close friend

[secret]

so i have a problem, ive known this girl for 8 yrs now since we were in like elemnetry school, i had a crush on her then as i do now, but she always seemed to be dating someone, though in elementry school i got her to break up with her bf by gameing her(i didnt know i was doing it just realized it thinking back on my RAFC really average fustrated chump)i used to watch my uncle be funny and he used to get the girls so i used the stuff he used to say and i would have her laughing all the time, end of 5th grade yr i got her number but i never really called her, we still hung out once and awhile, well this year we are in a few classes together and she was still dating someone(for 2 yrs from what she said) i just started to game her again C/F we made jokes bout going out on a date but nothing serious so she tells me a week a go that she broke up with her BF(she said they were perfect for each other) we continued to make jokes but i get a txt msg from her today saying she missed me in class(was in MD)today that she wants me to take her shopping(one of out jokes) and that she wants to talk to me bout some boyu troubles, ive made it kinda clear that i like her so i dont think im in the friend zone but i dont know what my move should be like id love to go out with her but i dont want to make things wierd between us but i also wanna go for it(HB9) any help would be great
-Secret-

[SamethP]

i sense one-itis
ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
since you have the C&F, rapport, (comfort?) try getting some kino going.
hugs one meet up, touch her (non sexually) when your trying to make a point
LOOK FOR IOIs!!!!!
and keep me updated

[Andrew]

have you tried barrel rolling?


Definately what robocop said.

And dont skimp on the kino, either. Kino is super important especially for you here.

Just dont be creepy about it.

[secret]

so she drops the bomb on me a little while ago how she was making out with this other dude friday night adn then again last night but doesnt know if he wants a flibng or a real relationship she was saying how she wanted a boys POV so she calls me and tells me and i try to help her out buty if i try to escalate im gonna get LJBF which would totally suck but idk maybe im over exaderating this maybe she trying to make me jealous i need some feedback
-Secret-

[secret]

The txt msg between me and my close friend tell me if I did ok, I kinda told her if she just wanted to be frends I was kool with it (but im not) this is the exact txt msgs between us
Her: lets just be friends it’s always been like that. So ur trying to say that u want a relationship 2? I still wanna go on our “date”(I was taking her shopping) on sat
Me: you sent me the same msg 3 times I was in the shower wat u up2
Her: hw still. U didn’t answer my other text
Me: im not asking u for a “date” im asking for a real date and c were it goes but I dnt want to weird u out
Her: so u want an actual date?
Me: yes but if its to weird dnt worry bout it
Her: ill think bout it. Were tho?
Me: idk I didn’t want it to be a cliché so I wanted to do something diff that y I said go karting or mini golf
Her: lol but those r all closed tho
Me: ill find one that open =D
Her: lol
Me: we can go bowling
Her: I suck at bowling
Me: ill teach you
Her: I know how to play I just suc lol
Me: im not that good either
Then she changed subject now that I read it its so AFC but I find it so hard to game girls that I already know that ive recently kept in touch with I just don’t get it like I got madd IOI from her and then from attraction went friend zone

[secret]

imm so confused on wat to do this is uncommon territory for me

[optimus]

Good job on stating intent. Getting out of LJBF isn't that hard, it just takes a little time. Keep up kino, keep up C&F, even screen her some. Basically game as normal.

Think of all those movies where the girl falls in love with some guy and then realizes that she actually loves her best friend. Play to that.

The trick is not to be just some nice guy that she can control, but you do have to be her friend and be interested in her. It's a pretty fine line but it's entirely walkable.

[hotdemon]

Dude why the hell are you soo stuck up with onegirl..there are other fishes in the sea......if i were you i would ignore her for some time and game other girls in front of her....ever heard about jealousy

peace

[secret]

idk why im stuck on her like i know there is plenty of girls but theres something bout this 1 still sarge but not as often as i would like but 2night im going out and maybe i can shake this one itis
ive read the getting out of LFBF thread im trying it ill see were it goes

[SamethP]

yea, you text was kinda AFC
but it was also direct game
i just feel you could have either brought some more emotions into the texting (to get her connected to it)
or gone and had a conversation about it face to face

but either way, ive seen things that are much more AFC....
*cough me cough* hahaha

keep on

[hotdemon]

haha ....we've all passed through AFC days lol....i was the king of AFCs......i use to compliment girls like shit..always support them...do them small favours and even big ones...and make them laugh .....i always though that girls were always attracted to guys who made them laugh but then i realised i was being too goofy......if i didn't find this community i would have gone crazy......... story of my life !!!!!!!!SECRET you need to change mate !!!!!!!treat girls like your bratty little sister...don't give shit about what they think...and don't forget make them smile ............ you have to change dammit !!!!!!!!!!

[secret]

thanx for the advice and yea i know i need to change we hve all had the one itis and im glad im threw time to start ovr and get better thats all i can do