Post by Grape on Nov 6, 2008 21:06:29 GMT -5
As you get more experience in socializing, you will realize that some people are cool when you meet them as where others act stuck up and bitchy.
This is a test: conscious or sub-conscious.
It doesn't matter though, because after reading this article you'll realize that the shields are backed up by....... dun dun dun..... Bullshit!!!
People who act stuck up are the ones who are most insecure. They feel that they need the ability to piss people off in order to gain a bigger ego and feel more 'popular'. Of course, these people are the bullshit talkers who are hated by the REAL cool people.
The real cool people have nothing to hide and are very nice.
When someone goes "That wasn't funny" to a joke everyone else laughs at, you'll do one of the following:
- React to her in a serious manner and whine
- Make fun of her for not having a sense of humor
The key to overcoming stupid shields like these is to 'threaten the other person's ego'.
As soon as someone feels threatened, they ALWAYS try to save themselves with things like "No no, I DO have a sense of humor!"
Whether they say it in a mean or nice way, the fact that they're still trying to PROTECT THEIR OWN EGO does NOT change!!
With this, you can judge their feelings towards you by their reaction.
You can say "Prove it." in a nice way if they were replied nicely, or say it in a stuck up way if they replied in a stuck up way.
This way, you are the controller of the situation. If you keep this up for long enough, you will break the other person's frame. People ALWAYS go for the fun stuff, it's their instinct.
Now you have this concept in your head. Now you know why some people have shields and how stupid of reasons they have these shields. Now you know how to use this to your own benefit.
Good luck and Have fun,
<33 Grape
This is a test: conscious or sub-conscious.
It doesn't matter though, because after reading this article you'll realize that the shields are backed up by....... dun dun dun..... Bullshit!!!
People who act stuck up are the ones who are most insecure. They feel that they need the ability to piss people off in order to gain a bigger ego and feel more 'popular'. Of course, these people are the bullshit talkers who are hated by the REAL cool people.
The real cool people have nothing to hide and are very nice.
When someone goes "That wasn't funny" to a joke everyone else laughs at, you'll do one of the following:
- React to her in a serious manner and whine
- Make fun of her for not having a sense of humor
The key to overcoming stupid shields like these is to 'threaten the other person's ego'.
As soon as someone feels threatened, they ALWAYS try to save themselves with things like "No no, I DO have a sense of humor!"
Whether they say it in a mean or nice way, the fact that they're still trying to PROTECT THEIR OWN EGO does NOT change!!
With this, you can judge their feelings towards you by their reaction.
You can say "Prove it." in a nice way if they were replied nicely, or say it in a stuck up way if they replied in a stuck up way.
This way, you are the controller of the situation. If you keep this up for long enough, you will break the other person's frame. People ALWAYS go for the fun stuff, it's their instinct.
Now you have this concept in your head. Now you know why some people have shields and how stupid of reasons they have these shields. Now you know how to use this to your own benefit.
Good luck and Have fun,
<33 Grape
