two things.... negs and conversations....

[iffyjiff]

Sup guyss

(TL;DR : 1. what do you do when a chick negs you, 2. should you talk more or should she be the one talking alot)
but please try and read anyway

ive been thinking recently, ive read all the stickied posts on this forum and of course some of the regular threads, plus some of the pua ebooks (i had a week where i couldn't go out) in anticipation for teh weekend when id put it all to use

I wouldnt say i started out as an AFC, i have some natural talent but i suppress it with not being bothered to take a stand and do something about life.

Im already charismatic, "the funny guy" etc, i have a pretty high amount of social proof and a big social circle, i just never make use of that cause i sit at home gaming or avoid putting myself on the spot, i just used to go to anything my friends did and beta male, or on bad days id wallflower. lol

So this (past) weekend i went out quite a bit and i met up with friends past few days, and i have to say i already feel results just by going up to people and taking life by the horns etc, its getting me a lot of attention from everyone that im always happy n talking to someone

i have 2 problems though -

sometimes ill make a joke and a chick will neg me, like omg that's so lame or shell just counter what i say. sometimes its just out of the blue when im talking to a group, what do i do then?

also when im 1 on 1ing with a chick i singled out, i tend to talk a bit more than her, telling stories and generally being cocky funny, sometimes i feel like i go on a bit though without letting her talk, is this ok or should she be the one talking the most?

[misterflower]

Okay, for your last question, it's pretty mutual. Some would say let her talk more some would say keep talking no matter what. It really depends on the way you are gaming. However, in my opinion, it's good to have TONS to say. But it's even better when you can say it all slowly in moderation. What I mean is, sit there and just listen to what she has to say without talking, just nod your head and make eye contact to show her you are listening and smile and shit. Then when she's done talking you can go right in and say some quality shit then listen to whatever she has to say again. Use what she's saying against her or for her depending on the context. For instance if she "negs" you by saying you are lame. Just agree. Then be like, "yeah, you are right, that was lame. It's probably the coolest thing you've heard all day. " cheeky smile, ect. Oh and never forget to take what you are saying slowly. Good luck.

[Luis the awesomest of awesomes]

it's all about the vibe, you can say anything from "SHUT THE FUCK UP" to "yeah love you too" and about your second question again the vibe, if it feels like you're talking a lot the stop spontaneously and kino her or say something random

[iffyjiff]

oh ok thanks for the advice so far guys

another thing is that by nature ( i find ) im cocky funny and do push pull, so im trying to capitalize on that.
the problem is with her, when i push, she pushes, i push etc... so how am i supposed to pull if she pushes back? when i pull i sort of forfeit or seek validations it seems....
hmm idk

[Luis the awesomest of awesomes]

dude FEEL if it feels right to push do so if not don't but whatever I'll give you your answer....
when you push if she pushes, pull.... it's like rewarding her for standing up 2 herself, but what kind of stuff does she say?

[iffyjiff]

well yeah i guess you could just cal it playful, but heres an example of us talking about words people use:

(we where arguing about whether gee is a word or not)

her: im telling you check a dictionary! it really is a word

me: pfff, im telling you its not. and anyway i dont have time to go look for a dictionary.... please girl

her: no seriously ill go with you, cmon im gonna prove you wrong!

me: gee, dont be so demanding! ( i ask a friend nearby ) is she always like this?

her: omg! see you just used it in a sentence

me:omg! engrish is rike eezzee too youuse !

her: you finally got the hang of it. about time with your brain that you got at the one dollar store

me: yeahh in case you didnt know (whisper in her ear) its the "dollar store" , drop the one next time

her: pfff, go learn your times tables then come back to me (i know, laame xD)

see? i dont see where i could have fit in a pull there, unless it wasnt nessecary? its harder to build sexual tension in such situations :/

[RMO]

wow shes flirty, i wish half the girls i chatted up could be this witty

[iffyjiff]

lol. well shes basically a walking contradiction, she has a nice body n wears hot clothes but is an avid church goer and is kinda conservative, shes really flirty but doesnt usually lead guys much after 1st or 2nd base, shes blond and has blond moments but is still one of the smartest girls
i guess thats what makes her attractive to most guys

no offense to any blondes xD

[Luis the awesomest of awesomes]

wow man she is fun! and don't worry you're doing great I was smiling the whole time I read that .

[Johnny Bravo]

Yeah seriously. I was smiling too. And thinking of comments back.

For that last one, say it:
"what the fuck does that mean? come on...you could have done sooo much better."

Or if it gets to the point where she is beating you, I just hug them against their will, like, they are trying to get out and I just
"Iwuvv you" and hug them realllll tight, then push them away and say get off me.

[hussey]

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