Post by sleeky on Apr 8, 2010 19:03:24 GMT -5
This is a LONG fucking post intended for intelligent people. It doesnt contain pickup lines, it wont get you the cheerleader you masturbate to every night. But it will change the way you think about pickup(I hope), which will in turn help you with these things.
Please if you read it, read it all. Let me know what you think
I wrote this one day when I was bored and had these things on my mind. Enjoy.
Man thinks logically. Woman thinks emotionally. The truth is women are not that difficult to figure out. The main thing that separates men from women is the way that we think. Men tend to be a lot more logical and upfront, while women tend to be more emotional and communicative/elusive.
Its as simple as that. You may be going, “how the fuck does that help me”, well, I will explain.
Have you ever gotten into a fight with a girl? Be it your girlfriend, your mom, your friend, have you tried to convince her youre right? You laid out the facts, explained the theories, its so obvious! How does she not understand? Why is she still yelling?
Read the start of this post again. Most women, do not respond well to logic. It just doesn’t work. Sure, in some cases, you explain your point of view, she gets it, boom its over. But in other cases, this just doesn’t happen! This is because women crave emotion. Has a girl ever come up to you, with a problem, and after you thinking about it, giving her a logical way to solve it, her becoming frustrated and saying “You don’t get it”? Read the start of this post. They want to talk about the experience that the problem is creating, the feelings connected to it, most of the time, they have ALREADY FIGURED OUT THE SOLUTION. They just want to unwind, have someone to talk to, and to express their feelings. You giving them a logical reason right away just ruins this, and they get frustrated.
How many scientists, presidents, revolution leaders, inventors, do you know of or have heard of that are male? Now how many female? Ill bet my left nut that the numbers cant even be stood up for comparison. Women crave feelings. This is the reason why you see women sticking with jerks, who treat them like dirt, instead of going out with you, the nice guy. Women crave emotion. They would rather experience any kind of emotion, rather than none. This topic is too big for me to write about right now, as I want to touch on something else, so read on!
THE BIGGEST problem I see guys having is because of something society has taught us. This something, is called “equality”. This is bullshit. Hey don’t get me wrong, Im all for women having rights, being able to vote, having all that good stuff, but man is not equal to woman. Not in any way.
Because of this, men think that women are attracted to us for our physical apperance mainly, which is how we are attracted to women in the first few seconds, right? A girl walks by, you check her out, look over at your buddy, and smile knowingly “What a fine ass!”. Right away, you are attracted.
For MOST(I say most, because there are always exceptions) women, this is not the case. When you walk by, girls don’t tilt their head and go “Woo, what a firm butt. Id SO hit that”. It goes much deeper than that. Your attractiveness is based on how you carry yourself, how you walk, how you stand, how you hold your head, how relaxed you look, the type of eye contact you make, the way your voice sounds. Sure, you wont get laid looking like a hobo, but as long as you look clean cut, well groomed, and don’t smell like a sewer you will be fine.
I’ve listed many different things, and those are just the little things. It gets much more complicated than that. But don’t get attached to the little details, or else making yourself look attractive would be way too hard and take too long. It all comes naturally, after you have a change in mindset and beliefs. These changes should come in the way of epiphanies. So I present to you…
Epiphany #1: Women are on the same level as you
Females are not higher value than you. Good looking females are not higher value than you. NOBODY IS HIGHER VALUE THAN YOU. Youre the coolest motherfucker on the planet!
But really, why should you treat an incredibly attractive girl different from a fat girl? You shouldn’t(except maybe youd be flirting and being direct with the attractive one, while not so much with Ugly Betty over there). For some reason a lot of guys have this mindset that attractive women are higher value than you. This is why guys are scared to approach the hottest girl in the club, while if I asked them to approach a 4/10 they would do it no problem. WHY? WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN? Because of the false thinking that you have lower value. Get to know some hot girls. Some of them have so many insecurities! They constantly worry about looking good, how big their ass looks in their jeans, what Mike from a week ago is saying about her, what her friend Jamie did behind her back, etc etc ETC. Many many insecurities.
In reality, they should be even easier to seduce, and they are, once you get past their bitch shield aka false confidence that they get from rejecting the hundreds of chodes that try and open them(congrats to them though, for at least trying). But anyways, that’s another subject…
Epiphany #2: Youre cool. Youre interesting
Every human being, who is alive today, has dominant Alpha male genes. This is because millions of years ago, the Alpha males overtook the Beta males, raped their women, killed the Betas, and became the dominant genes.
Well, that may not be exactly accurate, but something like that happened. So anyways, what Im trying to get at is that humans evolve, and they evolve for the better. It is programmed instinctively into women that they must find the best genes in their partner, so that their baby has a better chance of surviving, and having grandkids. Sure, maybe your girlfriend right now isn’t looking to get pregnant, but she picked you because she thinks youre the best. Well, its not the only reason, but it’s a part.
So basically, your ancestors have been the best men that their wives found. Think about it. If your genes were wimpy, you wouldn’t be alive today. Youre alive, because your dad, you dads dad, your dads dads dad, you get the picture, got with a woman. Sure, it’s a possibility they didn’t know what the hell they were doing, but hey, they got laid, got married, had children.
Whats stopping you from getting laid? Nothing. Everything you need in order to survive, to replicate, is embedded in you. I love the sentence “Just be yourself”, except I think it doesn’t work out. You should be thinking “Be your best self”.
Epiphany #3: Women have their own(multiple) problems
This relates to #1. I found this great post which was made by a guy on another forum, here is the link and I will quote it in here as well.
www.theattractionforums.com/discussion/81182-do-girls-really-have-easy-long-post.html
I know, I know, super fucking long. Well, suck it up princess, and read! It will change your life, I promise.
