Getting a girlfriend?

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Hey fellow pua's. I'm a sophomore in high school and I see literally EVERYONE around my school with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Even my close friends are in a happy relationship. I see myself as a pretty good looking guy with a nice sense of style, and I'm not an arrogant/self-centered person like I see some of the other kids at my school and yet, I see them get more girls than I ever could. I know confidence is a key issue, and I think that I have a good amount of it, but I'm still not getting any girls. I can certainly say that I have looked at thousands of forum pua posts and videos, and tried to apply them, but to no avail. I've heard: "you don't need a girlfriend in school, you should be focused on your grades," and the like, but. . .I just want some of that happiness you get from a relationship for my own, ya know? I know I'm probably sounding a bit whiny, but I really need some help in this area. This is the one thing that makes me more insecure than anything. So I guess my main question is, how can I get a girlfriend, or at least have girls attracted to me. Please be as detailed as you possibly can. Thanks in advance to all who respond. PM me if you wish to IM me over AIM or Skype

[Nick]

Please remember that everything I say should not be taken as law and don't take any evaluations personally. Thanks,

First off, you definitely are needy, which is really bad. You need to be indifferent to the outcome. By this, I mean you should have such a great single life that you almost don't have time for a girlfriend, or your just having so much fun that you don't need one. Also, being arrogant/self-centered is mostly a good thing if you can control it.

I know confidence is a key issue, and I think that I have a good amount of it, but I'm still not getting girls

Confidence is key but it can be faked and honestly, confidence doesn't just do everything for you. I don't personally think you are that confident. You are somewhat confident but not really. I would suggest you work on it and fake it if you have to. Being comfortable in every situation is a huge plus.

How can I get a girlfriend, or at least have girls attracted to me?

Getting a girlfriend isn't that simple... Most of this entire forum if not all of it is completely devoted to just that. It's all about having inner game and displaying your personality and just not giving a shit about anything. I think you are taking everything too technically and are trying to change yourself.

You are born with a personality and that will always stay the same. Most people hide it or try to change it. Just let it go. It's NATURAL to get women. Don't try to become some social robot.

Also, life is SHORT. Once it's over, you're done. There is no point over-analyzing everything. Just get out there and do whatever the hell you want to do.

Sorry if any of that was offensive to you, I didn't really mean it to be. It sounded kinda harsh in my mind but whatever.

Bye

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HOLY SHIT I just wrote so much in this quickreply box and then it disappeared. So sorry, but you get the short version now, if anyone wants elaboration or more detail just respond.

I vibe with you a lot man, so I want to help you.

Don't get in a relationship for the sake of being in one. They are a lot of work, pain, and stress. They make your game rusty as hell unless you specifically maintain it. If you find the right girl, it's amazing - but it's really NOT worth it with one that you don't love/think you will fall in love with, and you don't know what love means and won't for a long time so be careful. A relationship will NOT help your insecurity (though it may bandage it until jealousy starts) and generally will not make you happy if you are unhappy otherwise.

BUT, I don't want to put you off of them. It is probably a good idea to try a relationship in high school - it's the least risk time. Relationships in high school very rarely really mean anything for the rest of your life, very few marry their high school sweetheart. Having experience can help you in future relationships that will matter, ones where you consider going out and buying a ring. Or decide against going out and buying a ring thanks to your experience. Relationships are amazing, but really dangerous too, love is more intoxicating than alcohol. Worth it with the right girl, not so much with the wrong.

You're needy, change that. I'm really needy too, and am in the process of changing that. At the moment I just act super-not-needy and try to have that rub off on my personality. You don't need that girl, or those girls, or a girl. Look into inner game, cause you the man! And you got everything you need inside that head of yours, you just have to learn to present yourself in the best way, and maybe change your habits a bit.

@bolt, I agree with everything you said, except:

You are born with a personality and that will always stay the same

I don't know about you, but I believe personalities are very dynamic. There is the core YOU, yeah (maybe this is what you were talking about?). But, beyond that, you can change yourself A LOT! It's not like changing the core you, but it's like stopping a bad habit. Like you can stop biting your nails, you can stop being needy or stop arguing a lot. Like you can practice good posture, you can practice presenting your best, confident self.