How To Dance

[canadiankid]

Ahh dances. It's that time of year again for Christmas dances at school. I have mine in a week and I'm PUMPED. Its time to truly shed my shy AFC self. I have deent game at this point, all warm game though, and I'm ready to take the next step.
Anyways my biggest downfall in this type of situation is "White man syndrome" lol (the inability to dance well and trouble with rythym). So if anyone has some good tips, videos etc post em!
Thanks guys

[jester]

I play the drums and rhythm is a big part of that, obviously. Listen to some popular songs and find your groove. Dance in your room and find the beat. Try and shed the awkwardness for a minute, you'll be alone so do like NWA says and Express Yourself. Learn to dougie. And if you have time learn to do the jerk.

[Traxx]

jester, notice that he's white and from canada. Jerkin and dougie will do nothing if not hurt him, especially since, at least in my area, both are dead.

Grind, grind, grind, and grind some more. You want to gain self confidence? That's an easy way to do it. Unless if you act and look like a complete and total creep and have rumors goin around about you raping girls, most likely the girl will say yes. You can go up in a way that portrays self confidence: i.e. I like to go up to a girl and grab her hand while making eye contact. I then say something along the lines of "dance with me". To add extra flare, I sometimes lift my hand and spin her. Not saying you have to do this, but go with whatever fits your personality.

When grinding, do what the name says: grind. I don't get what people call "juking" when they just move side to side. Boring as hell. Push back and make friction. Make a circle with your hips and guide her with them. This displays confidence and helps you gain confidence as well. Don't even flinch if you start gettin "excited", but instead be proud of it. For your hands, I like to start out with them just on her hips, but if we get a rhythm going, I like to grab her hands and lift them above her head. If you guys get really into it, let 'em roam.

Rhythm actually comes naturally, you just have to know what exactly it is. To get rhythm, start listening to some slow R&B first. Jay Sean, Ne-Yo, Trey Songz, and Chris Brown have some excellent ones. Go into a place where you feel safe and start feeling the music, especially the drums. Bob year head, bend your knees, whatever feels natural. I can't describe it, but you will start to feel little impulses in your brain and body. Follow those and you have found the natural rhythm. Once you feel like you got it, then go to whatever is popular and try feeling those rhythms.

Man, it's hard explainin this in text.

[RMO]

dont grind get close, have fun, but most guys cant dance so they either wall flower or dry rape (grind) I have gotten so much pussy just because I can dance.

Grinding was okay to get confidence, and all the alphas do it, but there is so much else you can do.

For me dancing is just losing you inhibition, just let it all out and have a great time. fun is infectious.

[Traxx]

Yea you could just do whatever and not care just to have fun, that always works haha. I just like grinding because it's my preference . Making yourself look stupid but showing confidence while doing it actually helps show more of your personality, but I suggested grinding because he doesn't have much self confidence yet.

Once you do get more self confidence, you can do whatever you want and have even more fun. Maybe you can learn a certain type of dance for later dances such as break dancing, freestyling, even jerking. But if you have more of a care-free-have-fun-no-matter-what personality, do whatever you want.

Forgot to add that part

[canadiankid]

Thanks guys I'll post a field report after on Friday. I shall practice some rhythm until then but Prodigy you right, there's maybe 15 guys in my entire school that can dance.
I have three more questions:
-The girls all go in a circle with the guys around them, it's pretty gay, like no one is actually dancing with anyone. Basically everyone is AFC at my school. I will still go eye contact and ask someone to dance and lead out of the circle?
-The only people grinding in my school are the people considered whores and the druggy kids. It's not the reason they're considered that but will it be akward if no one else is? It's a small town and only half the gym is used haha
- Slow dancing? Hands on hipsis standard, what sorta movements/steps should I do?

[jester]

Just throwing out ideas haha. Having fun is the most important thing

[canadiankid]

Yeah haha it's easier to have fun when your not feeling akward

[canadiankid]

Haha I am epic failing. Watching some YouTube vids has helped, sorta haha. This lack of musical talent is killin me.

[canadiankid]

I'm getting nervous, it's like AA but a night before... Deep breaths, relax. I don't give a fuck what people say, if they call me a player, say I don't know how to dance. I am the motherfucking man and I will get bitches, what ever bitches I want.
How do you guys deal with the thought that people will judge you? I just repeat above statement in my head and it sorta works. Above questions too please.

[Eastcoast]

Dec 16, 2010 0:46:48 GMT -5 canadiankid said:

if they call me a player, say I don't know how to dance

Well dude, your clearly worried about people calling you a player and you not knowing how to dance.
Now i could give you the standard advice and say that if you were alpha you actually wouldnt give a shit, but your not there yet so its all good.

The thing i would do if i were you is warm up. Obviously your not 100% confident with dancing so i would just start with something reall basic such as nodding your head to the beat, youll get more into it and progress from there, its not a big deal at all so just have a good time.

And if you want you can drink before, cause then youll definitely lose that voice in your head that all of the doubts are coming from. I'm not saying you have to but i have wayyy more fun at dances when im drunk.