Post by Grape on Nov 7, 2008 18:29:53 GMT -5
Written By L.A. Tripp
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Building attraction and comfort over the phone.
Since the last newsletter was about texting, I thought it would be good to pair it with this one on phone game.
Obviously, you're very first contact with a girl won't be over the phone. You will have talked to her either in person or online first. So, you should have some very basic info to start with. Better yet a foundation to build on.
When you get the girl on the phone the first time, it's best to connect her memory back to something about you from before you got on the phone. This is slight anchoring. You do this simply by bringing the idea up in a casual way, quickly.
This is the time to immediately start building attraction and comfort, at the same time. You can't kino over the phone, so you need to focus on things like teasing and push/pull. You also need to engage her emotions. You can DHV yourself on the phone too, but I actually don't recommend spending a lot of time on this aspect. You want to keep her talking too, taking a part in the convo since she has no body language to watch as she would in person. This helps to keep her actively involved in your convo. You'll know that her mind is not wandering much, if at all because you'll know that she's focused on where your conversation is going. Or, you'll also know if she's not focused and you need to cut the phone call short, thereby DHVing yourself.
A couple of other notes about how you handle yourself on the phone. Don't be overly C & F since she doesn't have the benefit of reading your body language, as I've already mentioned, and leave out the cute little filler words. You know, the "um . . . yeah . . . ok . . . uh . . . sigh . . . well . . . and uh . . . anyway . . . ", etc.
In other words, don't run your mouth the entire time you're on the phone without letting her get a word in.
The key here is to be fun on the phone. Keep her interest, keep her laughing. She doesn't have to laugh non-stop, but here and there get her to laugh. In between laughs you can snip threads, start new ones, etc. You can even probe for a few details here and there. Make mental notes of pieces of information that she drops throughout the conversation. Use things that she says to tease her with. However, stay away from some of the cliches, such as . . . if she works in a pharmacy, or is a doctor or a nurse, or something in the medical field, do NOT ask her if she can get you any good drugs. That's lamer than lame. You want to be interesting, not boring.
Another thing to keep in mind when on the phone, aside from keeping her laughing, is to generally be interesting and intriguing. This maintains some mystery, gives her something to hold onto while she probes for more, which she will, and gives her clues to put together about your personality, without you specifically telling her details about yourself. Of course, those details will still be asked by her at different points, which also shows you more IOI's and tells you where she stands. However, don't volunteer those details until she asks for them. She will let you know she is genuinely interested in those details BY asking for them.
You should make back to back statements that seem to contradict each other in the way of pushing her away then pulling her back to you verbally. This sends her mixed signals and keeps her mind on you. In her mind, on the one hand she knows what's going on and where she stands, but on the other hand she's not sure.
This keeps her on the edge, which is where you want her. Believe it or not, it's also where SHE wants to be too. Girls do NOT want a boring guy, period.
When you play the game successfully, including phone game, she WILL have YOU on HER mind ALL DAY. Bet on it
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I've seduced women through texts and have personally taught other guys how to do the same thing.
Women are seduced mentally more than anything else. Even in your face to face interactions with them, it's a mental game, mostly. Hence, texting game. The trick is to take her on a very short mental journey while she reads your text. Then, have her anticipating the next one to come . . .
When you start texting a girl, you should have already opened her, and have at least SOME rapport with her, or some base to start from.
Obviously not much info can be elaborated on within a text, so you have to compact everything. This is good. This means you have to learn to get your point across within a tiny space. This also means you can leave her hanging on certain points. This leads to further seduction, which women absolutely love.
One key here is to work on creating powerful images in her head with just a few words or characters in a text. There is a fine line here. Details are good, and girls LOVE the details of a seduction. Yet, you don't want to give away too many details too quick, especially if you want to stretch the seduction out over several texts, which is what you DO want to do.
On the one hand, you need to paint clear, and at TIMES explicit word pictures over the texts to build the imagery in the mind of the target. This will cause her to be focused on YOU and what you are leading her into. She will literally be waiting on the other end for what's coming next . . . all the while waiting to see YOU in person to fulfill these mental images FOR REAL.
On the other hand, you don't want to give away every detail because you want to keep her hanging, waiting for more. You WANT to build the anticipation in her. To put it bluntly, you want to make her wet . . . and KEEP her wet throughout the day, or whatever time period you're texting her the seduction.