Anyways, this has just been on my mind, wanted to ramble. Maybe I will improve on this later, maybe not.
Let me know what you think, where Im wrong, where Im right. Id love to discuss this!
Please if you read it, read it all. Let me know what you think
I wrote this one day when I was bored and had these things on my mind. Enjoy.
Man thinks logically. Woman thinks emotionally. The truth is women are not that difficult to figure out. The main thing that separates men from women is the way that we think. Men tend to be a lot more logical and upfront, while women tend to be more emotional and communicative/elusive.
Its as simple as that. You may be going, “how the fuck does that help me”, well, I will explain.
Have you ever gotten into a fight with a girl? Be it your girlfriend, your mom, your friend, have you tried to convince her youre right? You laid out the facts, explained the theories, its so obvious! How does she not understand? Why is she still yelling?
Read the start of this post again. Most women, do not respond well to logic. It just doesn’t work. Sure, in some cases, you explain your point of view, she gets it, boom its over. But in other cases, this just doesn’t happen! This is because women crave emotion. Has a girl ever come up to you, with a problem, and after you thinking about it, giving her a logical way to solve it, her becoming frustrated and saying “You don’t get it”? Read the start of this post. They want to talk about the experience that the problem is creating, the feelings connected to it, most of the time, they have ALREADY FIGURED OUT THE SOLUTION. They just want to unwind, have someone to talk to, and to express their feelings. You giving them a logical reason right away just ruins this, and they get frustrated.
How many scientists, presidents, revolution leaders, inventors, do you know of or have heard of that are male? Now how many female? Ill bet my left nut that the numbers cant even be stood up for comparison. Women crave feelings. This is the reason why you see women sticking with jerks, who treat them like dirt, instead of going out with you, the nice guy. Women crave emotion. They would rather experience any kind of emotion, rather than none. This topic is too big for me to write about right now, as I want to touch on something else, so read on!
THE BIGGEST problem I see guys having is because of something society has taught us. This something, is called “equality”. This is bullshit. Hey don’t get me wrong, Im all for women having rights, being able to vote, having all that good stuff, but man is not equal to woman. Not in any way.
Because of this, men think that women are attracted to us for our physical apperance mainly, which is how we are attracted to women in the first few seconds, right? A girl walks by, you check her out, look over at your buddy, and smile knowingly “What a fine ass!”. Right away, you are attracted.
For MOST(I say most, because there are always exceptions) women, this is not the case. When you walk by, girls don’t tilt their head and go “Woo, what a firm butt. Id SO hit that”. It goes much deeper than that. Your attractiveness is based on how you carry yourself, how you walk, how you stand, how you hold your head, how relaxed you look, the type of eye contact you make, the way your voice sounds. Sure, you wont get laid looking like a hobo, but as long as you look clean cut, well groomed, and don’t smell like a sewer you will be fine.
I’ve listed many different things, and those are just the little things. It gets much more complicated than that. But don’t get attached to the little details, or else making yourself look attractive would be way too hard and take too long. It all comes naturally, after you have a change in mindset and beliefs. These changes should come in the way of epiphanies. So I present to you…
Epiphany #1: Women are on the same level as you
Females are not higher value than you. Good looking females are not higher value than you. NOBODY IS HIGHER VALUE THAN YOU. Youre the coolest motherfucker on the planet!
But really, why should you treat an incredibly attractive girl different from a fat girl? You shouldn’t(except maybe youd be flirting and being direct with the attractive one, while not so much with Ugly Betty over there). For some reason a lot of guys have this mindset that attractive women are higher value than you. This is why guys are scared to approach the hottest girl in the club, while if I asked them to approach a 4/10 they would do it no problem. WHY? WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN? Because of the false thinking that you have lower value. Get to know some hot girls. Some of them have so many insecurities! They constantly worry about looking good, how big their ass looks in their jeans, what Mike from a week ago is saying about her, what her friend Jamie did behind her back, etc etc ETC. Many many insecurities.
In reality, they should be even easier to seduce, and they are, once you get past their bitch shield aka false confidence that they get from rejecting the hundreds of chodes that try and open them(congrats to them though, for at least trying). But anyways, that’s another subject…
Epiphany #2: Youre cool. Youre interesting
Every human being, who is alive today, has dominant Alpha male genes. This is because millions of years ago, the Alpha males overtook the Beta males, raped their women, killed the Betas, and became the dominant genes.
Well, that may not be exactly accurate, but something like that happened. So anyways, what Im trying to get at is that humans evolve, and they evolve for the better. It is programmed instinctively into women that they must find the best genes in their partner, so that their baby has a better chance of surviving, and having grandkids. Sure, maybe your girlfriend right now isn’t looking to get pregnant, but she picked you because she thinks youre the best. Well, its not the only reason, but it’s a part.
So basically, your ancestors have been the best men that their wives found. Think about it. If your genes were wimpy, you wouldn’t be alive today. Youre alive, because your dad, you dads dad, your dads dads dad, you get the picture, got with a woman. Sure, it’s a possibility they didn’t know what the hell they were doing, but hey, they got laid, got married, had children.
Whats stopping you from getting laid? Nothing. Everything you need in order to survive, to replicate, is embedded in you. I love the sentence “Just be yourself”, except I think it doesn’t work out. You should be thinking “Be your best self”.
Epiphany #3: Women have their own(multiple) problems
This relates to #1. I found this great post which was made by a guy on another forum, here is the link and I will quote it in here as well.
www.theattractionforums.com/discussion/81182-do-girls-really-have-easy-long-post.html
I know, I know, super fucking long. Well, suck it up princess, and read! It will change your life, I promise.
Do girls really have it easy? I always thought they do, especially the hot ones, but then I learned otherwise. Let’s begin.
