Regression

[jester]

Has anyone ever felt like they are regressing with their game, or that you are falling back into your old AFC ways? I dot want to drag this out, just want to start a discussion.

[infamous93]

ya I definatly do, it makes me really angry, although I always pull through.

[RMO]

my oneitis did that for a minute

[milehighclubber]

I'm actually having many episodes of AFC regression and I'm pretty pissed lol. My last school year I was one of the underdogs for being popular cuz I did so many things. I even had 2 potential partners but never studied escalation very well.

Now I'm in grade 12 I feel like a nobody again. Ever since I read 'The Power of now' and watched RSD's Blueprint I just can't be bothered to get girls anymore. Everythng is falling apart... I'm trying but its either my vibe, voice and/or whatever is failing me.

I just feel so afraid again. And I don't know what to do anymore.

[taxman]

I could never go back to being afc unless I get hit by a car and forget everything .. I used to feel a lot of outcome dependence on my nights out like if I didn't get results I'd go home sad and if I did I felt like a hero and that's when you feel like your regressing. But now that my thoughts are clear and I have a burning desire to succeed (after reading the book I recommended) even if I get blown out 30 times the next weekend I'm at it again. I used to feel like I had little motivation to even go out and I felt like I was regressing only because I was going 50/50 with this.

[canadiankid]

All the fucking time. Well I just finally over spring break got over my outcome dependency and started enjoying the interaction. It genuinely wasn't about what kind if close I got but how much I enjoyed getting there. It's weird cause it feels like I'm growing and changing every week as I start to internalize new things and start to actually think for myself rather than accept what I'm told. This will hopefully be my big break through into not undergoing regression periods as often.

My biggest "regression" right now is a feeling of misogyny that sometimes overwhelms my decision making (more to follow in my journal) that may stem from deep seated issues with my mother.

[amarok]

What you're all experiencing, me included, is just part of mastery. I think it was David D that put it this way, and it really rings true.

When you first study something, you get it and all, you're advancing. Then you hit a slump, you feel like you're regressing and not going anywhere. Eventually, you reach a breakthrough, whether from self inflection, practice or from learning something new.

It passes. But if you think there is a specific problem, meditate on it, literally. Find the source and work to fix it.

[Nick]

Yeah, I've felt it, too, and pretty recently at that. I just got over it like yesterday though no joke.

I think the problem is that the AFC inside of us is never killed. I KNOW I could easily fall back to being the exact way I was. My awkwardness, my boringness, my addictions, my everything is still all inside me but I just never go back to it because I know how bad it was, but I even doubt now how bad it REALLY was. It's weird.

I wish I could just kill all those feelings as I progressed.

[infamous93]

I find that these feelings are brought by over thinking things, getting a girl is easy and fun

But some times I way over think things and become insecure it literally drives me insane.

[jester]

Damn successful post On my part. My regression seems to be from lack of motivation and my inner 'beta'. This approval seeking awkwardness is returning. This lack of motivation alsO reciprocates my social roadblock. I'm almost done with high school, the 2nd or third week of May. I'm not the popular guy I wish I was and my closes are child's play. I think if I'm going to make any progress, college is the place.

[infamous93]

^ I hope what ever happens you are a happy man good luck!