Post by Andrew on May 16, 2011 3:28:57 GMT -5
(This post might not be for everyone. That's okay. major ups to two step)
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How would you act if you could do whatever you wanted to do?
What would you say if you could say whatever you wanted to say?
How would you be if you really acted like yourself?
Under all these lines, these routines, all these exercises, one thing stays constant. You.
Under all these articles, all this advice, all the different fucks on the internet trying to give you advice (myself included), one thing stays constant. You.
Underneath everything that you're trying to become, there's still YOU.
When I was first getting into this stuff and had been in it for awhile, I was getting confused. I was enjoying myself with girls a little bit more, I was feeling a little bit more confident, and that in-state feeling was lingering a little bit longer than usual. You know what I mean, when you first really start getting into this shit and pieces come together.
And then I couldn't figure out who was talking to girls. The words were coming out of MY mouth, but they weren't really my words. They were a combination of every bit of literature I had read up until that point, mushed together and present in my face, words, clothes, everything.
I felt like I was TRICKING girls. They were responding, but I was just faking it HOPING one day that I would finally make it forreal.
I had someone else's attitude, running someone else's game, imposing someone else's frame, and she's laughing, but it's TOUGH to keep up with that much that isn't me!
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Here's what happens. Guys get this attitude:
"I'm not NEARLY attractive enough for this girl, but hopefully this game I'm spitting is!"
So they gather up all this information about what girls like and what other guys say girls like and what other guys say and what other guys do and they polish it up real nice and make it their own.
No! Stop! You are TRICKING girls into thinking that you're really cool and smooth and interesting, when really you're just a sad sack who can't be himself. So you're kinda tricking yourself.
I get it. If you don't know how to socially be in tune it's hard to figure out how to make yourself into what you want to be. But don't FORCE yourself into something you aren't!
I remember pickup being so stressful! I would be like "okay andrew, you're gonna do 10 approaches at the mall today," and I'd convince myself what I was gonna say and how far in I'd get her number and what I'd do when and OH FOR FUCK'S SAKE I'M NOT HAVING ANY FUN. You guys get so wrapped up in all of this you stop having fun and it becomes HARD and almost PAINFUL and you get DISILLUSIONED and have little mini self-crises that I KNOW you get.
What's the solution? Have fun. If you're having a good time with positive energy then that's attractive to EVERYBODY, not just girls.
My buddy and I will play beer pong together, and our one goal won't be to win, but to have as much fun as we possibly can. See the craziest shot we can make, see how many boobs we can bounce it off of, moon the other team, whatever. We'll lose games, but we'll have the other guys and anyone watching rolling on the floor. FUCK WINNING I JUST WANNA HAVE FUN.
Whose having a better time? The girl whose being chatted up by some super slick casanova with great DHVs, or the girl singing sweet carolina with the boy dancing on the table? Whose more likely to want to spend more time with their guy? Not only that, but the WHOLE ROOM is watching those two on the table, and not in a weird freaky way, like LOOK AT HOW MUCH FUN HE'S HAVING way.
This ain't a trick, boys. This is pure, 100% unfiltered columbian grade being yourself and having a damn good time. Girls should follow suit if thats whats happening. The key to that isn't in a book or an article, the key to that is, what? you guessed it. You.
Yeah there's some psychology, and there's some evolutionary reasoning, but you ain't here for that shit. You're here to start being the best version of yourself that you can be. You aren't supposed to be the best version of "i've been in the community for two years and I've read mystery but I like style better and I'm pretty good at cocky funny" NO SHUT THE FUCK UP. HOW GOOD ARE YOU AT BEING YOU?
Get rid of the term Natural too. Everyone TRIES to be "more natural," which has just become another silly method. You can't BECOME more natural. You're all natural to begin with. There is no natural game, only natural. You just have to unlearn everything and start having fun.
So here's a tip. Un-internalize EVERYTHING you know. Every piece of advice, every routine, every line, if YOU don't think it's something you'd say or do, THEN FUCKING DON'T. NO MATTER HOW MUCH PUSSY WHOEVER SAID IT GETS. ((Maybe change your forum name to your REAL name, so that you don't feel like you're becoming some other entity or character other than yourself. I dunno if that actually happens, I've just always been Andrew))
So start being yourself. Figure out what you want to do and what's fun for you, and then do that. Start dancing on tables. Sing in girl's faces. Skip places instead of walking. Have conversations only in quotes from Will Ferrell movies. Whatever the fuck it is that sounds fun to you, DO THAT. YES YOU I'M TALKING TO YOU THIS IS IMPORTANT.
