Having fun can mean soooo much that one hesitates to describe it. Much like when Spongebob tried to describe it to plankton lol.
Anyway, you cannot guarantee to be popular in a few days or weeks even! It takes time and effort to actually do it and is, in fact
VERY hard to describe it on here. So I'll try to lay it bare.
1.) Giving value is only applicable IF, and only IF the comfort between you and the person is there.
- Like for example; you have known each other for a long time, you're practically friends with the guy!
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WHAT TO DO? • Find what interests these people, say they are in a sports team in school then talk about their sport and what they do. If you can, join the sport team. It makes it appear that you are active and not "invisible".
• If s/he has likes or dislikes don't agree with them all the time. It seems needy and makes you enough to be pushed around 'cause you don't seem to have any individuality.
2.) Having "fun".
Many of the mods, specialists and pros here will favour natural game to routine based game. Why?
I will try paraphrase what Tyler Durden from RSD said once.
"Having fun is just doing your own thing, regardless of what other people think. It's your reality, why let people dictate how you should act? Huh?!"
And that was the turning point for me. It helped me transition from a routine grabbing, line spitting nerd who never looked anything up properly. But I digress.
Having fun is just basically being in the moment, being the jerk that people love and love being it. You don't take things too seriously, school is a social place, why waste time doing nothing when you can talk to different people? Doing what you feel like doing IS okay.
If you like chess, so be it. If you like video games, who doesn't? If you like photography, stamp collecting or whatever then its cool. Even gardening is cool for me and people don't call me on it.
But that won't be enough. You have to show that what you're doing IS cool by the way you react with people.
Let me elaborate.I have a friend in school, we'll name him George and he is one of the most alpha of the alphas in the school. He has fun with people, he jokes with them, talks with them, asks questions and seems to intrigue all of us. Even the "badass mofo" of alphas - we'll name him Mickey got nothing on him. George is soooo congruent at how he displays value that it seems like he plans it every time. He probably even eats value it on a daily basis! (Okay bad example lol but you get the point)
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WHAT TO DO?[/b]
• Talk to the alphas and try to befriend them or anyone that seems to be "lower" of status in his group. That will be a good place to start. Contrary to AFC belief alphas are some of the friendliest guys you can meet in school. They can seemingly share some of their value with you when you're just there with him and his group. Like a leech per se.
That's about it from me. I would love to get this post a whole lot longer but I got homework sooo... Oh and as always...
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