Post by Shampoo on Sept 10, 2010 15:29:01 GMT -5
Alright basically wrote down all the sticking points I can think of now. All I really want is input into how I should go by solving this problem. Anyone can answer but please dont give me generic answers like dont care what people think of you because that really doesnt help me. Thanks 
"INTRODUCTION"
Hopefully this post really changes my life. I have all the tools to be a PUA except my conversational/social skills and my willingness to talk to or even meet new people. When I try, I think in my head, "I'm not to that level with em yet," or I think "They probably don't like me or think I'm a creeper." Yes I know, if I ever want to succeed I have to get comfortable with myself. I'm going to elaborate on this later.
"MENTAL IMAGE"
I guess I picture a mental picture of what I want to happen. Then when I really think about it again I think of things that might go wrong, or I get a fear in my mind that it might not go according to my vision. Most of the time my visions go wrong because something in my image doesn't go according to plan. That's exactly when I fuck up so that's what is feeding fear in my mind. Why do I keep expecting things out of situation? I don't know, its just something that happens in a split second almost. I tried not expecting things for a while it kinda worked but I didn't really get anything accomplished. I also tried to just focus on having fun but I didn't really get out of my comfort zone so nothing really happened. Cause getting out of my comfort zone did NOT equal fun. Basically nothing is getting the girls I WANT, because
1. I'm not getting out of my comfort zone
2. I don't know what the hell to do to initiate.
"WHAT AM I?"
I want girls, but mabe I'm not looking or doing the right thing. I might be getting desperate, timid, and conservative. I'll admit I have a HUGE ego and its really hurting me. I know I have to drop my ego and take a ego-hit. I talk loud,I talk shit, and I might kinda be an ass hole but people who love me love me. I know I'm not ugly as shit because girls think I'm hot, cute, or they like me. The only problem is their either ugly, I don't like em, or it was a LONG time ago. Don't get me wrong girls also think I'm ugly, unattractive, or annoying so I REALLY DON'T know what the fuck is going on... hopefully this problem solves by itself haha.
"MY BASIC PERSONALITY PROBLEMS"
Yes, I hate to say it but I'm the type of guy who waits for the perfect moment. I'm a procrastinator, I hold off everything for later and I hope things work out in the future. This goes back to my mental image, I plan everything out, and it never ends up working or only partially working. Also I'm lazy so that doesn't help out the situation AT ALL. I feel really comfortable in my comfort zone and jacking off while my friends are out there getting chicks or beating pussy. I kinda wonder why that's not me out there. Finally I'm an angry guy, which is kinda bad. People take me serious and I don't know why but people take things I say serious even though I'm always kidding around. So I guess I don't have my facial features down. People say they can basically read what I'm feeling. My temper is really bad so I gotta find a way to fix that.
"SOCIAL PROBLEM"
I'm not socially awkward or bad but I feel as if I'm not socially perfect. Also I'd like to mention that even though I don't want this to be my philosophy in my head I think "It has to be perfect or not at all." Anyways I don't really know what I do in certain times of a social interaction. For example, when I talk with someone I don't know what to say to keep the conversation going, even with guys. I might be thinking too much but I still feel I need some help in this field. I'm not the best at hanging out at people's houses. Let me elaborate. I'm not the kind of guy that has no friends. I hang out with the popular social group. How do I know? The hottest girls in school are in it. I'm friends with pretty much every guy in the social group. The problem is girls, I mean I'm friends or at least were friends with ALOT of the girls but I don't know what to do with them. Ive made out with girls and stuff but I don't really account what I did. I know how to game people in one day if I'm in the right state of mind but when it comes to a school year... I HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE WHAT TO DO.
"WHAT I THINK"
What I think the problem is I give value to too many small things. Recently I was thinking about how things lose value as we get older. So I'm thinking when I get older looking back to these things I'm going to think I was shy or worried too much. Sorry this might be off topic but I was just right now thinking, I don't care what people I really know think of me but people I DON'T know I'm afraid of losing value from. This is all I can think of right now.
"INTRODUCTION"
Hopefully this post really changes my life. I have all the tools to be a PUA except my conversational/social skills and my willingness to talk to or even meet new people. When I try, I think in my head, "I'm not to that level with em yet," or I think "They probably don't like me or think I'm a creeper." Yes I know, if I ever want to succeed I have to get comfortable with myself. I'm going to elaborate on this later.
"MENTAL IMAGE"
I guess I picture a mental picture of what I want to happen. Then when I really think about it again I think of things that might go wrong, or I get a fear in my mind that it might not go according to my vision. Most of the time my visions go wrong because something in my image doesn't go according to plan. That's exactly when I fuck up so that's what is feeding fear in my mind. Why do I keep expecting things out of situation? I don't know, its just something that happens in a split second almost. I tried not expecting things for a while it kinda worked but I didn't really get anything accomplished. I also tried to just focus on having fun but I didn't really get out of my comfort zone so nothing really happened. Cause getting out of my comfort zone did NOT equal fun. Basically nothing is getting the girls I WANT, because
1. I'm not getting out of my comfort zone
2. I don't know what the hell to do to initiate.
"WHAT AM I?"
I want girls, but mabe I'm not looking or doing the right thing. I might be getting desperate, timid, and conservative. I'll admit I have a HUGE ego and its really hurting me. I know I have to drop my ego and take a ego-hit. I talk loud,I talk shit, and I might kinda be an ass hole but people who love me love me. I know I'm not ugly as shit because girls think I'm hot, cute, or they like me. The only problem is their either ugly, I don't like em, or it was a LONG time ago. Don't get me wrong girls also think I'm ugly, unattractive, or annoying so I REALLY DON'T know what the fuck is going on... hopefully this problem solves by itself haha.
"MY BASIC PERSONALITY PROBLEMS"
Yes, I hate to say it but I'm the type of guy who waits for the perfect moment. I'm a procrastinator, I hold off everything for later and I hope things work out in the future. This goes back to my mental image, I plan everything out, and it never ends up working or only partially working. Also I'm lazy so that doesn't help out the situation AT ALL. I feel really comfortable in my comfort zone and jacking off while my friends are out there getting chicks or beating pussy. I kinda wonder why that's not me out there. Finally I'm an angry guy, which is kinda bad. People take me serious and I don't know why but people take things I say serious even though I'm always kidding around. So I guess I don't have my facial features down. People say they can basically read what I'm feeling. My temper is really bad so I gotta find a way to fix that.
"SOCIAL PROBLEM"
I'm not socially awkward or bad but I feel as if I'm not socially perfect. Also I'd like to mention that even though I don't want this to be my philosophy in my head I think "It has to be perfect or not at all." Anyways I don't really know what I do in certain times of a social interaction. For example, when I talk with someone I don't know what to say to keep the conversation going, even with guys. I might be thinking too much but I still feel I need some help in this field. I'm not the best at hanging out at people's houses. Let me elaborate. I'm not the kind of guy that has no friends. I hang out with the popular social group. How do I know? The hottest girls in school are in it. I'm friends with pretty much every guy in the social group. The problem is girls, I mean I'm friends or at least were friends with ALOT of the girls but I don't know what to do with them. Ive made out with girls and stuff but I don't really account what I did. I know how to game people in one day if I'm in the right state of mind but when it comes to a school year... I HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE WHAT TO DO.
"WHAT I THINK"
What I think the problem is I give value to too many small things. Recently I was thinking about how things lose value as we get older. So I'm thinking when I get older looking back to these things I'm going to think I was shy or worried too much. Sorry this might be off topic but I was just right now thinking, I don't care what people I really know think of me but people I DON'T know I'm afraid of losing value from. This is all I can think of right now.