You're probably thinking, where is the balance? Well, as I said, it's a fine line. In essence, you begin to paint the picture, then stop just short of fulfilling it. And, you can repeat this process again and again. You can build her up, let her hang, even let her drop just a bit (but not too much), build her back up, let her hang, etc. And don't worry, her mind is already progressing beyond the next text that you send, but she still wants to see the next text. She wants to see what YOU have on YOUR mind for her. What YOU want to do WITH her and TO her.
A note here. I said above that you can let her drop just a bit. Now, if you were face to face seducing her, you could let her completely drop for a short time and pick her back up. Over texting, it's a different dynamic. You need to be aware of that.
So, here's the deal. With each and every text, you build her . . . slowly . . . yet not completely . . . just a bit at a time. You don't have to use the entire space available for each text either. You leave her wanting more with each text. Leave her having the urge to check her phone every minute for the next text to see where you are going with it. With each additional text you build, just a bit more, on what the last text was. The texts are also spaced out, NOT one right after the other.
You don't want to be desperate, needy, or clingy in ANY interaction with your target. This is no exception.
Now that you have an idea of the seduction done through texting, let's talk briefly about other gaming through texting.
Texting is, at it's core, communication. Which means, what you would say to a girl in person, you SHOULD say to her through texting. Your personality needs to come across so that you are congruent whether in person or not. Now, sure, in person, or on the phone, voice tones and body language and other factors are taken into account that you can't see through texting. Well, that's where smilies come into play. Believe it or not, smilies do actually help to carry the general tone of the comment across.
Just as in person, you would want her to take a part in the convo, you should also expect that through texting too. Which means, you don't send her a dozen texts without her responding to something. If you do that, you are seriously out of luck with that particular girl. You need to flush her and move on, period, NOW.
Your texts should be interesting, just as your face to face conversing should be interesting. With that in mind, she will WANT to respond to your texts. That shows IOI's on her part. That shows you where she stands, that she is interested and you aren't wasting your time.
And, just as with threads you start, stop, or snip in person, you can and should do that through texts as well. It serves the same purpose as doing it face to face.
Now, I have a whole post in my Vault about seduction through text game, so join my Vault and check that out for more on this. You'll see an actual example there.
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Building attraction and comfort over the phone.
Since the last newsletter was about texting, I thought it would be good to pair it with this one on phone game.
Obviously, you're very first contact with a girl won't be over the phone. You will have talked to her either in person or online first. So, you should have some very basic info to start with. Better yet a foundation to build on.
When you get the girl on the phone the first time, it's best to connect her memory back to something about you from before you got on the phone. This is slight anchoring. You do this simply by bringing the idea up in a casual way, quickly.
This is the time to immediately start building attraction and comfort, at the same time. You can't kino over the phone, so you need to focus on things like teasing and push/pull. You also need to engage her emotions. You can DHV yourself on the phone too, but I actually don't recommend spending a lot of time on this aspect. You want to keep her talking too, taking a part in the convo since she has no body language to watch as she would in person. This helps to keep her actively involved in your convo. You'll know that her mind is not wandering much, if at all because you'll know that she's focused on where your conversation is going. Or, you'll also know if she's not focused and you need to cut the phone call short, thereby DHVing yourself.
A couple of other notes about how you handle yourself on the phone. Don't be overly C & F since she doesn't have the benefit of reading your body language, as I've already mentioned, and leave out the cute little filler words. You know, the "um . . . yeah . . . ok . . . uh . . . sigh . . . well . . . and uh . . . anyway . . . ", etc.
In other words, don't run your mouth the entire time you're on the phone without letting her get a word in.
The key here is to be fun on the phone. Keep her interest, keep her laughing. She doesn't have to laugh non-stop, but here and there get her to laugh. In between laughs you can snip threads, start new ones, etc. You can even probe for a few details here and there. Make mental notes of pieces of information that she drops throughout the conversation. Use things that she says to tease her with. However, stay away from some of the cliches, such as . . . if she works in a pharmacy, or is a doctor or a nurse, or something in the medical field, do NOT ask her if she can get you any good drugs. That's lamer than lame. You want to be interesting, not boring.
