What's your thought on becoming confident + happy?

[natedizzle]

I've spent over 2 years reading self help books and yet they still haven't worked out for me. I try to like myself for who I am and accept myself but I've come to realize that I want to be a confident, outgoing, and funny person that's always fun to be around. Right now I'm just insecure, hate attention, and the only thing that has been getting me around is my looks. I keep telling myself that I just need to read one more self help book or once I start talking o people I will be fixed and super confident but that's not going to happen for at least a month. I don't want to make this too long so does confidence come from within? and how do you get it because It's so hard for me to get in the righ mindset where I don't care what people think about me anymore.

[taxman]

Confidence is when you perceive nothing holds you back.

[infamous93]

Confidence is the single most important thing you can have in PUA, really women are irristably drawn to the confident one expecially in high school.

Confidence is where you do what you want, make your own rules and not give a shit about what people think of you.

You must be the one having the most fun in the intire group, the center of attention is what you want to be.

The only way to achieve this is through practicing social skills so go out and talk to people you haven't before, go for it man start living your life.

[perceverance]

FUCK IT. Those two words describe what you feel when you are confident. Confidence is not something that you can feel really, there are just moments in my case when you feel like nothing can get in your way, and if it does, you will take care of it. It's when you have no worries.

Get that mentality and you will be golden.

[Adam]

^lol so true

That should be this boards slogan FUCK IT

[RMO]

My signature is my advice for confidence

[nutrick]

listen. i know exactly what you're talkin about. I read the power of now, zen therapy, fuckin everything about buddhism and shit. I feel like that's the "I don't give a fuck" attitude on an existential degree. You have to give some fucks to truly get what you want. But the "I don't give a fuck attitude" we talk about is just about not caring what other people think, and the only way to do that is to do shit that you're uncomfortable with, consistently. Competence breeds confidence. fellow IDGAFers are more action-oriented, I've found, and less hesitant, which can be taught. Practice Practice Practice. You have to not leave your results to chance, stack your odds as much as you can.

[Andrew]

But forreal


Confidence is knowing who you are, and loving it.

It's not something you can learn from a book or another person. It's something you really need to find on your own. It's like teachers, we can only show you the door, but you gotta walk through it.


My advice is do things outside of your comfort zone. Anything. Doesn't have to be girl related. Anything that isn't totally normal or makes you comfortable.

And honestly dude, have some fun. Forget EVERYTHING else and just do what you can to have fun. Try these mindsets:

What can I be doing to give me the maximum amount of fun RIGHT NOW?

From now on, every action I do and every choice I make should make me happy. Do what makes me happy.

The more you have fun, the more the people around you will have fun, and the more everyone else will enjoy being around you, and the more YOU'LL enjoy being around you



this might help:

highschoolpuas.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=confidence&action=display&thread=4985

[Shampoo]

Thats the problem bro, your giving yourself excuses not to start. How come its not going to happen for another month? Because your books wont get shipped by then? Go out and experience life, thats a good start to gaining confidence, by getting knocked down. That way you'll get stronger and you start standing up for yourself. Everything you need in life is IN YOU. You dont just get the confidence powerup because you read books. Yes reading books about this stuff is GREAT, but when you start making excuses because of it thats when it holds you back. Start talking to people now