Post by Grape on Feb 12, 2011 12:03:03 GMT -5
"Perception is reality."
Whatever it is you perceive reality to be, that's what reality is to you.
This is extremely significant.
People have had differing and contradicting perceptions for all of history and fought over what they thought were their realities.
If you are religious, you perceive "miracles" to be the work of God.
If you aren't religious, you perceive "miracles" to be strokes of luck.
It is with these different beliefs and values that lead us to perceive the world in our own way.
How does this tie in with attraction and rapport?
Girls aren't just a uniform thing that we can categorize to all behave the same in the same situation. They too are humans (yes I know this must be SO hard to believe at times) and they too have different contradicting perceptions from one another and from us guys.
Because these girls have different perceptions, and thus different realities, they will find different meanings in the things that you say and do.
So that means that just because one girl really seems to be attracted to how you're acting DOESN'T MEAN another girl will show the same responses.
I understand this is extremely obvious, but we must dig under the surface.
Some girls live in the cliche reality of high school, and often don't have any sort of problems with it. They meet their closest friends through school sports, their boyfriends and guy friends through growing up together in the same schools and town for years. They never really have to deal with "meeting new people" a whole lot. Thus when one of these girls encounters some cute guys they haven't met before, they are often shy and don't know what to do. They've always been stuck in their social circle of school mates.
Of course, as they age they encounter this more and more and eventually get used to dealing with meeting people outside of school, school sports games and more at random places like malls, cafes, concerts.
Other girls live in a completely different reality. They obviously do have close friends in school but they have many friends through summer camps, church, dance classes, and have friends spread outside of their own school. These girls are often more likely to be much less shy, better at talking with new people, etc. They are the ones who experience an earlier success of "mall game" and "concert game." These are the girls that most PUAs who game outside of their own schools are more successful with.
These two different types of girls I've introduced are mere extremes.
Obviously everyone has friends from both their own schools and friends from other schools. However some people really do have more outside-of-school social lives and these people are generally more social outside of school.
It is up to you to find out early in your approaches what kind of girl your target seems to be. Finding this out will help you adjust your style of game that best fits that type of girl for that specific situation.
Keep this in mind as a single game plan won't produce the expected outcome for every girl there is.
Whatever it is you perceive reality to be, that's what reality is to you.
This is extremely significant.
People have had differing and contradicting perceptions for all of history and fought over what they thought were their realities.
If you are religious, you perceive "miracles" to be the work of God.
If you aren't religious, you perceive "miracles" to be strokes of luck.
It is with these different beliefs and values that lead us to perceive the world in our own way.
How does this tie in with attraction and rapport?
Girls aren't just a uniform thing that we can categorize to all behave the same in the same situation. They too are humans (yes I know this must be SO hard to believe at times) and they too have different contradicting perceptions from one another and from us guys.
Because these girls have different perceptions, and thus different realities, they will find different meanings in the things that you say and do.
So that means that just because one girl really seems to be attracted to how you're acting DOESN'T MEAN another girl will show the same responses.
I understand this is extremely obvious, but we must dig under the surface.
Some girls live in the cliche reality of high school, and often don't have any sort of problems with it. They meet their closest friends through school sports, their boyfriends and guy friends through growing up together in the same schools and town for years. They never really have to deal with "meeting new people" a whole lot. Thus when one of these girls encounters some cute guys they haven't met before, they are often shy and don't know what to do. They've always been stuck in their social circle of school mates.
Of course, as they age they encounter this more and more and eventually get used to dealing with meeting people outside of school, school sports games and more at random places like malls, cafes, concerts.
Other girls live in a completely different reality. They obviously do have close friends in school but they have many friends through summer camps, church, dance classes, and have friends spread outside of their own school. These girls are often more likely to be much less shy, better at talking with new people, etc. They are the ones who experience an earlier success of "mall game" and "concert game." These are the girls that most PUAs who game outside of their own schools are more successful with.
These two different types of girls I've introduced are mere extremes.
Obviously everyone has friends from both their own schools and friends from other schools. However some people really do have more outside-of-school social lives and these people are generally more social outside of school.
It is up to you to find out early in your approaches what kind of girl your target seems to be. Finding this out will help you adjust your style of game that best fits that type of girl for that specific situation.
Keep this in mind as a single game plan won't produce the expected outcome for every girl there is.
