Am I conceeded for complimenting myself everyday?

[natedizzle]

First of all I couldn't post a thread so I just made this a poll, anyway I've had a big self esteem problem growing up so now I tell myself stuff like I'm a fun guy and I never make things awkward with anybody, and that I'm funny, just stuff like that but I'm scared that I'll just turn conceeded. If I will turn conceeded for that then what other things can I do to start developing self confidence? thanks

[RMO]

look up afformation. What your doing is Affirmation, and it doenst really work all that well

[Nick]

Complimenting yourself isn't a bad thing if you're just doing it in your head or talking to yourself. It's something called self-affirmations. Search it on this forum or the interwebs and you'll find stuff about it. Complimenting yourself everyday is actually a good way to build (fake) confidence and it will show to others that you're confident. Some guys have gone so far as to make a routine every time they wake up to say off a list of compliments to themselves. Grape even did it. He has a post somewhere.

Bragging is completely different, though. You're not like bragging about yourself in public are you?

Basically, you may not be conceited now, but you may become so. Just be careful that you don't ever think you're better than anyone and that you're too good to do something. You should still compliment yourself.

[taxman]

Complimenting yourself everyday won't give you fake confidence. Pua gives you fake confidence and pushes you further from the truth .. Telling your self that your a cool dude and believing it truly is what everybody should do even take it to the extremes, if your positive thought patterns over ride your negative thought patterns your actions will follow through and that's when your results come through. With pua it sends you infield with techniques but deep inside your caught up in a rat race to show others that your successful with women. Sorry if its off topic

[Contempt]

^ Are you kidding me?

Sorry if it seems like I argue with you alot taxman, i like your beliefs about being natural and all, but I guess I disagree with you on a lot of other stuff. Telling yourself constantly that your cool is the pattern of someone who is insecure. And trust me, theres a high correlation between guys who think there "hot shit" constantly and those guys that no body likes.

Be cocky, but don't let your confidence just come from mentally jacking yourself off. I believe the exact opposite as you. I let my actions, and my results determine my confidence in myself in picking up girls. Heres how PUA works, you gain a little confidence through whatever techniques your learn (natural, mm, whatever) and that confidence shines through just a little bit in your sex life. That slight improvement in your sex life makes your brain say "woah, i am good at this" creating even more confidence. This confidence in turn makes your game even better becoming a vicious circle of awesome.

I'm not saying you shouldn't see anything good in yourself. Obviously you should see the good in yourself and focus on the positive, but don't blow it out of proportion and let it become where you draw all your confidence from, it will just fuck you up. Like prodigy said, its just affirmation. There is one use for it, and thats when you don't have much confidence and your just starting PUA you can use affirmations to get the circle jumpstarted, since women will even notice a bit of "fake" confidence. Remember though, true confidence in women comes from experience, just like in anything else.

-Contempt

[taxman]

Yeah its cool, we have diff views. Yours is Actions » Confidence, mine is Confidence » Actions .. If you get an ego from telling yourself your cool and will be good with women then yeah its fake but I don't believe you should let your actions and results determine how confident you are. What if your pushing hard at it and doing the right things but just aren't getting results due to a small thing or two.. Your gonna get down about it and it will reflect in your actions and results and your thoughts will start to back you up and you'll have alil doubt in your abilities. Now if your confidence leads your actions then your backing yourself up and not validating your infield skillset to get that confidence. Yes maybe if your new at this then your results won't show through but that's no reason to stop. Keep your belief, your motivation keep telling yourself your an awesome dude and you can do it and success will be around the corner.

[canadiankid]

"And trust me, theres a high correlation between guys who think there "hot shit" constantly and those guys that no body likes."

This pretty much answers the question, watch out for that and you'll be fine

[Slick]

Apr 6, 2011 18:01:48 GMT -5 canadiankid said:

"And trust me, theres a high correlation between guys who think there "hot shit" constantly and those guys that no body likes."

This pretty much answers the question, watch out for that and you'll be fine

That fucked me up at one point, seriously... watch out.

[canadiankid]

That was me before PU. All false confidence but I came across as thinking I was hot shit. I was the biggest loser