How to talk to girls in class?

[natedizzle]

I go to a charter school and usually their are different girls every week, But I am so used to just doing my work and getting out of their without saying a word that it scares me to even think about talking to girls. For instance, There was a cute girl who sat right next to me today and I could've easily called her out on being faded because she was drenched in perfume with her sunglasses on in class, but I have a fear that it would go awkward and I'd sit by her for another 30 minutes feeling like I'm being judged by others. What are some things I can do to get over that fear and start talking to girls in class? thanks.

[amarok]

Do it.

The only way to conquer a fear is to go right into the storm and see that there's still sunlight on the other end. Once you do it once, it'll be a little bit easier the next time. Do it again, it'll be even easier the next time. So on and so forth. You just have to get over that fear by taking it head-on.

[Adam]

yeah i agree with amarok if she replys negatively then its her fault cause you know your a funny guy and she just has no sense of humor. if this becomes a pattern among girls thats when you look at yourself. If the girls constantly change you have nothing to lose.

[Nick]

First off, you need to accept the fact that you will be judged by people. You are judged every day even if you try to hide amongst the "invisible" crowd. If you talk to girls, whether you succeed or fail, you will be judged, but they're just jealous. There's a famous quote by Dr. Seuss - "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

As for actually talking to girls, you just gotta do it. Whatever comes to your mind to say to the girl, instead of repressing it(like you usually do), just say it as soon as you think it. If she reacts negatively, it's no big deal. You can't learn unless you fail. Failing, to be honest, is almost better because you get to learn from it and improve yourself. So follow Nike's slogan and "Just Do It".

[Amb1valence]

Yeah, pretty much what everyone else says. Whatever comes to your mind, anything below the level of "I wanna rail you on the teacher's desk" is fair game, say it right away. But say it firmly, with 100% confidence.

Try going the "success is only a bonus" route too - expect her to not like it. If she doesn't like it, it won't phase you, you just get back up and try again in a couple minutes. If she does like it, well hey sweet.

[infamous93]

A good tip in class is to laugh and crack a few jokes in class with either the teacher or one of your fellow students, work the room and sure enough talking to any girl in that class will be very easy.