it before. I just dont know what to say to start a convo in school. I guess i can go up and say hi but then what.
Tell me how this sounds. I meet her once before last semester, i just introduced myself. I assumed i would be able to get close to her because she hung out with a group of girls i am cool with. But that has not worked because she leaves so early. So was thinking about saying this:
(After seeing her and assuming shes not talking to anyone) Hey do remember me from 1st semester
She replies(yes/no/whatever)
Then I say just asking cause I have never talked to you ever since then
(she says something or doesnt)
Then i ask her how her 1st year has been, Yes this is perfect.
But tell me what you think

[Volt]

Dude don't talk about school unless you want to be remembered as boring or you have something funny to say about a teacher.

It sounds like you have a couple of options:
1. Just say hi. This is totally viable and could work, and although there's more pressure and risk, it will ultimately make you a better PUA

2. Talk to your mutual friend and ask about your target. Just say "hey, tell me about your friend I see her in the halls and she's kinda cute but I cant tell if she's totally weird or not" or something like that. What you say should be fit with your personality. If you're the kind of guy who would say "damn she fine lets go talk to her" do that.

I've read your other posts and I want to make sure that you know it's good that you're pushing your comfort zone and trying to become better.

[Sloth]

I have to disagree (a bit =)) the eye contact really wont matter, neither will what you say. Let me ask you a question: Are you a pervert? How bout a rapist? Insane? If the answer is no then you're already one step ahead. congrats
FuCK THE RULES
although...
there are some rules to follow> they are usually preety obvious.
the key is to be confident, go up to her and say something in a confident/ firm(not loud) voice. also, read some shit about opening dude, these guys are the shit
[/quote]

If he's gonna go up to her all confident then eye contact is a necessity, how can you talk to someone without looking at them, makes you seem like a total loser.

Eye contact is a funny thing cause it can leave you feeling real awkward, but don't let this awkwardness overcome you, remember - nobody is judging you just chill out, practice what you can say to her beforehand, just have some ideas planned out, and then do it.
And if you feel the conversation going sour and boring then you can break the pattern! Negg her about it 'You're kinda boring me '

I heard this one great line where this pua just stopped in a boring convo and went 'LOOK. ARE YOU GONNA BE MY GIRLFRIEND OR NOT?' now this won't always work, but if she's playful it creates a roleplay... role plays with girls make conversation easier to start

Example of a role play : pretending you're her bodyguard

Don't do what 90% of people do and slip into easy conversation, about like.. school as someone said above ^, honestly, if you're in a convo with someone and they bring school up all the time you learn that they're boring, and you ditch them.

Good luck x

Sloth

[comedian]

damn it, what ever il just approach an see what happens. I am gonna say what ever feels right. whether about school or just saying hi. Even though i hate when people do that because it kinda says "I like you but i dont know what to say to start a conversation with you so im doing this" this has happened to me before with a couple girls.
And im a funny guy and i bring up school a lot, but thats just to break the ice or start up the conversation and then i might start talking about a teacher or something. Listen guys i just wanna start a convo with her, that way from then on if i see her it will be easier to talk to her. I am not gonna keep asking how her school life is going and hows she doing in class. I never even said i was gonna talk about that i was gonna ask her what she thought about the people. But i hope someone wouldnt judge how a person is by if they talk about school, thats pretty shallow.

[johnsmith23687]

It is very simple way and thing to express your love toward her because if you love her most then she has to understand you.So,you have to be confident and express your love with a fresh mind and with a loyalty.You never try to flirt with her don't over reacted.Just put your love in front of her try to express it.