Post by Grape on Nov 8, 2008 17:42:46 GMT -5
Technique #1
The Flooding Smile
Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet
someone, as though anyone who walked into your line
of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the
other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their
persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood
over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will
engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second
delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine
and only for them.
Technique #2
Sticky Eyes
Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation
partner’s with sticky warm taffy. Don’t break eye
contact even after he or she has finished speaking.
When you must look away, do it ever so slowly,
reluctantly, stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny
string finally breaks.
Technique #3
Epoxy Eyes
This brazen technique packs a powerful punch. Watch
your target person even when someone else is talking.
No matter who is speaking, keep looking at the man or
woman you want to impact.
Technique #4
Hang by Your Teeth
Visualize a circus iron-jaw bit hanging from the frame
of every door you walk through. Take a bite and, with
it firmly between your teeth, let it swoop you to the
peak of the big top. When you hang by your teeth,
every muscle is stretched into perfect posture position.
Technique #5
The Big-Baby Pivot
Give everyone you meet The Big-Baby Pivot. The
instant the two of you are introduced, reward your new
acquaintance. Give the warm smile, the total-body
turn, and the undivided attention you would give a tiny
tyke who crawled up to your feet, turned a precious
face up to yours, and beamed a big toothless grin.
Pivoting 100 percent toward the new person shouts “I
think you are very, very special.”
Technique #6
Hello Old Friend
When meeting someone, imagine he or she is an old
friend (an old customer, an old beloved, or someone
else you had great affection for). How sad, the vicissitudes
of life tore you two asunder. But, holy mackerel,
now the party (the meeting, the convention) has
reunited you with your long-lost old friend!
The joyful experience starts a remarkable chain
reaction in your body from the subconscious softening
of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes—and
everything between.
Technique #7
Limit the Fidget
Whenever your conversation really counts, let your nose
itch, your ear tingle, or your foot prickle. Do not
fidget, twitch, wiggle, squirm, or scratch. And above
all, keep your paws away from your puss. Hand
motions near your face and all fidgeting can give your
listener the gut feeling you’re fibbing.
Technique #8
Hans’s Horse Sense
Make it a habit to get on a dual track while talking.
Express yourself, but keep a keen eye on how your
listener is reacting to what you’re saying. Then plan
your moves accordingly.
If a horse can do it, so can a human. People will say
you pick up on everything. You never miss a trick.
You’ve got horse sense.
Technique #9
Watch the Scene Before You Make the Scene
Rehearse being the Super Somebody you want to be
ahead of time. SEE yourself walking around with Hang
by Your Teeth posture, shaking hands, smiling the
Flooding Smile, and making Sticky Eyes. HEAR yourself
chatting comfortably with everyone. FEEL the
pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone
is gravitating toward you. VISUALIZE yourself a Super
Somebody. Then it all happens automatically.
The Flooding Smile
Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet
someone, as though anyone who walked into your line
of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the
other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their
persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood
over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will
engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second
delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine
and only for them.
Technique #2
Sticky Eyes
Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation
partner’s with sticky warm taffy. Don’t break eye
contact even after he or she has finished speaking.
When you must look away, do it ever so slowly,
reluctantly, stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny
string finally breaks.
Technique #3
Epoxy Eyes
This brazen technique packs a powerful punch. Watch
your target person even when someone else is talking.
No matter who is speaking, keep looking at the man or
woman you want to impact.
Technique #4
Hang by Your Teeth
Visualize a circus iron-jaw bit hanging from the frame
of every door you walk through. Take a bite and, with
it firmly between your teeth, let it swoop you to the
peak of the big top. When you hang by your teeth,
every muscle is stretched into perfect posture position.
Technique #5
The Big-Baby Pivot
Give everyone you meet The Big-Baby Pivot. The
instant the two of you are introduced, reward your new
acquaintance. Give the warm smile, the total-body
turn, and the undivided attention you would give a tiny
tyke who crawled up to your feet, turned a precious
face up to yours, and beamed a big toothless grin.
Pivoting 100 percent toward the new person shouts “I
think you are very, very special.”
Technique #6
Hello Old Friend
When meeting someone, imagine he or she is an old
friend (an old customer, an old beloved, or someone
else you had great affection for). How sad, the vicissitudes
of life tore you two asunder. But, holy mackerel,
now the party (the meeting, the convention) has
reunited you with your long-lost old friend!
The joyful experience starts a remarkable chain
reaction in your body from the subconscious softening
of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes—and
everything between.
Technique #7
Limit the Fidget
Whenever your conversation really counts, let your nose
itch, your ear tingle, or your foot prickle. Do not
fidget, twitch, wiggle, squirm, or scratch. And above
all, keep your paws away from your puss. Hand
motions near your face and all fidgeting can give your
listener the gut feeling you’re fibbing.
Technique #8
Hans’s Horse Sense
Make it a habit to get on a dual track while talking.
Express yourself, but keep a keen eye on how your
listener is reacting to what you’re saying. Then plan
your moves accordingly.
If a horse can do it, so can a human. People will say
you pick up on everything. You never miss a trick.
You’ve got horse sense.
Technique #9
Watch the Scene Before You Make the Scene
Rehearse being the Super Somebody you want to be
ahead of time. SEE yourself walking around with Hang
by Your Teeth posture, shaking hands, smiling the
Flooding Smile, and making Sticky Eyes. HEAR yourself
chatting comfortably with everyone. FEEL the
pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone
is gravitating toward you. VISUALIZE yourself a Super
Somebody. Then it all happens automatically.
- Leil Lowndes "How To Talk To Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success In Relationships"
