Post by Chris on Nov 1, 2008 18:32:54 GMT -5
BODY LANGUAGE THROUGH THE DURATION OF THE PICK-UP:
Pre-Approach
-Preselection. Before you appproach, it's good to be seen with other girls. Have them in your arms and walk around. Have THEM appear gaming YOU.
-AMOG. Show yourself as the leader of men. Be the anchor of your conversation. Display dominance over other men.
-Take up space.
-Appear as the guy having more fun than ANYONE. Joke around with your buds. Laugh and have a good time. High five eachother. Flirt with girls.
The Approach
-Approach the group walking in a semi-circle. Walking straight to them can make them nervous.
-Initiate the chat over the shoulder. DO NOT face them straight on just yet.
-Smile on the approach, but don't keep the smile forever. This will show you aren't anxious or threatening. Some people might think that smiling is approval seeking, which is true in some cases. A general rule is at least have your eyes smiling. Have your eyes in the shape they would be as if you were smiling.
-Body rocking. This is a non-verbal time constraint. As you approach over the shoulder, take a step or two back like you are about to leave, then come back again. This will raise your value because you have showed this willingness to walk away.
-Lock in. You need to lock yourself into the set so you can have a conversation. Either use a lock-in prop such as a hat or you may need to move people to get in an ideal spot so the attention can focus on you.
-Eye contact with EVERYONE. Engage the entire set.
Attraction Stage
-Take up space.
-Indpendent body language. You be the leader.
-Strong, secure eye contact with your target.
-Be the anchor of the conversation.
-Big, slow gestures to illustrate a point.
-Cocky/funny and playful kino.
-LEAN BACK.
-Dominance and leadership among men such as leading the high-fives and touching other guys to dislplay dominance.
Qualification Stage
-"Selector Stance." When qualifying, it helps to lean on your back foot and kick your head back a little almost like you are suspicious. This look lets her know you are qualifying.
-Reward her qualification. When she qualifies, open your body language and give SOME approval with your body language such as a hug, a high-five, etc.
-Takeaway. You can't just give her approval after qualifying, you need to be more of a challenge. After the reward, take it away with a cute line such as "I'm still not sure you could handle me though," and close your body language again untill she earns it back. Pull back and turn away slightly, but playfully.
Comfort Stage
-Punishment/reward. You need to non-verbally neg (turn away) when she needs to be punished such as not returning kino, negging you, and anything else where she should be punished. On the other hand, reward her with approval (kino, etc.) when she does something you like. This is "training her" to behave well.
-Comfort building kino. This is where you need to get your kino more intimate such as holding hands, hugging, kissing, and other comfort building kino.
-Mirroring. You don't have to do this one, in fact sometimes in naturally happens. Mirror her movement but make it SUBTLE so it does not look rapport seeking. This will create deep rapport. The key here is subtlety. If she mirrors you, even better. Let her do it and deep rapport will come without you doing any work body language wise.
Phase Shifting
-Eye contact. You need to convey your sexuality through your eye contact and facial expressions. Have your eyelids low and relaxed slowly looking at her lips, and back up to her eyes with a seductive look.
-Arousing kino. It will definitely help to turn her on with kino such as gently pulling on the back of her hair, lightly stroking her arm, giving eachother massages. Touching her lower lip sets off arousal. To apply that, get close like you are about to kiss her, then put your finger on her lip and push her away. Also smelling her shoulders and neck works wonders. TRUST ME.
-Physical push/pull. Get her aroused and take it away, get her chasing you physically. A good implication of this is during qualifying. Once she qualifies herself, reward her by giving her a two handed high-five. Hold onto her hands and pull her in very close, to the point where your lips are brushing hers. Say what needs to be said, then push her away. (reminder: have good breath
)
Seduction Stage
-Foreplay. Girls can't go straight in for sex like guys can, and most of you should know that by now. Turn her on by making out in a seductive location and caressing eachother.
-Two steps forward, one step back. This is a genious technique David DeAngelo came up with. As you are in foreplay, pull away for a minute or two to let ANTICIPATION build (one step back ), then go two steps forward back into foreplay, and progressing things a bit more like taking her shirt off (two steps forward).
-Freeze out. If you are a master of the above technique, you shouldn't need this because she should be SHAKING with anticipation by now. However, you will definitely need this a lot of the time. As you progress past foreplay and transistion into sex, MOST women will give you last minute resistance (LMR). This is hard-wired into their brains. Respect that and freeze her out. Go ahead and put your pants back on. Don't be pushing her to escalate. Respect her hard-wired response and take the attitude of "wether we have sex or not, I'm sticking around." This will give her the motivation to seduce you, or be seduced by you.
-Sex. No need to go into detail here
Now these are TECHNIQUES used throughout the pick-up. I did NOT cover your default setting such as posture, etc. and I did not cover body languages mistakes to eliminate. Those need to be taken care of also and are posted elsewhere.