If I can have it, I don’t want it…
First, we don’t really treasure what we get with ease. That’s pretty much typical trending in any society. [HEALTHY] Rich people don’t care much for more money, beautiful people are sick of compliments; geniuses often neglect or downplay their talents/achievements; and so on. This typically leads to a lesser desire to obtain more of what they already have.
For example:
I LOVE chicken Caesar salad. But, If I can have a FREE Chicken Caesar salad for lunch every day, probably within a week, I would ‘tolerate it’ and in month or so, you would see me buying a cheeseburger at McDonalds, instead. Why would I go spending money if I can get a FREE salad? Because, I am fed up with it!!! That’s why.
So when a hot girl gets whatever she wants, EVERYDAY, ALL THE TIME, EVERY MINUTE, guess what happens? She becomes fed up with it.
Have you ever talked to Rockstars that get laid and have groupies following them during their tours? Do you really think they CARE THAT MUCH about sex? Not at all. So do you really think those girls care that much for these guys following them like puppy dogs?
What’s the challenge?
She can have most of these supplicating chodes if she wants; but what’s the challenge? Women are animals of challenge and adventure, emotional high, chasing the wild alpha male, not settling in stagnant relationship with a supplicating dork.
Likewise,
You and I can go out to places like CollarMe.com or PlentyOfFish.com and find ourselves a toothless fatty in her 40s and have sex with her literally without any effort. Try it. Email a fat unattractive lady and ask her what she likes to do for fun. Then ask her what the most sexual thing she has done is? Then tell her you are interested in meeting up with her. See how readily she’ll respond.
So these geeky dorky guys to those hot women are equivalent of toothless fatties from Plenty of Fish to players like us. None the less,
Tick-Tock, Tick-Tock…
You hear that? I do. It’s a short-lived span of their youthful beauty and childbearing. As we, guys, grow older, our value only increase, while women’s value? Yup! Down the drain:
Compare:
Boob job? $4,000
Dating Bootcamp with Fader? $2,000
Picking up girls in their 20s while you’re 30+? Priceless.
Woman has VERY short lived cycle. We have Viagra, they don’t. I can still fuck at age of 80, her having children past age of 50? VERY UNLIKELY! The pressure is on her, and it’s growing fast. While my value is going up, her value is going down. The double edge sword: with my higher value in my 30s I can easily swoop girls in their 20s, 30s, and even 40s. The other side of the coin? Younger guys get to fuck the towel while I fuck their one-itisis. Lol So if you’re 18…you’re just starting; by the age of 24-25 you’ll reach your masculinity level and you’ll understand what I am talking about.
Natural Boys and Hot Girls
Not every girl is hot. Actually, according to Bell Curve (natural distribution): you will have 10-20% of Ugly fat nasty vomit inducing women, then you have 60-80% of AVERAGE looking girls ranging form Mopeds (fun to ride until your friends see you on them) to NOT-embarrassing to-be-seen-with girls. And finally you have top 10-20% of exclusively attractive women.
The bottom lowest will fuck just about anything, the middle ones are fair game, and top-10% will only fuck VERY high value guys. C'est la vie! Get over it.
So for rest of the girls out there, it’s cut-throat competition. They struggle to find a boyfriend, they can’t keep a man for the life of god, and god forbid, a much prettier girl (form higher ranks) steals her MAN. So many things to worry about:
-Do I look fat?
-Is she skinnier than me?
-Am I sexy?
-Are my boobs big enough?
-Will my friends call me a slut if I sleep wit him?
-That dumb bitch, stole my boyfriend!
-I can’t orgasm!
-I can’t give head!
-Is he satisfied with me in bed?
-What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I get a normal guy?
-What do I really want from a man?
-OH GOD all these emotions I am so confused!!!
So what’s the guy’s side? Not every guy is born natural. About the same distribution pattern: 10 - 20% of dudes will never get laid more than by 1 or 2 girls. Sorry boys. Such is life. 60-80% will get laid, ranging from getting lucky to getting her drunk, and top 10-20% of man will sleep with one woman after another. (those ranks, just like in women’s distribution do overlap)
So just like women, who can lose weight, get plastic surgery, boob job, etc, guys can to, learn how to be desirable man, and move from average part to top 10% category. It’s all possible.
The daily struggle of average woman is a lot more complicated than the daily struggle of average man or maybe the same?:
-Am I good looking?
-Am I a skilled lover?
-Does this guy look bigger than me?
-Is my dick big enough?
-Will my friends cockblock me or will I get laid tonight?
-Stupid fucking AMOGs, took my set again!
-I can’t make woman orgasm.
-I am horrible at eating pussy.
-What am I doing in bed?
-What’s wrong with me, why no girl likes me?
-What kind of woman do I want?
-Do I want marriage, girlfriend, or just play the field?
As you can tell, a lot of men’s problems are much easily solved than ones women have.
Average Girl for Average Guy
Without putting any effort into becoming top 10% you are going to be stuck with average results. You will date HB6s and HB7s and sometimes get lucky with HB8. If you’re bottom 10% (WBAFC, virgins, seriously emotionally troubled men, etc)
For girl,
Without putting any effort into becoming top 10% they will be stuck dating average man with average skills and average survival and replication value. NOT ALPHA MALES.
So BETA man for BETA woman.
So in order to get into top percentage of exceptionally attractive people:
What can guy do? (if a girl could have ANY man she wants, she would want man with these skills as a minimum, and I am actually ball-parking this, and probably missing many)
Get in healthy shape, become interesting, travel and learn, get a decent job, learn how to dress, learn how to flirt, handle insecurities, learn how to be skillful lover, etc.
