Depression

[perceverance]

First of all, i don't want people to think this is a thread of me wanting to get compassion from other people or whatever. i'm just letting my mind flow and unloading everything that comes to it onto this thread alright? ok.


A while back i posted an article called "what" explaining the process i was going through and the don't give a shit mindset that i was beginning to get. I now realize that this has expanded and i am beginning to suspect it is depression.

Let me fill you guys in my situation. I'm 16, i live in a place full of rich people yet i live in a shithole 1 bedroom apartment. that means i sleep in the living room because my parents have the bedroom. now, usually i forget all about this stuff, its nbd. but did i also mention my parents dont have much probabilities of getting out the situation they are in? i see this because they are much too happy living the shitty lifestyle that they live in. it may sound like i dont want them to be happy but i do, i just also want them to get out of the situation they are in and get a better lifestyle. maybe a 2 bedroom apartment while they are at it.

My daily mentality goes as follows: i go to school, get into the fun, happy mindset and try to add value to everybody's lives at school. I am fairly good with girls and have the confidence to approach anybody and hold a average conversation with them. then i do something after school sometimes but mostly i dont, because i dont have a actual group of friends that i hang out with. im pretty much a loner who is fairly popular and gets positive reactions from the people he hangs out with, but i never socialize with my friends outside of school.

Since i dont hang out with anybody after school, i cant really go to any partys because i dont get invited despite having pretty good social relationships with most of the people at my school. so i come back home at the end of the day, and when i step through the door, i get pissed off. i come home to a living room. i do my homework here, i watch tv here, and i fucking sleep here. i imagine what the other guys and girls must be doing. probably playing videogames or watching movies on their big plasma tv's in their huge living room and going on facebook or vchatting with their friends in their rooms. i have no such privacy.

I generally try to be positive but this shit is getting to me. Once i graduate, im gonna be out on my own. Im gonna have to pretty much make and earn all of my stuff including buying myself a car when these kids are gonna get a car for their birthday and get all college tuitions paid by their parents. im gonna have to work my ass of just to pay to go to a school to get ready to work my ass off some more after i graduate. I'm really not scared to die because i dont have much to lose. dont get me wrong, im definately not suicidal or anything and would not kill myself on purpose but i just feel like my life is goalless and at the same time, i have too many goals.

I dont feel comfortable inviting people to my place because as i have mentioned, its terrible. so i dont know what to do, i cant host party's, my parents dont let me sleepover at friends houses, and i cant stay too late at any partys, so im pretty much fucked. I feel like i have to set my shit straight but at the same time my parents dont help me grow up and they obviously wont be able to help me financially once the time comes. I try to be a positive guy and i have loads of fun at school but once i come home, i realize that my life is probably going nowhere.

Is it a coincidence that most of the alpha male players at my school who get the chicks and are popular tend to be the rich guys? Maybe i should move somewhere where there are alot more people of my financial status or what should i do? I'm getting past the point of not giving a shit and going into depression.

[canadiankid]

Hey bro I'm sorry to hear that your feeling that way. If you need something just hit me up with a message or something. I hate rich pricks who don't work for anything. (not saying there all pricks but some are)

[scripts]

Over here, 16 is working age. Go out and get a job, save a large amount of it for college and use a small amount to hang out with friends at places like the mall, movies, etc.

[Adam]

I can see your pain. But i sympathize the fact that you have less privacy and free dom rather than the fact you have less material things. Also i bet you a million bucks you can find not rich alphas. If you need help try searching up some rsd they talk about social dynamics and what really couts.

Oh and I have depression and maybe you too. My parents dont want me to take prozac any more so i have some experience just dealing with it. hit me up with a message if you need somebody to talk to.

[Traxx]

Except for the money thing we have the exact same problem. I'm not rich or anything but I'm not down either. I work and get money for the stuff I want and that's about it. I'm friends with pretty much everybody except i don't hang out with barely anyone after school. You're not alone on that one.

The social value you put on money is too much. If you can't do anything about the current situation, then do all you can and stop complaining. Putting yourself down for something you can't do anything about makes you worse off. Just read my signature and watch that video I recently posted. It has helped me through times like this before.

[justin125]

buddy I used to be in your situation but you want to know how I got rid of that problem. just talked to my parents let them knew how I was feeling I know it's the number one hardest thing to do but you want to know what I wish I did it sooner. and when I recommend for your social networking skills needs to be an all age club promote. I hope this helps

[perceverance]

It's mostly the fact that I don't have any privacy that pisses me off. It just seems like at 16 having a bedroom is a necessity. I have yet to meet someone in my school who does not have a room.

[Nick]

Don't get sad, get mad.

I would suggest immediately finding a way to make money and there is A LOT of ways. Find something that you like and get good at it. Make it into an income. Worst case scenario, work somewhere.

Try showing your parents that you're responsible. That's going to require something a little extreme. Somehow, surprise the fuck out of them with something good. Let them find out themselves, while turning the vibe towards your freedom.

If that doesn't work, you're going to have to go extreme the other direction. Rebel in everything you do. (I would suggest being independent beforehand - having an income, etc...). Worst case scenario, strangle them and hide their bodies

[perceverance]

^ my parents are like yours AND i dont have a room. i cant fucking wait until im out of here. im always argueing with my parents and honestly, i think im gonna evolve when i get out of here, im gonna become a more prosperous me. Personal money for me isnt such a big deal, i can get money its just that my parents' economy isn't too good so i cant get any from them.

[amarok]

Man, I know how you feel with the "might be depression". I get that same feeling of goalessness, yet knowing the goals at the same time. My dad, upper middle class, was abusive to my mom, very angry to my brothers and I, and doesn't pay for anything he doesn't have to except taking us out to hang out with him. My mom's unemployed, looking for a job, and it's just me her and my older brother. I work at a grocery store and help out with things like gas and groceries.

I'm not meaning to complain, but here's where I think about my lot in life: I'm gonna be better than that. I'm gonna be a better person than my dad was, I'm gonna be wealthier than my mom was, and I'm gonna rise above all the mediocrity I see and I'm going to be the Remarkable Man we talk about on here. How i do that is my choice, I want to be an alternative medicine practitioner.

I would say get a job, get a feel as to how it feels to have your own money and to make something of yourself. Trust me, you'll love it. I get paid 7.50 an hour at a grocery store, but it's all worth it at the end of the week. You meet A LOT of chill kids your age at a place like that, and you feel independent.

Besides what's already been said, I want to stress the mindshift to your situation. Don't resent your lot in life right now, but make it your destiny to rise above that and make something more and better of yourself. Also, for the depression-like thing, go to wiki-how's "how to perform self-hypnosis" and do the staircase exercise before bed. It helps clear my head of that goalessness, hopefully it does for you too.

[florend]

Depression can be described as sad, blue, unhappy, miserable, or down in the dumps. Most of us feel so at one time or another for short periods. Depression can alter or distort the way in which young people see themselves and their lives, as well as other people around them. People suffering from depression tend to see everything with a more negative attitude, one can imagine that any problem or situation can be resolved in a positive way.