By the way, I feel like I am forgetting something so if you have anything, post it and maybe I will add it if I agree.
Now go apply it.
Pre-Approach
-Preselection. Before you appproach, it's good to be seen with other girls. Have them in your arms and walk around. Have THEM appear gaming YOU.
-AMOG. Show yourself as the leader of men. Be the anchor of your conversation. Display dominance over other men.
-Take up space.
-Appear as the guy having more fun than ANYONE. Joke around with your buds. Laugh and have a good time. High five eachother. Flirt with girls.
The Approach
-Approach the group walking in a semi-circle. Walking straight to them can make them nervous.
-Initiate the chat over the shoulder. DO NOT face them straight on just yet.
-Smile on the approach, but don't keep the smile forever. This will show you aren't anxious or threatening. Some people might think that smiling is approval seeking, which is true in some cases. A general rule is at least have your eyes smiling. Have your eyes in the shape they would be as if you were smiling.
-Body rocking. This is a non-verbal time constraint. As you approach over the shoulder, take a step or two back like you are about to leave, then come back again. This will raise your value because you have showed this willingness to walk away.
-Lock in. You need to lock yourself into the set so you can have a conversation. Either use a lock-in prop such as a hat or you may need to move people to get in an ideal spot so the attention can focus on you.
-Eye contact with EVERYONE. Engage the entire set.
Attraction Stage
-Take up space.
-Indpendent body language. You be the leader.
-Strong, secure eye contact with your target.
-Be the anchor of the conversation.
-Big, slow gestures to illustrate a point.
-Cocky/funny and playful kino.
-LEAN BACK.
-Dominance and leadership among men such as leading the high-fives and touching other guys to dislplay dominance.
Qualification Stage
-"Selector Stance." When qualifying, it helps to lean on your back foot and kick your head back a little almost like you are suspicious. This look lets her know you are qualifying.
-Reward her qualification. When she qualifies, open your body language and give SOME approval with your body language such as a hug, a high-five, etc.
-Takeaway. You can't just give her approval after qualifying, you need to be more of a challenge. After the reward, take it away with a cute line such as "I'm still not sure you could handle me though," and close your body language again untill she earns it back. Pull back and turn away slightly, but playfully.
Comfort Stage
-Punishment/reward. You need to non-verbally neg (turn away) when she needs to be punished such as not returning kino, negging you, and anything else where she should be punished. On the other hand, reward her with approval (kino, etc.) when she does something you like. This is "training her" to behave well.
-Comfort building kino. This is where you need to get your kino more intimate such as holding hands, hugging, kissing, and other comfort building kino.
-Mirroring. You don't have to do this one, in fact sometimes in naturally happens. Mirror her movement but make it SUBTLE so it does not look rapport seeking. This will create deep rapport. The key here is subtlety. If she mirrors you, even better. Let her do it and deep rapport will come without you doing any work body language wise.
Phase Shifting
-Eye contact. You need to convey your sexuality through your eye contact and facial expressions. Have your eyelids low and relaxed slowly looking at her lips, and back up to her eyes with a seductive look.
-Arousing kino. It will definitely help to turn her on with kino such as gently pulling on the back of her hair, lightly stroking her arm, giving eachother massages. Touching her lower lip sets off arousal. To apply that, get close like you are about to kiss her, then put your finger on her lip and push her away. Also smelling her shoulders and neck works wonders. TRUST ME.
-Physical push/pull. Get her aroused and take it away, get her chasing you physically. A good implication of this is during qualifying. Once she qualifies herself, reward her by giving her a two handed high-five. Hold onto her hands and pull her in very close, to the point where your lips are brushing hers. Say what needs to be said, then push her away. (reminder: have good breath
)Seduction Stage
-Foreplay. Girls can't go straight in for sex like guys can, and most of you should know that by now. Turn her on by making out in a seductive location and caressing eachother.
-Two steps forward, one step back. This is a genious technique David DeAngelo came up with. As you are in foreplay, pull away for a minute or two to let ANTICIPATION build (one step back ), then go two steps forward back into foreplay, and progressing things a bit more like taking her shirt off (two steps forward).
-Freeze out. If you are a master of the above technique, you shouldn't need this because she should be SHAKING with anticipation by now. However, you will definitely need this a lot of the time. As you progress past foreplay and transistion into sex, MOST women will give you last minute resistance (LMR). This is hard-wired into their brains. Respect that and freeze her out. Go ahead and put your pants back on. Don't be pushing her to escalate. Respect her hard-wired response and take the attitude of "wether we have sex or not, I'm sticking around." This will give her the motivation to seduce you, or be seduced by you.
-Sex. No need to go into detail here
Now these are TECHNIQUES used throughout the pick-up. I did NOT cover your default setting such as posture, etc. and I did not cover body languages mistakes to eliminate. Those need to be taken care of also and are posted elsewhere.
By the way, I feel like I am forgetting something so if you have anything, post it and maybe I will add it if I agree.
Now go apply it.
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