Open relationships

[Sye~]

I don't believe in monogamy. I much prefer polyamory relationships.
I know many of you guys agree and a lot of girls accept this.

I'm curious to know for you guys whom do believe strongly in open relationships, how you explain to your girls that you don't believe in having only one girlfriend and blah blah.

I figure people who don't have a suitable reasoning will usually end up in a monogamy relationship.

So do you lot explain it?

[zegoni]

Actually, I prefer to make it clear from the start. Basically saying that this will go nowhere else than fooling around. Usually accepted right from the start, though some (mostly girls who lack confidence) get a little bit too into me, which is where I cut it with her. It doesn't do any of us good if she starts putting feelings into it. It goes the other way, too. But if you play your cards right..

[extra]

I don't believe in monogamy - lol. Come back to us with that when you're completely infatuated with a girl and remembering polygamy goes both ways. Monogamy has its place, though it's not a permanent one imo.

It's easiest if you just do what zegoni above says. If you're already in a relationship with a girl... prepare for a lot of hurt feelings, drama, andor possible breakup. It does work sometimes though, and depends on the girl. My friend's brother told his girl he wanted to fuck other girls too, and she almost killed him, literally, breaking shit and stuff. But they're now in an open relationship. Me and my girl aren't in an open, and she is very lenient with me and other girls so I could probably get one, but i care about her too much. I know that even if she goes with it, and i think this would go with all girls in a relationship that's going well, she would be torn up inside. And, especially if you're in the beginning of a relationship, remember that she probably is farther on in the iloveyou progress bar than you are.

Personally i'd just make it clear in the beginning in a low controversy way. Like, i'm not looking for anything too serious right now, let's just see where this takes us while being able to explore outside of it.

[zegoni]

There's also the middle way. Imo, an open relationship is basically really good fb's where your partner agrees on it.
The middle way is cool, though. You get to walk around kissin' on a girl just like a gf, but you get to hook up with other girls too - and she doesn't even have to agree (or know.... shhhhhhs!).
Basically, you're a really big fucking dick to her (she won't know till it's too late, HAHA). You're going to run some solid game on her until she's ready to enter a relationship, then you do a freeze out. Not a long one or anything, just a few weeks really. When you hit her up chances are she'll be a bit, uhm, angry, sad or disappointed. Doesn't matter, you talk for a few minutes and she should be hooked again.
Now, what does this do? well, you aren't together by any means, which means, socially (since you actually dumped her), that you're allowed to go hook up with other girls.

This isn't a method that'll make you popular in any way, but it sure as hell gets you laid.

Remember to respect yo' bitches, though.

[Sye~]

Jun 26, 2010 17:06:00 GMT -5 zegoni said:

There's also the middle way. Imo, an open relationship is basically really good fb's where your partner agrees on it.
The middle way is cool, though. You get to walk around kissin' on a girl just like a gf, but you get to hook up with other girls too - and she doesn't even have to agree (or know.... shhhhhhs!).
Basically, you're a really big fucking dick to her (she won't know till it's too late, HAHA). You're going to run some solid game on her until she's ready to enter a relationship, then you do a freeze out. Not a long one or anything, just a few weeks really. When you hit her up chances are she'll be a bit, uhm, angry, sad or disappointed. Doesn't matter, you talk for a few minutes and she should be hooked again.
Now, what does this do? well, you aren't together by any means, which means, socially (since you actually dumped her), that you're allowed to go hook up with other girls.

This isn't a method that'll make you popular in any way, but it sure as hell gets you laid.

Remember to respect yo' bitches, though.

The girl I'm most active with right now is kind of like that.
Except I told her I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone.
We have sex weekly, and I freely do things with other girls because we're no couple(though she wants to be).
I did freeze her out for a while.. She was on the verge of deleting me from MSN and everything. But alas it was fairly simple to get her back. I reminded her what she'd miss and was missing without me.

And yes I'm talking about my penis.

[perceverance]

we need a tutorial on how to obtain open relationships haha.

[nutrick]

sye,

you've read sex god method yes? try that. really really reallllyyy good sex. and it's not what you say, it's what you do. if you want open relationships, actions speak louder than words. if you say up front you want an open one, don't talk to the girl like you two are exclusive. you'd also have to be extremely open minded, respect all your girls, and not blab around saying you're hella sick. you can explain yourself up front, if you're okay with having your girls fuck other guys too. just reread that sex god method chapter on it.

Patrick