What can girl do? (if a man could have ANY woman, he would want those as a minimum, again, different man want different things)
Get in healthy shape and stay in healthy shape (i.e. NOT FAT). Get a plastic surgery (alpha man don’t settle for average girl next door). Get boobs. Lift, remove, and misplace excess skin. Go tanning. Constantly look significantly better than 90% of girls out there. Learn how to flirt, handle insecurities (much bigger list than guys’), learn how to be good in bed, learn how to cook and take care of a man. Be smart and have ability to carry a conversation. Attempt not come off as a slut, but not lose a man due to sexual disinterest (remember, he can go pick someone else to fuck). Tolerate his behavior.
Men Have More Control
You can approach 20 girls a night; you can approach 50 girls a night. Each approach your options are growing. It’s in your control.
She might be approached by 1 guy; she might be approached by 5 guys. She doesn’t really have any choice of guys that approach her. All she can do is make herself presentable, sexy, and out compete other women in the room.
Oh and while doing that, she cannot look slutty. Not a bid. It’s essentially like having garage sale. You ‘market’ your product, hoping that you’ll have customers. Then customers come over, offer you price and you decide whether you want to sell for that price. Customer always have a choice to go to another garage sale, find a cheaper price, get better value for the same money, or not spend money all together and spend it somewhere else. Business has competition, customer has choices. Woman is business, man is customer. Not all customers can afford high priced items (i.e. Ferrari, a big house, private Island, or Yacht)
John wants sex Jane wants marriage
Guys like sex. Social conditioning convinced us it’s bad and we all should be looking for “the one”. Bullshit. When it really comes down to, the reason guy stay with their girlfriends because they are too afraid they will never find something better or something AT ALL.
You can give me this bullshit that “oh well I really love her” and you may love her, but if you weren’t getting sex, you can tolerate this for a year, maybe two years, but eventually your biological drive will kick in and you toss that frigid bitch to the curb.
While we have high tolerance for not ‘getting any’ woman have much lower tolerance for loneliness. If a dude goes sex-free for couple months to a year, he hit a dry spell; if a woman goes boyfriend free for more than two month, there is something wrong with her. (or so she thinks).
We’re less miserable not having sex, while women can be nearly suicidal because of not having boyfriend.
When men say, well, I really want a girlfriend to, they really want someone to deposit their semen into, but covering that shit up with “girlfriend” crap.
So guys that get girls easily don’t have that problem. “Girlfriend? What girlfriend? Oh fuck that girl, I am seeing Nicole now and Ashley. They are bi-sexual strippers. Yeah bro!”
Ironically, those guys are the ones that women want. (See first clause, If I can have it I don’t want it).
So in order for woman to keep this kind of guy, she has to come off as better than EVERY SINGLE girl that comes his way. Imagine that!? While there are plenty of good looking women born everyday (rhetorically speaking) there is always shortage of good quality of man. And while man’s perception of attractive woman is relative to him, woman’s perception of alpha man is universal. James Dean is universally desired guy, while Angelina Jolie will not be for long. I know more guys who don’t want to fuck Paris Hilton (pure looks based) than girls who don’t want to fuck Brad Pitt.
Unlike guys, women tend to be more loyal to one mate (biological reasons), so if you are dating an HB10 and you’re high value guy, there aren’t many guys that can steal her away from you. Yeah, she might go sleep around a little, once or twice, but in the end she will be yours. You don’t have a lot of competition to worry about, if she’s REALLY into you. Her emotional attachment and involvement in relationship is sacred to her.
Biologically women are designed to protect the family. If you ever wonder why so many husbands cheat on their wives but wives stay with them? This is why! Imagine how difficult it must be for a woman to accept that she’s NOT the only one? But if she abandons the man, she will feel vulnerable, weak, unprotected (biological reason), and financially instable (logical reason).
Back to topic. What is harder?
a)For a man to get laid by an attractive female or,
b) For a woman keep an alpha male all to her self?
What do you think?
Men and women value different things when it comes to sex. Man pride themselves in scoring with a hottie, that’s why it seems so difficult for us to do…. While,
Woman on other hand pride themselves in scoring a good husband. A woman is highly regarded if she can keep a man loyal to her.
This is why we call easy girls “Sluts” and married man “Pussy whipped”.
Both have negative connotation.
Fucking a prostitute is not really as fun as fucking a girl you had to “court” to get in bed with.
Dating a dorky wimpy ass-kissing suck-up is nearly not as fun and exciting, as finally capturing the heart of elusive free spirited man.
Real Survival and Replication
It’s hard wired in woman’s head that men is absolute necessity for survival.
It is hardwired in our head that women are absolutely necessary for procreation.
At the end, we are VERY selective with who we protect and they are VERY selective with who they procreate with.
Do you want to date an ugly toothless fat bitch? I don’t.
No, and she doesn’t want to date wimpy pussy-whipped desperate excuse for a man.
But ..but ..but …but … I cant even get a date?!?!?
You are on this forum. You are seeking advice. Congratulation you’re bottom 10-20% of man!
Yep. The reality sinks in. You’re here because you’re either AVERAGE GUY or bottom percentile of men.
I don’t see naturals here, well, they don’t care. Why should they be here?! They already know how to get with girls; the ones that don’t are here. You need to get to above average and then you can see the game for it really is: a true liberation.
A day in life….
So let’s turn the tables: A day in life of lesser attractive girl:
\you’re girl:
You’re 5’4’’, you’re 190lbs,
You wear John’y Deer tee-shirt and Walmart jeans. You have no clue how to wear lipsticks and your mom never taught you how to put make up on. You kissed a guy at a party, while both were hammered about 5 years ago on your 14th birthday, when you were 60 pounds lighter. You can’t seem to figure out why boys don’t like you. You’re angry that all boys always go for your pretty friend Britney. You have yellow teeth and your chest size is B cup.
