Post by clarity on Mar 15, 2011 0:23:51 GMT -5
Hey guys, it's Clarity again. Sorry that it's been so long, I've been busy with school, girls, and just life in general >_>
Just a status update, I gamed Anne right and now we're in a relationship. I would like to say that eh, it's restraining, but I think it's worth it. There's one problem though with this relationship that's bothering me a tad bit though, and it's not so simple in my opinion. For background information, what I always used to do when I gamed her was tease her about everything (and I mean EVERYTHING. HAHA.). It was pretty good for breaking rapport that I build with her and kept me well out of the LJBF zone while letting me initiate a bunch of kino (hugging her and patronizing her) (this is a note for some of you who are stuck there). The problem is, that now that we're in a full blown relationship, I find it hard to start escalating and buy some temperature because we're so used to saying things such as "Why would I want to be tied to you?" (when I jokingly tied our hands together to hint at holding hands).
I don't want to just hold out my hand and let her grab it, I kind of feel that goes against the kino ladder. It puts unnecessary pressure and tension in "Oh, when am I going to ask her to hold my hand/kiss her/etc. ?" or "Oh my god, when is he going to hold my hand/kiss me/etc. ?" I want get into sort of that more kino-based relationship and not into one where just initiating a kiss is an uphill battle. Any suggestions?
Oh, and one thing that I noticed is that she kind of veers back when I go to touch her face to pull her cheek/ wipe some mascara off of her eyelid/ pat her on her head. Is there something that I'm missing?
Cheers
Just a status update, I gamed Anne right and now we're in a relationship. I would like to say that eh, it's restraining, but I think it's worth it. There's one problem though with this relationship that's bothering me a tad bit though, and it's not so simple in my opinion. For background information, what I always used to do when I gamed her was tease her about everything (and I mean EVERYTHING. HAHA.). It was pretty good for breaking rapport that I build with her and kept me well out of the LJBF zone while letting me initiate a bunch of kino (hugging her and patronizing her) (this is a note for some of you who are stuck there). The problem is, that now that we're in a full blown relationship, I find it hard to start escalating and buy some temperature because we're so used to saying things such as "Why would I want to be tied to you?" (when I jokingly tied our hands together to hint at holding hands).
I don't want to just hold out my hand and let her grab it, I kind of feel that goes against the kino ladder. It puts unnecessary pressure and tension in "Oh, when am I going to ask her to hold my hand/kiss her/etc. ?" or "Oh my god, when is he going to hold my hand/kiss me/etc. ?" I want get into sort of that more kino-based relationship and not into one where just initiating a kiss is an uphill battle. Any suggestions?
Oh, and one thing that I noticed is that she kind of veers back when I go to touch her face to pull her cheek/ wipe some mascara off of her eyelid/ pat her on her head. Is there something that I'm missing?
Cheers