serious help,

[chillbilly24]

sup guys first time poster, long time lurker,
so i have a bit situation on my hands, i really like this girl, and i feel like she does too, we have been on the swim team together and been really good friends for a while now, i asked her to home comming really romantically, (flowers and a big ass homemade card) but at swim pratice she told me that since it was her senior year she wanted to go with all her friends,(im a junior) i was bitter a some time and didn't really talk to her much after that, and now she has been all over me for the last 2-3 weeks, just now starting to get back to what used to be, ( forgot this but home comming was some time in late sept-early oct,) i've liked this girl for the longest time, and have no idea what to do, figured you guys could give me some advice, thanks in advance.
TL;DR been friends for a while, got some what rejected, now shes back on me, what do?

[jester]

Welcome man! Sounds like oneitis bro. As a newbie, this may be difficult to grasp, but if you want to leave the friend zone with this girl, you need to escalate with other girls. It's all good. Freeze out this girl and start flirting with others.

[chillbilly24]

man, i've had oneitis for a while, and just got out of it at the begining of the year, i've constantly been talking/flirting with other girls all year, just figured since we've started talking again what should i do? figured this would be the place to come and ask XD

[BROner]

You need to work on your inner core and become confident in your actions so you're not worried about her at all. Homecoming should've been like "Hahaha I'ma party it up with my friends too. Peace" with no bitterness. Bitterness, anger(holding onto a grudge), and depression are all key signs you need to forget about the girl and focus on yourself first. You should see life from a confident, happy, optimistic viewpoint.

I know that doesn't answer your question at all, but if you feel confident, go ahead and escalate with the girl. Get sexual and physical, but I'm afraid that will lead down another long path of one-itis.

[Contempt]

^ Basic concept of inner game. In fact, you always should put your self first, do stuff and say stuff for your own benefit, not other people's. If you bend to other peoples will and put them on a "pedestal" so to speak, all it does is establish that you have no frame and no dominance.

Feb 8, 2011 0:37:13 GMT -5 BROner said:

Homecoming should've been like "Hahaha I'ma party it up with my friends too. Peace"

No offense, bad idea. I think thats honestly really AFC as far as responding to a rejection goes. You think she thinks you just asked her out to hang out with your friends? Shes not stupid, she knows you just tried to get with her and you got rejected. In this situation you can leave with just a "Alright, bye." and walk away without looking back. Or what i would personally do is say "Soooo your going to homecoming with your girlfriends.... over me?" Her response (most likely): "Yeah.. ?" My response "Hey, lesbians are cool with me, later" (Said dead serious, turn around and walk away, ok maybe a little smirk so I don't get slapped). Alright, sorry I had to argue that, but it was bugging me.

OK, BACK TO THE POST. If your not ABSOLUTELY sure shes back into you, don't go for it. Sounds like you guys have been friends for a while and unless your SURE shes into you as more then a friend, chances are shes just being playful and friendly. Watch for IOIs! Text her, since you seemed to fall flat last time make sure you escalate, both in the sexual tension/ naughtyness of your texting and your kino, right off the bat. This doesn't mean stick your hand down her shirt next time you see her, it just means build up sexually as soon as you start talking. Make sure you keep it playful too, humor is the way to go. Also, don't be needy (this goes back into inner game). Don't ALWAYS respond to he texts immediately, and don't be afraid to tell her "you gotta go". In fact its probably better if you end most conversations. Don't be afraid to pull the trigger when the time comes, women can smell wusses from a mile a way. Keep her on her toes, I'm sure you'll do just fine man.

Good luck,

-Contempt

[BROner]

Feb 8, 2011 20:09:15 GMT -5 Contempt said:

^ Basic concept of inner game. In fact, you always should put your self first, do stuff and say stuff for your own benefit, not other people's. If you bend to other peoples will and put them on a "pedestal" so to speak, all it does is establish that you have no frame and no dominance.

Feb 8, 2011 0:37:13 GMT -5 BROner said:

Homecoming should've been like "Hahaha I'ma party it up with my friends too. Peace"

No offense, bad idea. I think thats honestly really AFC as far as responding to a rejection goes. You think she thinks you just asked her out to hang out with your friends? Shes not stupid, she knows you just tried to get with her and you got rejected. In this situation you can leave with just a "Alright, bye." and walk away without looking back. Or what i would personally do is say "Soooo your going to homecoming with your girlfriends.... over me?" Her response (most likely): "Yeah.. ?" My response "Hey, lesbians are cool with me, later" (Said dead serious, turn around and walk away, ok maybe a little smirk so I don't get slapped). Alright, sorry I had to argue that, but it was bugging me.

OK, BACK TO THE POST. If your not ABSOLUTELY sure shes back into you, don't go for it. Sounds like you guys have been friends for a while and unless your SURE shes into you as more then a friend, chances are shes just being playful and friendly. Watch for IOIs! Text her, since you seemed to fall flat last time make sure you escalate, both in the sexual tension/ naughtyness of your texting and your kino, right off the bat. This doesn't mean stick your hand down her shirt next time you see her, it just means build up sexually as soon as you start talking. Make sure you keep it playful too, humor is the way to go. Also, don't be needy (this goes back into inner game). Don't ALWAYS respond to he texts immediately, and don't be afraid to tell her "you gotta go". In fact its probably better if you end most conversations. Don't be afraid to pull the trigger when the time comes, women can smell wusses from a mile a way. Keep her on her toes, I'm sure you'll do just fine man.

Good luck,

-Contempt

Damn, caught me. I was meaning more as in his mindset not exactly what he's saying to her. That would be a total butthurt response lol. "Ok, well... I'm uh... gonna go with my friends too. I didn't want to go with you anyways!" lmao. Yeah, not like that.