So you show up in the bar…and there are lots of cute guys. Damn! Maybe, maybe, maybe, today you can meet someone special; maybe you two will even umm start dating!! YAY! That would be so great!
You linger around the bar, and you notice some cute boys standing by pool tables. You navigate your fat ass over and ghostly walk nearby. Hmm, nobody is noticing you …. You strut your stuff and apply some lipstick… you also suck your stomach in; again nobody notices.
You head towards the bathroom and “accidentally” brush your small chest against a cute boy on the way. …nope. Nothing.
In the bathroom you pee, and listen to two girls talking about their boyfriends. “fucking sluts” you think to yourself, and head towards the mirror. You re-apply your cheap makeup and ponder at your reflection. Then you say “FUCKIT! I’ll just get drunk with my girlfriends. Girls just wanna have fun!”
You head back to your group, only to find two of your cuter friends, Nicole and Ashley, are being engaged by two marine dudes. You budge your way in “Hi, I am Ingrid!” …. They look over you and call over their drunken buddy Billy. “hey Billy, meet Ingrid, I think she likes you dude!” ..you quickly size up Billy: Billy is overweight, smells like booze and sweat. He’s dorky looking with messed up hair and bad breath. So while Billy is buying you drink after drink and you stare at hot marines from the corner of your eye, and a sad, sad salty tear runs down your check.
You look how easily boys flirt with your girl friends. You secretly envy them and think to yourself “guys have it soo much easier!”
……………….meanwhile:
You’re a guy (aspiring pua):
You’re 5’11’’, you are proud of your beer drinking abilities, and your little gut-keg speaks for itself
Your greasy t-shirt and nasty jeans covered in last night’s beer
You don’t know how to talk to ‘ladies’ but you’ve been reading some PUA stuff over at TAF. You think you got some sweet ass routines up your sleeves. So you are meeting up with some of your buddies at the local bar. You haven’t had sex in past 2 years and today might be your lucky day. You listen to some David DeAngelo on your way to the bar and practice your cocky and funny comebacks.
You notice a 3 set across the bar, and you check yourself to make sure you remember your openers, routines and DHV stories. Having your buddies taunting you to approach, you get enough courage and head over there; First set of the night starts something like “Hey guys, can I get a female opinion…” they don’t even let you finish, they cut you off and tell you they have boyfriends. You shake it off and immediately open a 2- set next to you. Unfortunately, AMOG boyfriend comes over and blows you out of the set. Fucking damnit!
You head to the bathroom walking near a three set of HB10s and throw them your signature neg “you girls are not that cute anyways”.
In the bathroom you stand in line for 10 minutes, hearing guys talk about fucking this broad and giving that slut up the ass. You chime in with “yeah bro…fuck those hoes man, girls here are skanks!”
While pissing you sneak peak at other man’s junk, wondering if he’s bigger than you. “He must be bigger than me if he’s fucking all these hot bitches!” Well he’s not, but you look in the mirror. You put your ‘alpha’ face on, pick your nose for two minutes, then blurb to yourself “Fuckit, I am just going to have a night with my boys. Fuck bitches, fuck them. There are no good targets here anyways”
You come out of the bathroom to find your buddies engaged in a three set. Except two of your natural buddies are talking to two hottest girls, and the one left is kinda ugly. “Hey Billy….. “ you hear your buddies yell your name.
….you look over a 3 set of HB10, by the bathroom, and while noticing random guys buying them drinks you say “Damn girls have it soo much easier than guys!”
.I am going to let you think about that.
So who really have it easier?
Average girls going for high caliber guys get blown out just as easily as average guys get blown out by hot girls.
Don’t be average. Isn’t it what Mystery was preaching from very beginning, before even “The Game “came out?
What’s your leverage?
What do women want? A relationship with healthy alpha male.
What do men want? As much sex as possible [with multiple women].
A little bit simplified but biologically women seek protection from alpha man, and men seek to spread their semen to all most attractive females.
Leverage that.
Don’t run around desperately trying to get a girlfriend. Don’t give up your power as a man. Your protection comes at price. Her sex.
In real relationship, healthy one, it’s never like this “you fuck me, I’ll protect you” it’s mostly subconsciously communicated already. When girl says “I am with Michael, because he treats me well” she really means: I feel safe and protected with him. He’s my leader and he’s best I can do.
When guy says “I really love Julie, she’s absolutely gorgeous and she is nice” what he really means is: goddamn, she’s hot, she has personality and she’s best I can do.
Why “Best I can do?” Because, our best is only perception, but this is better left for a different thread.
For a woman getting laid isn’t really that difficult. However getting a man to stick around longer is much harder. This is why women withhold sex because they don’t want to come off easy and they want to put price on that sex. They want man to invest in them (emotionally) and start relationship and then they can ‘give up’ sex.
For a man getting into relationship with sexual partner is not hard. However, getting a woman to start a sexual relationship is much harder. It’s a lot easier to date your fuck buddy, because she is already invested into you. This is why men (alpha men) do not commit to a woman. They want to get sex first (woman’s investment) and then, and only then, if they choose to, they will reward her with relationship and loyalty.
So what’s hard for us, is easy for them, what’s hard for them is easy for us.
Once you understand your leverage, you will not see this as “women have it easier” but you will see this that each of sexes has their own challenges.
As far as your selection goes, remember, that top 20 percent of men fuck 80 of women and bottom 20 percent of women fuck 80 of man.
That being said, you need to grow your value to be the TOP 20 percent of men that get to fuck 80 percent of woman, and not the 80 percent of men that take up scraps (bottom 20 percent of woman) thatalpha top 20 percent did NOT want.
Women do not have it easier. Woman face different challenges.
