Your Reality

[Grape]

Many people have their own realities.
Some are fun and exciting.
Some are absolutely horrible and depressing.

I eat lunch with a couple of girls every now and then and one of them is always stressing over stupid immature drama.
She's always in a bad mood and she drowns everyone else into her reality.

I now stay the fuck away from her. And my life has been getting better.

Whenever she tries to spill her problems on me, I say "Umm, I'll talk to you later."
Then she either goes "Fuck you." "Ohh okay." "Fine I'll stop bitching."
It's awesome.

You have to show people that you have standards and that you aren't going to join other realities are stupid, sad, boring, depressing, and stressful.

You also have to convince yourself that getting ass ISN'T WORTH IT if the girl has severe depression and whines to you all the time.
You gotta either avoid her or tame her.

Also, you have to show people that you live in a reality that is fun, adventurous, stress-free, drama-free, spontaneous, and awesome.

It'll take time, but if you take things on one step at a time, you'll be fine.

<33 Grape

[Andrew]

dude belive me i know what you mean.

I dated a girl who was convinced she was fat.

I cant stand that, constant complaints.

[SenorBubbz]

Nov 5, 2008 21:47:20 GMT -5 Andrew said:

dude belive me i know what you mean.

I dated a girl who was convinced she was fat.

I cant stand that, constant complaints.

A girl I know (we're good friends) is always upset at her weight (she has a WONDERFUL figure).

She's also always complaining about how her ass is big. IT'S LUSCIOUS, I LOVE HER ASS AND SO DOES EVERY OTHER GUY BUT SHE JUST COMPLAINS AND COMPLAINS.

Pisses me off to be honest. Women need to STFU about themselves and their physical "defects."

[optimus]

I had that. I stopped responding and she stopped being annoying.

"I'm sooooo fat."
"Oh. Did you see that fight outside?" (Hopefully better routine, but that's the idea)

[Andrew]

Usually if they have a great figure or a great ass, they know it but still only want the attention and reassurance.

Changing the subject is iffy, because it could transmit that you agree, but dont want to say anything because its rude.

[optimus]

In my case I (correctly) assumed that she was fishing for compliments. Plus if she calls you on it you can be totally alpha and say, "If you have a genuine comment, I'd love to hear it, but don't fish for compliments with me."

If it's a genuine insecurity then I agree it's a bad move, but how often do people talk about their insecurities? Most people I know try to keep attention on their good points.

[SenorBubbz]

I usually like to say "Well I wan't gonna say anything.." but in a C&F tone and hug her (they usually make a fake pouty face and I say "aww, poor baby" and I hug them, tightly).