Another thing to keep in mind when on the phone, aside from keeping her laughing, is to generally be interesting and intriguing. This maintains some mystery, gives her something to hold onto while she probes for more, which she will, and gives her clues to put together about your personality, without you specifically telling her details about yourself. Of course, those details will still be asked by her at different points, which also shows you more IOI's and tells you where she stands. However, don't volunteer those details until she asks for them. She will let you know she is genuinely interested in those details BY asking for them.
You should make back to back statements that seem to contradict each other in the way of pushing her away then pulling her back to you verbally. This sends her mixed signals and keeps her mind on you. In her mind, on the one hand she knows what's going on and where she stands, but on the other hand she's not sure.
This keeps her on the edge, which is where you want her. Believe it or not, it's also where SHE wants to be too. Girls do NOT want a boring guy, period.
When you play the game successfully, including phone game, she WILL have YOU on HER mind ALL DAY. Bet on it
=======================================
I've seduced women through texts and have personally taught other guys how to do the same thing.
Women are seduced mentally more than anything else. Even in your face to face interactions with them, it's a mental game, mostly. Hence, texting game. The trick is to take her on a very short mental journey while she reads your text. Then, have her anticipating the next one to come . . .
When you start texting a girl, you should have already opened her, and have at least SOME rapport with her, or some base to start from.
Obviously not much info can be elaborated on within a text, so you have to compact everything. This is good. This means you have to learn to get your point across within a tiny space. This also means you can leave her hanging on certain points. This leads to further seduction, which women absolutely love.
One key here is to work on creating powerful images in her head with just a few words or characters in a text. There is a fine line here. Details are good, and girls LOVE the details of a seduction. Yet, you don't want to give away too many details too quick, especially if you want to stretch the seduction out over several texts, which is what you DO want to do.
On the one hand, you need to paint clear, and at TIMES explicit word pictures over the texts to build the imagery in the mind of the target. This will cause her to be focused on YOU and what you are leading her into. She will literally be waiting on the other end for what's coming next . . . all the while waiting to see YOU in person to fulfill these mental images FOR REAL.
On the other hand, you don't want to give away every detail because you want to keep her hanging, waiting for more. You WANT to build the anticipation in her. To put it bluntly, you want to make her wet . . . and KEEP her wet throughout the day, or whatever time period you're texting her the seduction.
You're probably thinking, where is the balance? Well, as I said, it's a fine line. In essence, you begin to paint the picture, then stop just short of fulfilling it. And, you can repeat this process again and again. You can build her up, let her hang, even let her drop just a bit (but not too much), build her back up, let her hang, etc. And don't worry, her mind is already progressing beyond the next text that you send, but she still wants to see the next text. She wants to see what YOU have on YOUR mind for her. What YOU want to do WITH her and TO her.
A note here. I said above that you can let her drop just a bit. Now, if you were face to face seducing her, you could let her completely drop for a short time and pick her back up. Over texting, it's a different dynamic. You need to be aware of that.
So, here's the deal. With each and every text, you build her . . . slowly . . . yet not completely . . . just a bit at a time. You don't have to use the entire space available for each text either. You leave her wanting more with each text. Leave her having the urge to check her phone every minute for the next text to see where you are going with it. With each additional text you build, just a bit more, on what the last text was. The texts are also spaced out, NOT one right after the other.
You don't want to be desperate, needy, or clingy in ANY interaction with your target. This is no exception.
Now that you have an idea of the seduction done through texting, let's talk briefly about other gaming through texting.
Texting is, at it's core, communication. Which means, what you would say to a girl in person, you SHOULD say to her through texting. Your personality needs to come across so that you are congruent whether in person or not. Now, sure, in person, or on the phone, voice tones and body language and other factors are taken into account that you can't see through texting. Well, that's where smilies come into play. Believe it or not, smilies do actually help to carry the general tone of the comment across.
Just as in person, you would want her to take a part in the convo, you should also expect that through texting too. Which means, you don't send her a dozen texts without her responding to something. If you do that, you are seriously out of luck with that particular girl. You need to flush her and move on, period, NOW.
Your texts should be interesting, just as your face to face conversing should be interesting. With that in mind, she will WANT to respond to your texts. That shows IOI's on her part. That shows you where she stands, that she is interested and you aren't wasting your time.
And, just as with threads you start, stop, or snip in person, you can and should do that through texts as well. It serves the same purpose as doing it face to face.
Now, I have a whole post in my Vault about seduction through text game, so join my Vault and check that out for more on this. You'll see an actual example there.