If I can have it, I don’t want it…
First, we don’t really treasure what we get with ease. That’s pretty much typical trending in any society. [HEALTHY] Rich people don’t care much for more money, beautiful people are sick of compliments; geniuses often neglect or downplay their talents/achievements; and so on. This typically leads to a lesser desire to obtain more of what they already have.
For example:
I LOVE chicken Caesar salad. But, If I can have a FREE Chicken Caesar salad for lunch every day, probably within a week, I would ‘tolerate it’ and in month or so, you would see me buying a cheeseburger at McDonalds, instead. Why would I go spending money if I can get a FREE salad? Because, I am fed up with it!!! That’s why.
So when a hot girl gets whatever she wants, EVERYDAY, ALL THE TIME, EVERY MINUTE, guess what happens? She becomes fed up with it.
Have you ever talked to Rockstars that get laid and have groupies following them during their tours? Do you really think they CARE THAT MUCH about sex? Not at all. So do you really think those girls care that much for these guys following them like puppy dogs?
What’s the challenge?
She can have most of these supplicating chodes if she wants; but what’s the challenge? Women are animals of challenge and adventure, emotional high, chasing the wild alpha male, not settling in stagnant relationship with a supplicating dork.
Likewise,
You and I can go out to places like CollarMe.com or PlentyOfFish.com and find ourselves a toothless fatty in her 40s and have sex with her literally without any effort. Try it. Email a fat unattractive lady and ask her what she likes to do for fun. Then ask her what the most sexual thing she has done is? Then tell her you are interested in meeting up with her. See how readily she’ll respond.
So these geeky dorky guys to those hot women are equivalent of toothless fatties from Plenty of Fish to players like us. None the less,
Tick-Tock, Tick-Tock…
You hear that? I do. It’s a short-lived span of their youthful beauty and childbearing. As we, guys, grow older, our value only increase, while women’s value? Yup! Down the drain:
Compare:
Boob job? $4,000
Dating Bootcamp with Fader? $2,000
Picking up girls in their 20s while you’re 30+? Priceless.
Woman has VERY short lived cycle. We have Viagra, they don’t. I can still fuck at age of 80, her having children past age of 50? VERY UNLIKELY! The pressure is on her, and it’s growing fast. While my value is going up, her value is going down. The double edge sword: with my higher value in my 30s I can easily swoop girls in their 20s, 30s, and even 40s. The other side of the coin? Younger guys get to fuck the towel while I fuck their one-itisis. Lol So if you’re 18…you’re just starting; by the age of 24-25 you’ll reach your masculinity level and you’ll understand what I am talking about.
Natural Boys and Hot Girls
Not every girl is hot. Actually, according to Bell Curve (natural distribution): you will have 10-20% of Ugly fat nasty vomit inducing women, then you have 60-80% of AVERAGE looking girls ranging form Mopeds (fun to ride until your friends see you on them) to NOT-embarrassing to-be-seen-with girls. And finally you have top 10-20% of exclusively attractive women.
The bottom lowest will fuck just about anything, the middle ones are fair game, and top-10% will only fuck VERY high value guys. C'est la vie! Get over it.
So for rest of the girls out there, it’s cut-throat competition. They struggle to find a boyfriend, they can’t keep a man for the life of god, and god forbid, a much prettier girl (form higher ranks) steals her MAN. So many things to worry about:
-Do I look fat?
-Is she skinnier than me?
-Am I sexy?
-Are my boobs big enough?
-Will my friends call me a slut if I sleep wit him?
-That dumb bitch, stole my boyfriend!
-I can’t orgasm!
-I can’t give head!
-Is he satisfied with me in bed?
-What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I get a normal guy?
-What do I really want from a man?
-OH GOD all these emotions I am so confused!!!
So what’s the guy’s side? Not every guy is born natural. About the same distribution pattern: 10 - 20% of dudes will never get laid more than by 1 or 2 girls. Sorry boys. Such is life. 60-80% will get laid, ranging from getting lucky to getting her drunk, and top 10-20% of man will sleep with one woman after another. (those ranks, just like in women’s distribution do overlap)
So just like women, who can lose weight, get plastic surgery, boob job, etc, guys can to, learn how to be desirable man, and move from average part to top 10% category. It’s all possible.
The daily struggle of average woman is a lot more complicated than the daily struggle of average man or maybe the same?:
-Am I good looking?
-Am I a skilled lover?
-Does this guy look bigger than me?
-Is my dick big enough?
-Will my friends cockblock me or will I get laid tonight?
-Stupid fucking AMOGs, took my set again!
-I can’t make woman orgasm.
-I am horrible at eating pussy.
-What am I doing in bed?
-What’s wrong with me, why no girl likes me?
-What kind of woman do I want?
-Do I want marriage, girlfriend, or just play the field?
As you can tell, a lot of men’s problems are much easily solved than ones women have.
Average Girl for Average Guy
Without putting any effort into becoming top 10% you are going to be stuck with average results. You will date HB6s and HB7s and sometimes get lucky with HB8. If you’re bottom 10% (WBAFC, virgins, seriously emotionally troubled men, etc)
For girl,
Without putting any effort into becoming top 10% they will be stuck dating average man with average skills and average survival and replication value. NOT ALPHA MALES.
So BETA man for BETA woman.
So in order to get into top percentage of exceptionally attractive people:
What can guy do? (if a girl could have ANY man she wants, she would want man with these skills as a minimum, and I am actually ball-parking this, and probably missing many)
Get in healthy shape, become interesting, travel and learn, get a decent job, learn how to dress, learn how to flirt, handle insecurities, learn how to be skillful lover, etc.
