Older Girls

[Contempt]

So i've been talking to an older girl lately, and i was wondering if you guys had any tips for it. This girl is one of those girls who texts guys who are like 2 years older than her or in college. shes a junior i'm a sophomore. I'm definitly seeing that my techniques arent working nearly as well on her (based on her body language) as on girls my age/younger. I'm assuming she that i need to act older/more mature. What are some ways of making it seem like your older? We talk almost every day and are texting atm but i feel like if i dont up my game i'll get thrown in the friend zone. She is also a virgin and doesnt want to have sex till she finishes highschool (i'll fix this ) so i dont feel like i can make conversations real super sexual to make myself seem older or avoid the friend zone. Any tips?

-Contempt

[scripts]

I was in the same shoes you are currently in a few months ago. The best thing I found out was to be truthful. Just make sure she knows that you are your age and that the age difference isn't that great. Just show her that you're really mature, from personal experience, a girl who's into older guys is because they're a bit more mature than the average High School guy. As for making yourself seem more mature, don't laugh at stupid shit like "Oh he said..." or making sexual jokes.

[Keysersoze]

I've hooked up with a fair few older women, in fact last weekend I met a lovely 27 year old french girl, so I have a little experience with this one.

Basically there is not much of a difference -

1. Don't tell her how old you are, make her guess -
It's a good indicator of the level of interest she has in you with her guess, if she wants to hook up she'll guess your age as close to hers as she can convince herself you are.

2. She won't see it as a problem, if you dont -
The moment she smells that you're worried about the age gap it's goodnight vienna. Realise that it genuinely isn't a problem and that what really matters is the connection you both have.

3. Focus the conversation on emotion -
when you describe something, describe how it made you feel not how it appeared. that's pretty much universal for any girls though, regardless of age.

4. Have a clear Idea of what you expect and accept from her -
Delevop a set of boundaries and have standards which you genuinely expect her to live up to, tell her when she isn't. Encourage and reward her when she is doing things you like her doing. we avoid that which we feel is negative and push towards the positive.

5. Be honest in your conversations with her -
If there is something you don't find very interesting, tell her and explain why. POLITELY though, guys. If she's passionate about it though, connect to the actual passion instead of the subject, tell her although the subject doesn't interest you, you find her passion very sexy. Talk about your own passions, desires, hopes and dreams. If

6. adorable and sexy -
Sexy is pretty much my magic word right now, I use it to show intent, purpose and as a general discription for pretty much anything. Adorable works really well with older girls because it takes the emphasis off age and places it on her, it implies youth, and it's that implication which shows her you don't see the age as a problem, and in fact you've probably never even considered it.

[Contempt]

wow thanks man. +1 for sure. That "adorable" idea is a great idea. i'll have to think of more words like that.

[Keysersoze]

Dec 6, 2010 17:43:27 GMT -5 @scripts said:

A girl who's into older guys is because they're a bit more mature than the average High School guy. As for making yourself seem more mature, don't laugh at stupid shit like "Oh he said..." or making sexual jokes.

It's not the maturity she's attracted to, it's the inherent value he has.

He's older than her, and because of that he'll probably percieve himself as having value, which is paradoxically what gives him the value. He believes it, at his core. He has such a strong frame because of that belief she's forced to believe it to.

Sexual jokes are fine, just make sure to talk with maturity on the subject of sex. To be honest, unless you're doing subtle stuff, you might want to avoid being funny entirely. You don't want laugh out loud funny, it kills any tension you've created. To clarify, I'm not saying don't be funny, I'm saying use comedy lightly.

[Contempt]

i personally think the whole, whether to use comedy lightly or more heavily depends on the girl. With this girl she thinks i'm hilarious and has told me so several times, so i do a bit of funny. I have some great ways of building sexual tension so i'm not really worried about that.

[slyman]

hmmm older girls frustrate me. i guess its a challenge, but damn its frusturating. You have to have at least 2x your normal game, because they have the grade above you to choose from. and - older girls, if your an upperclassmen, are hardly even better than girls your age. just more work. i like to fuck around with immature, horny younger girls personally

[Keysersoze]

Dec 7, 2010 19:06:05 GMT -5 Contempt said:

i personally think the whole, whether to use comedy lightly or more heavily depends on the girl. With this girl she thinks i'm hilarious and has told me so several times, so i do a bit of funny. I have some great ways of building sexual tension so i'm not really worried about that.

Alright, cool. as long as you trust in yourself, do whatever you think you should.

Turst your instincts; they are usually right. I mean they've been constantly refined over many millennia, so they must be doing something right.

[eagle]

I would love to help since I'm a year younger than my girlfriend but she was attracted to me just based off the value of my dancing skills and my dashing good looks. (no, seriously it was a game free job)

[Contempt]

Haha yeah, well this girl likes guys with good hair over guys like myself with a good body so the day she told me that i got a buzz cut to piss her off LMAO.