What to talk about

[perceverance]

Any suggestions? Most of the time i'm talking to anyone, not just girls, i run out of things to talk about. Its not so bad with guys because you can talk about videogames or random shit that nobody cares about. However, when i'm talking to girls everything is perfect except that there is this horrible awkward silence after we finish talking about a topic. How do you guys talk 24\7 with girls and dont run out of topics?

[Cobra]

It's more than likely that the problem isn't running out of things to say as much as you being inside your head too much.

Just relax, don't force it, be comfortable.

If you catch yourself thinking "Fuck, what should I say?!", you're forcing it.

It's not a terrible thing to talk about videogames or random shit nobody cares about. Chances are YOU care about that shit. Talk about shit that interests YOU.


Hope it helps.

[perceverance]

thanks cobra, any other opinions? this is one of my biggest problems :\

[Contempt]

Cobra pretty much said it. If you are too much in your head and thinking "What to talk about? What to talk about? What to talk about? " Your... not going to have anything to talk about. Honestly it doesnt really matter. Just make conversation. Try to make it flirty and fun, not boring or she's going to leave. It doesnt matter what the TOPIC is, its how you say it. I have had the stupidest conversations with girls and they ended up being lots of fun because i kept it flirty and created alot of tension. basically, just try to have fun, not think about what you should say.

Just my opinion,
Contempt

[Cobra]

Contempt raises another good point.

What you say is way less important than how it is said.

If I remember correctly, in NLP it's taught that your words are only like 20% of communication, and the rest is comprised of your body language, and tone (might even be another one, but I can't remember it right now).