What can girl do? (if a man could have ANY woman, he would want those as a minimum, again, different man want different things)
Get in healthy shape and stay in healthy shape (i.e. NOT FAT). Get a plastic surgery (alpha man don’t settle for average girl next door). Get boobs. Lift, remove, and misplace excess skin. Go tanning. Constantly look significantly better than 90% of girls out there. Learn how to flirt, handle insecurities (much bigger list than guys’), learn how to be good in bed, learn how to cook and take care of a man. Be smart and have ability to carry a conversation. Attempt not come off as a slut, but not lose a man due to sexual disinterest (remember, he can go pick someone else to fuck). Tolerate his behavior.
Men Have More Control
You can approach 20 girls a night; you can approach 50 girls a night. Each approach your options are growing. It’s in your control.
She might be approached by 1 guy; she might be approached by 5 guys. She doesn’t really have any choice of guys that approach her. All she can do is make herself presentable, sexy, and out compete other women in the room.
Oh and while doing that, she cannot look slutty. Not a bid. It’s essentially like having garage sale. You ‘market’ your product, hoping that you’ll have customers. Then customers come over, offer you price and you decide whether you want to sell for that price. Customer always have a choice to go to another garage sale, find a cheaper price, get better value for the same money, or not spend money all together and spend it somewhere else. Business has competition, customer has choices. Woman is business, man is customer. Not all customers can afford high priced items (i.e. Ferrari, a big house, private Island, or Yacht)
John wants sex Jane wants marriage
Guys like sex. Social conditioning convinced us it’s bad and we all should be looking for “the one”. Bullshit. When it really comes down to, the reason guy stay with their girlfriends because they are too afraid they will never find something better or something AT ALL.
You can give me this bullshit that “oh well I really love her” and you may love her, but if you weren’t getting sex, you can tolerate this for a year, maybe two years, but eventually your biological drive will kick in and you toss that frigid bitch to the curb.
While we have high tolerance for not ‘getting any’ woman have much lower tolerance for loneliness. If a dude goes sex-free for couple months to a year, he hit a dry spell; if a woman goes boyfriend free for more than two month, there is something wrong with her. (or so she thinks).
We’re less miserable not having sex, while women can be nearly suicidal because of not having boyfriend.
When men say, well, I really want a girlfriend to, they really want someone to deposit their semen into, but covering that shit up with “girlfriend” crap.
So guys that get girls easily don’t have that problem. “Girlfriend? What girlfriend? Oh fuck that girl, I am seeing Nicole now and Ashley. They are bi-sexual strippers. Yeah bro!”
Ironically, those guys are the ones that women want. (See first clause, If I can have it I don’t want it).
So in order for woman to keep this kind of guy, she has to come off as better than EVERY SINGLE girl that comes his way. Imagine that!? While there are plenty of good looking women born everyday (rhetorically speaking) there is always shortage of good quality of man. And while man’s perception of attractive woman is relative to him, woman’s perception of alpha man is universal. James Dean is universally desired guy, while Angelina Jolie will not be for long. I know more guys who don’t want to fuck Paris Hilton (pure looks based) than girls who don’t want to fuck Brad Pitt.
Unlike guys, women tend to be more loyal to one mate (biological reasons), so if you are dating an HB10 and you’re high value guy, there aren’t many guys that can steal her away from you. Yeah, she might go sleep around a little, once or twice, but in the end she will be yours. You don’t have a lot of competition to worry about, if she’s REALLY into you. Her emotional attachment and involvement in relationship is sacred to her.
Biologically women are designed to protect the family. If you ever wonder why so many husbands cheat on their wives but wives stay with them? This is why! Imagine how difficult it must be for a woman to accept that she’s NOT the only one? But if she abandons the man, she will feel vulnerable, weak, unprotected (biological reason), and financially instable (logical reason).
Back to topic. What is harder?
a)For a man to get laid by an attractive female or,
b) For a woman keep an alpha male all to her self?
What do you think?
Men and women value different things when it comes to sex. Man pride themselves in scoring with a hottie, that’s why it seems so difficult for us to do…. While,
Woman on other hand pride themselves in scoring a good husband. A woman is highly regarded if she can keep a man loyal to her.
This is why we call easy girls “Sluts” and married man “Pussy whipped”.
Both have negative connotation.
Fucking a prostitute is not really as fun as fucking a girl you had to “court” to get in bed with.
Dating a dorky wimpy ass-kissing suck-up is nearly not as fun and exciting, as finally capturing the heart of elusive free spirited man.
Real Survival and Replication
It’s hard wired in woman’s head that men is absolute necessity for survival.
It is hardwired in our head that women are absolutely necessary for procreation.
At the end, we are VERY selective with who we protect and they are VERY selective with who they procreate with.
Do you want to date an ugly toothless fat bitch? I don’t.
No, and she doesn’t want to date wimpy pussy-whipped desperate excuse for a man.
But ..but ..but …but … I cant even get a date?!?!?
You are on this forum. You are seeking advice. Congratulation you’re bottom 10-20% of man!
Yep. The reality sinks in. You’re here because you’re either AVERAGE GUY or bottom percentile of men.
I don’t see naturals here, well, they don’t care. Why should they be here?! They already know how to get with girls; the ones that don’t are here. You need to get to above average and then you can see the game for it really is: a true liberation.
A day in life….
So let’s turn the tables: A day in life of lesser attractive girl:
\you’re girl:
You’re 5’4’’, you’re 190lbs,
You wear John’y Deer tee-shirt and Walmart jeans. You have no clue how to wear lipsticks and your mom never taught you how to put make up on. You kissed a guy at a party, while both were hammered about 5 years ago on your 14th birthday, when you were 60 pounds lighter. You can’t seem to figure out why boys don’t like you. You’re angry that all boys always go for your pretty friend Britney. You have yellow teeth and your chest size is B cup.
So you show up in the bar…and there are lots of cute guys. Damn! Maybe, maybe, maybe, today you can meet someone special; maybe you two will even umm start dating!! YAY! That would be so great!
