The two types of attraction

[Paetar]

I've noticed something peculiar recently. There are (and in High School more than ever) two types of attraction; emotional and logical. You must create both in a girl.

The emotional attraction is strong, wild. But also quick to disappear; easy to make, easy to break. It's that attraction that happens when you first meet a girl and do a little push-pull, banter, etc. Basically it's that one that you have to work on with your game. It's crucial for the night, and perhaps the day right after.

The logical attraction is something else. It's that one thing that builds "love, " that one that you have to create with your personality and lifestyle. When a girl starts thinking to herself "but why do I like him?" then the logical attraction comes into place.

Basically;

Emotional attraction = push/pull, bantering, nice dressing, nice smell
outer game

Logical attraction = lifestyle, personality (doing something fun regularly, being loved by people, "all my girlfriends have hots for him so he must be special", wits, sense of humour).
inner game

As I've said before, you must have both. With really confident (and really dumb) girls the emotional attraction is crucial, because they already like their life (or at least they think so), so logical side doesn't have to be so pronounced. However, with LSE girls and normal girls you should focus on the logical attraction too.

If you build emotional only, you'll be blown off when you call the next day. She has no reason to get to know you once your jokes have worn off. If you build logical only she will see you as something great, but unattainable. LJBF happens.


The logical attraction is built by rapport and conveying personality and qualification so start doing it early.

And now, guys, good night.

[Chris]

Good point. It's kind of like value vs. surface attraction. I used to create A TON of surface attraction only to have it fade within a day or two wondering why they would flake on Day2s. I personally think that in high school, without value, or logical attraction, things will be a lot more difficult.

+1 because a lot of people have to realize this.

[Volt]

What's the difference between logical attraction and rapport?

[Paetar]

Anyone can create rapport. Basically, logical attraction IS gained through rapport, the "getting to know better." It can't be faked. It's personality.

Rapport is knowing someone well enough and having an emotional connection.

Logical attraction are "things that she's attracted to", what she really likes about you. Not "game", not (only) "flirting", not something you can build that evening. The other thing. Not emotions, logic.

I have a friend. He's really good at building emotional attraction. He gets her interested, he gets her wanting him. But after a while, she discovers that he doesn't really have that much going for him (no social status, he's not so amusing, not smart, you can't talk with him, he can't listen). He even can build rapport - and get to know the girl really well - but when she builds rapport with him, she discovers an empty shell.

Someone might say that logical attraction is having an attractive personality and attractive lifestyle. And they would probably be right.

Geddit now XD?

[Volt]

So it's basically gained through genuine rapport?

[Paetar]

Well... yes. It is DHVing actually, however you must really connect them with her. I'd say yes, it is.