Post by Zomga48 on Apr 12, 2010 23:42:51 GMT -5
Hello again fellow PUAs, old and new.
I've been doing a lot of soul-searching in the past few months. I read The Power of Now, it's really eye-opening, I highly recommend it to all of you; anyone and everyone can get something out of it. Anyways, if you base my success in the past few months on # and k-closes, you'd find me to be rather empty-handed. However, I learned a lot about the human psyche and the social dynamics of our youth.
To begin, I successfully inserted myself into the "popular kid" clique. I attended parties where everyone was drunk and having a great time. I thought my social success would bring me happiness, but I was wrong. For so long I dreamed of partying with the physically attractive, with the respected, the popular. My friends always reviled this crowd, but I kept an open mind. I didn't think they could be as stupid and shallow as my friends thought they were. After being a part of it all, I can honestly say their somewhat irrational hatred is true on many points. You can't be happy being a part of this crowd if you join for the wrong reasons, as I did; you need to genuinely like them as your friends. It's been said before, you can't choose who you're attracted to, this applies to friends in addition to potential targets.
And so I came home many a night, feeling briefly elated and popular; but overall, nothing changed. I've been trying lots of different things, expanding my horizons, if you will. However, the experience I enjoyed the most was camping with my old friends. The point of all of this is that you shouldn't change who you are or force yourself to do things for popularity or status. Own your lifestyle, and invite people to join you. In dealing with friends and targets, my Anthropology Professor said some interesting things about marriage and whatnot. "Know where you're going, then choose who to bring with you." Simply put, you should do what you want regardless of what other people think. Don't base your decisions around others, people change. The only constant in your life is you, be the master of your own life, it's what will truly make you happy in the end.
I used to be obsessed with trying to be successful with girls, I thought it was the key to my happiness and filling the metaphorically hole in my chest. Now I honestly couldn't care less, to hell with all of the bullshit I once believed. Most of the "techniques" and attitudes on this forum are meant to inspire confidence, to make you love yourself. You can't share that love with other people and be happy until you have it for yourself. If you blindly follow the routines and pretend to be confidant, you aren't helping yourself in the long run at all.
Now, I don't care. I try not to think so much, it's the bane of my happiness. I feel. I know who I am, but I don't label myself with a "passion," it's still only one facet of who you are. Do whatever you need to be satisfied with yourself, to love yourself. When you are a winner in your own eyes, everything else will fall into place.
Done ranting/pouring out my thoughts, I haven't posted in a long time, but I'll offer my insights from time to time in the future.
I've been doing a lot of soul-searching in the past few months. I read The Power of Now, it's really eye-opening, I highly recommend it to all of you; anyone and everyone can get something out of it. Anyways, if you base my success in the past few months on # and k-closes, you'd find me to be rather empty-handed. However, I learned a lot about the human psyche and the social dynamics of our youth.
To begin, I successfully inserted myself into the "popular kid" clique. I attended parties where everyone was drunk and having a great time. I thought my social success would bring me happiness, but I was wrong. For so long I dreamed of partying with the physically attractive, with the respected, the popular. My friends always reviled this crowd, but I kept an open mind. I didn't think they could be as stupid and shallow as my friends thought they were. After being a part of it all, I can honestly say their somewhat irrational hatred is true on many points. You can't be happy being a part of this crowd if you join for the wrong reasons, as I did; you need to genuinely like them as your friends. It's been said before, you can't choose who you're attracted to, this applies to friends in addition to potential targets.
And so I came home many a night, feeling briefly elated and popular; but overall, nothing changed. I've been trying lots of different things, expanding my horizons, if you will. However, the experience I enjoyed the most was camping with my old friends. The point of all of this is that you shouldn't change who you are or force yourself to do things for popularity or status. Own your lifestyle, and invite people to join you. In dealing with friends and targets, my Anthropology Professor said some interesting things about marriage and whatnot. "Know where you're going, then choose who to bring with you." Simply put, you should do what you want regardless of what other people think. Don't base your decisions around others, people change. The only constant in your life is you, be the master of your own life, it's what will truly make you happy in the end.
I used to be obsessed with trying to be successful with girls, I thought it was the key to my happiness and filling the metaphorically hole in my chest. Now I honestly couldn't care less, to hell with all of the bullshit I once believed. Most of the "techniques" and attitudes on this forum are meant to inspire confidence, to make you love yourself. You can't share that love with other people and be happy until you have it for yourself. If you blindly follow the routines and pretend to be confidant, you aren't helping yourself in the long run at all.
Now, I don't care. I try not to think so much, it's the bane of my happiness. I feel. I know who I am, but I don't label myself with a "passion," it's still only one facet of who you are. Do whatever you need to be satisfied with yourself, to love yourself. When you are a winner in your own eyes, everything else will fall into place.
Done ranting/pouring out my thoughts, I haven't posted in a long time, but I'll offer my insights from time to time in the future.
