Sex with girlfriend

[slyman]

Hey guys - I don't have a gf currently, but I was wondering about the following scenario because my friend is going through it right now.

So - basically the premise of this is that the girl decides when they first have sex. It's almost as if she's rewarding HIM, not the other way around. She keeps on saying, "wait a month so that I can get on the pill. Also, I'm not ready yet in our relationship to have sex with you." She still gives him head and what not, but she won't fuck him, at least not yet. It almost seems as if she's playing him, getting him to bow down to her, and then finally rewarding him with sex = AFC. Is waiting until she's "ready?" an AFC thing to do, or is it the result of past AFC behavior or lack of attraction? Or is she genuinely not ready? She could have started the pill like at least a month ago (when she started to give him head) fyi. She keeps on delaying it...saying shes not ready. I think he's being played, but maybe she just doesn't feel comfortable? Also, they both are virgins.

Never had this happen to me, but if it did I'm wondering how to play this.

ohhh also - she's catholic so an abortion is out of the question....

[SamethP]

What he needs to do is stop showing that that is all he wants from her. Once he stops giving a fuck whether he gets laid or not, she'll think differently and eventually she'll ask for it and then he knows he won

[n0c0ntr0l]

The opposite end of the scale is during a make out session you get her really hot and bothered. You start rubbing her in all the right places and get her super horny. But after this walk off. Don't give her any release. She'll be in the palm of your hand.

[extra]

I got experience here, and intimate knowledge of experience of friends (boys and girls). Is she a virign?

If she's a virgin, she's probably not BSing about wanting to wait. I know it's stupid. But, even aside from those who hold religious or moral views (a lot) about it, girls think it's a really big deal. It's a stunning example of how society influences us. Most girls, before having sex, want it to be with that one guy who's perfect and they love eachother and yada yada impossible. Or, at least wait a while into a relationship.

This isn't always true though. Me and my ex/now-fb got it on two months in, though we had been on-off hooking up for a while beforehand.

I've found non-virgins are very down, unless they regret it, in which case they'll want a boyfriend next.

A key is, setting it up is wierd. Obligations are wierd. When I lost my virginity, it was completely unplanned. We were just hooking up and doing stuff like mad, and after our first "I love you"s (don't lie about this, it's not worth it and you don't need to. I meant it, after a month of not saying it back, and was with this girl for over a year, we're still best-opposite-sex-friends) I brought it up, pushed for it but made sure she wanted to and was comfortable with it. It was spontaneous and exciting, emotional brain thinking. An amigo of mine got literal verbal shit that the next time he hung out with a girl they would bang, completely her suggestion, and suddenly the girl is actin' wierd. I hope that works out for him.

Oh, also, a lot of girls are afraid of the pill and/or the process of getting it. I rawed for months, and my ex still dawdled a ton about getting it.

Tips for Sexy Time:
-Work the tension and excitement. Emotionally and physically, get her turned on and raging with love/fuck hormones. This takes practice, and you got plenty of time to practice while you're fingering her.
-In my opinion, make it a spur of the moment thing. The girl has to want it a good amount to plan it
-Throw a condom on if she isn't on the pill yet, oh lawd i didn't think i'd be giving that advice
-Don't be pushy about it if she isn't comfortable. You know how if someone wants something from you really bad you don't want to anymore... or she could feel pressured, and girls have big conditioning for "IF HE'S PRESSURING YOU THEN NO!" Plus, you want it to be something you both want. Make sure she's comfortable, when you finally do it.
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[slyman]

great advice, extra. +1. Yes, this girl is a virgin.

[SamethP]

virgins are scary territory... be prepared for uber clingyness if thou succeeds...

[Validus]

Oct 7, 2010 22:37:07 GMT -5 SamethP said:

virgins are scary territory... be prepared for uber clingyness if thou succeeds...

+1