But hey, I'm just another fuck on the internet
Good luck
-Andrew <3
_______________________________
How would you act if you could do whatever you wanted to do?
What would you say if you could say whatever you wanted to say?
How would you be if you really acted like yourself?
Under all these lines, these routines, all these exercises, one thing stays constant. You.
Under all these articles, all this advice, all the different fucks on the internet trying to give you advice (myself included), one thing stays constant. You.
Underneath everything that you're trying to become, there's still YOU.
When I was first getting into this stuff and had been in it for awhile, I was getting confused. I was enjoying myself with girls a little bit more, I was feeling a little bit more confident, and that in-state feeling was lingering a little bit longer than usual. You know what I mean, when you first really start getting into this shit and pieces come together.
And then I couldn't figure out who was talking to girls. The words were coming out of MY mouth, but they weren't really my words. They were a combination of every bit of literature I had read up until that point, mushed together and present in my face, words, clothes, everything.
I felt like I was TRICKING girls. They were responding, but I was just faking it HOPING one day that I would finally make it forreal.
I had someone else's attitude, running someone else's game, imposing someone else's frame, and she's laughing, but it's TOUGH to keep up with that much that isn't me!
---
Here's what happens. Guys get this attitude:
"I'm not NEARLY attractive enough for this girl, but hopefully this game I'm spitting is!"
So they gather up all this information about what girls like and what other guys say girls like and what other guys say and what other guys do and they polish it up real nice and make it their own.
No! Stop! You are TRICKING girls into thinking that you're really cool and smooth and interesting, when really you're just a sad sack who can't be himself. So you're kinda tricking yourself.
I get it. If you don't know how to socially be in tune it's hard to figure out how to make yourself into what you want to be. But don't FORCE yourself into something you aren't!
I remember pickup being so stressful! I would be like "okay andrew, you're gonna do 10 approaches at the mall today," and I'd convince myself what I was gonna say and how far in I'd get her number and what I'd do when and OH FOR FUCK'S SAKE I'M NOT HAVING ANY FUN. You guys get so wrapped up in all of this you stop having fun and it becomes HARD and almost PAINFUL and you get DISILLUSIONED and have little mini self-crises that I KNOW you get.
What's the solution? Have fun. If you're having a good time with positive energy then that's attractive to EVERYBODY, not just girls.
My buddy and I will play beer pong together, and our one goal won't be to win, but to have as much fun as we possibly can. See the craziest shot we can make, see how many boobs we can bounce it off of, moon the other team, whatever. We'll lose games, but we'll have the other guys and anyone watching rolling on the floor. FUCK WINNING I JUST WANNA HAVE FUN.
Whose having a better time? The girl whose being chatted up by some super slick casanova with great DHVs, or the girl singing sweet carolina with the boy dancing on the table? Whose more likely to want to spend more time with their guy? Not only that, but the WHOLE ROOM is watching those two on the table, and not in a weird freaky way, like LOOK AT HOW MUCH FUN HE'S HAVING way.
This ain't a trick, boys. This is pure, 100% unfiltered columbian grade being yourself and having a damn good time. Girls should follow suit if thats whats happening. The key to that isn't in a book or an article, the key to that is, what? you guessed it. You.
Yeah there's some psychology, and there's some evolutionary reasoning, but you ain't here for that shit. You're here to start being the best version of yourself that you can be. You aren't supposed to be the best version of "i've been in the community for two years and I've read mystery but I like style better and I'm pretty good at cocky funny" NO SHUT THE FUCK UP. HOW GOOD ARE YOU AT BEING YOU?
Get rid of the term Natural too. Everyone TRIES to be "more natural," which has just become another silly method. You can't BECOME more natural. You're all natural to begin with. There is no natural game, only natural. You just have to unlearn everything and start having fun.
So here's a tip. Un-internalize EVERYTHING you know. Every piece of advice, every routine, every line, if YOU don't think it's something you'd say or do, THEN FUCKING DON'T. NO MATTER HOW MUCH PUSSY WHOEVER SAID IT GETS. ((Maybe change your forum name to your REAL name, so that you don't feel like you're becoming some other entity or character other than yourself. I dunno if that actually happens, I've just always been Andrew))
So start being yourself. Figure out what you want to do and what's fun for you, and then do that. Start dancing on tables. Sing in girl's faces. Skip places instead of walking. Have conversations only in quotes from Will Ferrell movies. Whatever the fuck it is that sounds fun to you, DO THAT. YES YOU I'M TALKING TO YOU THIS IS IMPORTANT.
But hey, I'm just another fuck on the internet
Good luck
-Andrew <3
