Moral Dilemma

[canadiankid]

So on Xmas eve (I was outta town visiting relatives) I had been texting this girl. She's hot and definitly way into me. I had every intention of hooking up with her. I was calling it a night and heading to bed at about 3am so I said goodnight blah blah. She texts me saying "please don't go yet" so in my half awake state I ask why. She says your the only thing stopping me right now. Immediately my mind starts racing and I'm worried like suicide or cutting or some shit. I say I'm listening blah blah, I was genuinely concerned. After talking a but she says about how she self injures. So I was all sympathetic and stuff, comforted her until she agreed she was good and I went to bed at 4:30. So I got up 3 hours later for gifts with the little cousins, tired as balls etc.

So in summary: Girl likes me alot, texts me alot. Thn I find out she has some pyschological issues. Me, dealing with depression currently, slowly stop conversations with her until now when we talk every few days.
My question is did I do the right thing?

[kolby2011]

Pysco girls are the worst for serious relationships, honestly morally you did the right thing, but for me (Im a pretty big dick) I wouldnt of even txted her back because I really dont want to deal with other peoples problems, most people already have enough on there plate, its probably not that serious if she was just txting you about it aswell

[canadiankid]

It wasn't just all oh I'll tell you about it, there was a large emotional convo I'm to lazy to type. Although I haven't ruled out cry for attention.

[perceverance]

Have you read conquer your campus bro? It says that if a girl isn't helping you be positive or fun, ditch her. Harsh move, I know. But you can either help her deal with her problems or leave her. If you help her with her problems, you should still not get with her, especially if your only in it for the sex. Shit happens :/

[Contempt]

^ You can't really do that to psycho chicks. I was talking to a girl who was way into me then i found out she cuts, has depression issues, and ODs on pills. Scared the shit outta me. So is what i did was i went back read alot of material about creating attraction and how to avoid the friend zone. Then texted the girl and did EVERYTHING those pages said not to do to get myself into the friend zone with her. Then slowly backed out of talking to her. I didn't want to suddenly stop talking to her because she really liked me and i was afraid it would worsen her mental state. In my book you definitely did the right thing. Depression is a serious issue and you don't want to mess with girls who have problems with it.

-Contempt

[canadiankid]

Ok thanks for the opinions. Scared the crap outta me and I didn't want to just cut her off and have that on my conscious. Yeah I think I'm gonna have to go for friend zone, cause although we talk less I still get major IOIs

[Contempt]

It's actually good practice, to see if you can do everything wrong. Almost boosts your confidence somehow.

[slyman]

yeah man, you did the right thing. don't hook up w/ her, it will bring you down. If she needs help, she should go to a licensed professional (psychologist/psychiatrist), not keep you up until 430 am.

[canadiankid]

Yeah I know what you mean. Her mom is fucking pyscho, causes the problems and doesn't let them be resolved.
I'm almost friend zoned on the bright side haha never thought I'd ever say that

[RMO]

You should be doing the friend zoning bro

[canadiankid]

Could you please elaborate prodigy? Do you mean should become good friends with her, or I should friend zone her and try to get her out of my life gently, or did I miss it entirely on my sleep deprived study/procrastinate mode

[RMO]

I honestly think that you shouldnt get in a relationship with a psyco. FUCK her, yes. If you arent comfortable enough in your own psyche you cant deal with it. I say you friend zone her.

my previous post is just something you should do all the time. You dont fear girls because they could friend zone you, girls should fear you because you will put them in the friends zone.

but life is just a series of experiences, have your moment with her, and then go to the next one.

[canadiankid]

Ahh yeah I see what you mean. I don't think I want to mess her up psychologically any worse. She's been friend zoned by ME.

[Grape]

my god. do not fuck her and not date her. fuck you for recommending that prodigy.

honestly, you do not want that shit in your life. don't support her. leave her.

[amarok]

I half agree with Grape on this. Don't fuck her, no. But if you think you could really like her /as a friend/, then by all means support her, but do put her in that friend zone. I've had plenty of friends like this, from cutting to depression to a rape victim. I always try to help them, and with my new best friend (cutting, depression, recent really bad breakup, ect.) I found out that you help her similarly to how you would help an AFC. Help her build up her confidence and have her finds the things she's great at. And take them out to really fun social events, have them become socially adept like you would an AFC. It's helped my best friend /a lot/ already.