You linger around the bar, and you notice some cute boys standing by pool tables. You navigate your fat ass over and ghostly walk nearby. Hmm, nobody is noticing you …. You strut your stuff and apply some lipstick… you also suck your stomach in; again nobody notices.
You head towards the bathroom and “accidentally” brush your small chest against a cute boy on the way. …nope. Nothing.
In the bathroom you pee, and listen to two girls talking about their boyfriends. “fucking sluts” you think to yourself, and head towards the mirror. You re-apply your cheap makeup and ponder at your reflection. Then you say “FUCKIT! I’ll just get drunk with my girlfriends. Girls just wanna have fun!”
You head back to your group, only to find two of your cuter friends, Nicole and Ashley, are being engaged by two marine dudes. You budge your way in “Hi, I am Ingrid!” …. They look over you and call over their drunken buddy Billy. “hey Billy, meet Ingrid, I think she likes you dude!” ..you quickly size up Billy: Billy is overweight, smells like booze and sweat. He’s dorky looking with messed up hair and bad breath. So while Billy is buying you drink after drink and you stare at hot marines from the corner of your eye, and a sad, sad salty tear runs down your check.
You look how easily boys flirt with your girl friends. You secretly envy them and think to yourself “guys have it soo much easier!”
……………….meanwhile:
You’re a guy (aspiring pua):
You’re 5’11’’, you are proud of your beer drinking abilities, and your little gut-keg speaks for itself
Your greasy t-shirt and nasty jeans covered in last night’s beer
You don’t know how to talk to ‘ladies’ but you’ve been reading some PUA stuff over at TAF. You think you got some sweet ass routines up your sleeves. So you are meeting up with some of your buddies at the local bar. You haven’t had sex in past 2 years and today might be your lucky day. You listen to some David DeAngelo on your way to the bar and practice your cocky and funny comebacks.
You notice a 3 set across the bar, and you check yourself to make sure you remember your openers, routines and DHV stories. Having your buddies taunting you to approach, you get enough courage and head over there; First set of the night starts something like “Hey guys, can I get a female opinion…” they don’t even let you finish, they cut you off and tell you they have boyfriends. You shake it off and immediately open a 2- set next to you. Unfortunately, AMOG boyfriend comes over and blows you out of the set. Fucking damnit!
You head to the bathroom walking near a three set of HB10s and throw them your signature neg “you girls are not that cute anyways”.
In the bathroom you stand in line for 10 minutes, hearing guys talk about fucking this broad and giving that slut up the ass. You chime in with “yeah bro…fuck those hoes man, girls here are skanks!”
While pissing you sneak peak at other man’s junk, wondering if he’s bigger than you. “He must be bigger than me if he’s fucking all these hot bitches!” Well he’s not, but you look in the mirror. You put your ‘alpha’ face on, pick your nose for two minutes, then blurb to yourself “Fuckit, I am just going to have a night with my boys. Fuck bitches, fuck them. There are no good targets here anyways”
You come out of the bathroom to find your buddies engaged in a three set. Except two of your natural buddies are talking to two hottest girls, and the one left is kinda ugly. “Hey Billy….. “ you hear your buddies yell your name.
….you look over a 3 set of HB10, by the bathroom, and while noticing random guys buying them drinks you say “Damn girls have it soo much easier than guys!”
.I am going to let you think about that.
So who really have it easier?
Average girls going for high caliber guys get blown out just as easily as average guys get blown out by hot girls.
Don’t be average. Isn’t it what Mystery was preaching from very beginning, before even “The Game “came out?
What’s your leverage?
What do women want? A relationship with healthy alpha male.
What do men want? As much sex as possible [with multiple women].
A little bit simplified but biologically women seek protection from alpha man, and men seek to spread their semen to all most attractive females.
Leverage that.
Don’t run around desperately trying to get a girlfriend. Don’t give up your power as a man. Your protection comes at price. Her sex.
In real relationship, healthy one, it’s never like this “you fuck me, I’ll protect you” it’s mostly subconsciously communicated already. When girl says “I am with Michael, because he treats me well” she really means: I feel safe and protected with him. He’s my leader and he’s best I can do.
When guy says “I really love Julie, she’s absolutely gorgeous and she is nice” what he really means is: goddamn, she’s hot, she has personality and she’s best I can do.
Why “Best I can do?” Because, our best is only perception, but this is better left for a different thread.
For a woman getting laid isn’t really that difficult. However getting a man to stick around longer is much harder. This is why women withhold sex because they don’t want to come off easy and they want to put price on that sex. They want man to invest in them (emotionally) and start relationship and then they can ‘give up’ sex.
For a man getting into relationship with sexual partner is not hard. However, getting a woman to start a sexual relationship is much harder. It’s a lot easier to date your fuck buddy, because she is already invested into you. This is why men (alpha men) do not commit to a woman. They want to get sex first (woman’s investment) and then, and only then, if they choose to, they will reward her with relationship and loyalty.
So what’s hard for us, is easy for them, what’s hard for them is easy for us.
Once you understand your leverage, you will not see this as “women have it easier” but you will see this that each of sexes has their own challenges.
As far as your selection goes, remember, that top 20 percent of men fuck 80 of women and bottom 20 percent of women fuck 80 of man.
That being said, you need to grow your value to be the TOP 20 percent of men that get to fuck 80 percent of woman, and not the 80 percent of men that take up scraps (bottom 20 percent of woman) thatalpha top 20 percent did NOT want.
Women do not have it easier. Woman face different challenges.
Anyways, this has just been on my mind, wanted to ramble. Maybe I will improve on this later, maybe not.
Let me know what you think, where Im wrong, where Im right. Id love to discuss this!