Should I game this girl now, or wait until school?

[bravo]

Hey guys, I got a bit of a problem. I was introduced to this girl at my friends friends birthday party. I never talked to her because everyone was conversing with each other, but I shook her hand and got her name, but other than that, no conversation. But, I found her myspace page through one of our mutual friends and I was wondering what I should do. Should I send her a message and be like. "Your that girl from the party right?" and take it from there and maybe meet up with her somewhere? Or should I just wait until school starts and game her then. I really want to do the myspace thing, but like I said, she never really talked to me, and I dont want to mess up my pre selection for the new school I am going to new next year if I fuck up with this girl. What should I do? Game her now, or wait. I say game her now.

[zegoni]

....aight. First off, you don't "game". You ARE game.

Also, why didn't you talk to her? No excuses here mister.
Why do you still use myspace? Facebook, you know. It's the way to go.

If you keep on telling yourself stuff like this "blabla, should I wait, blabla", you'll always postpone stuff. That's basically secondhand approach anxiety, so to speak.
The right mindset is: "When you think, it's too late". Action before thoughts - not literally, but I hope you get the points, aight?

[bravo]

Yea, I primarily use facebook but she is only on myspace for some reason. And about the approach, there was no real time to approach because everyone was circled in a big group talking to each other, so I couldn't just use an opener in the middle of all these people who I didn't really know talking. Still though, what should I do? Which way should I go?

[Luis the awesomest of awesomes]

Aug 1, 2010 17:02:43 GMT -5 bravo said:

Yea, I primarily use facebook but she is only on myspace for some reason. And about the approach, there was no real time to approach because everyone was circled in a big group talking to each other, so I couldn't just use an opener in the middle of all these people who I didn't really know talking. Still though, what should I do? Which way should I go?

in a circle?!!!! and you were thinking about using an opener?!! just go direct buddy for next time a good "hey what's up" will work fine in that situation (obviously to her and the group of people she is talking too.

[zegoni]

Bravo, what you're thinking there, is what we like to call a limiting belief. "but I can't just - it'll go wrong because - yes, but" etc etc etc.
Ask yourself this:
Why?
It's against social norms? Don't worry. You're all about being against social norms.
It's awkward?
You're all about getting out of your (and everybody's) comfort zone.
It'll make you the center of attention.
'sat supposed to be a bad thing?

[bravo]

Well, like I said guys, that is the past. But should I game this girl online now, and try to set something up, even though I showed no interest in her and did not talk to her at the party.

[perceverance]

it would be kinda weird but go for it if you got balls of steel.

[zegoni]

It would only be weird because it would've been awesome Shock & Awe on a scale of social norms.

IM her, text her, call her. Communication is the most important thing. Get to know her.

[bravo]

Aug 2, 2010 9:03:23 GMT -5 zegoni said:

It would only be weird because it would've been awesome Shock & Awe on a scale of social norms.

IM her, text her, call her. Communication is the most important thing. Get to know her.

Awesome thanks, but I dont have any other contact info besides her myspace, and I cant add her because she has one of those things where you have to know her email to add her. So I just sent a message saying, "ur that girl I met at **** party right? That was my opener, and if she responds, I am going to escalate, number close, and set something up.

[zegoni]

Yeah, that's alright for a start, I s'pose.

[bravo]

Fuck, I found a way to add her but I found it through one of the comments on her page that she has a boyfriend. Whatever, time to meet a new girl lol.

[zegoni]

Boyfriend? No problem. If she ever starts talking about him, just ask how it is to have the most perfect boyfriend in the world. She'll reflect over it and think about you. As long as your game's good, she'll suck your cock.

[bravo]

Haha, zegoni your awesome. It took a lot of escalation for her to mention her boyfriend, but I kept teasing and having fun, and she liked it. I number closed yesterday through a message, and we texted for a little. I left her wanting more, but should I really ask about her boyfriend out of the blue or only when she talks about him? Also, if we end up hanging out, should I use lots of kino and escalation even though she has a boyfriend?

[RMO]

I dont usually try to copy pua masters but zan perrion has a good thought on boyfriends, respect her, understand that she has one and that you respect her decisions, and then you game her all the same.

[zegoni]

I say never talk about the boyfriend. Never mention him. If she starts talking about him, just remind her of how peeeerfect and aaaaawesome he is, and change subject/don't answer after that.

Also, prodigy is right, too. There are two options: Accept it (don't talk about him anyway. ever. never x's either), or destroy him (a BF destroyer) - basically make her realize that he isn't good enough. Can be done in many ways.

There isn't something in between. You'll fail BADLY (yes, with CAPS LOCK) if you go all like "oh, so a boyfriend, huh. im out.. ish..".
Unreactiveness, my friend. Plow through the shit.