Post by braddocksintern22 on May 26, 2011 16:40:50 GMT -5
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One of my favorite quotes and the foundational pillars of Social Circle Mastery is, “Proximity is power.”
At the end of the day you guys wouldn’t be doing this if you didn’t want to date hotter women. If it was just sex or quantity, then you could just take down a drunk bar pig every night. However, at the end of the day you got into all of this to date hotter women, not what you are currently getting.
What I have discovered is that at the end of the day, the guys who date the HOTTEST women ARE NOT NECESSARILY the guys with the best game….No. They are the guys with “enough” game…but superior proximity. They are the guys who have consistent close proximity to beautiful women.
I know some of my boys back in Oklahoma who have some of the best game I’ve ever seen….who AREN’T dating beautiful women consistently. When they come visit me in LA, they smash it. They are like a kid in a candy store. However, in Oklahoma they are fighting for 1 of the 3 hot girls in the club or Social Circle and the margin for error is insanely small.
On the other end of the spectrum, I have buddies in LA who have very average game, but they have access to beautiful women through their Social Circle and as a result they are consistently dating hot women. If they went with me to another city outside of these circles they would struggle, until they built a new social circle.
Guys are always asking me, “How do I get hotter women?” They think I’m going to give them some trick line or Inner Game shift that will set them free and unleash the inner cocksman. The are usually disappointed by my answer.
1. “Figure out where there is a large gathering of hot girls…social club…class…hobby….and join that.”
2. “Fall into friend mode with at least 3 hot girls who has gorgeous friends.”
3. “Become friends with a few club promoters…get access to all those clubs that won’t let you in. Or figure out how you and your buddies can get in.”
4. “Stop beating yourself up wondering why you can’t pull the one 10 out of that shit local bar near your house where there are 300 dudes….10 girls….and 1 hot girl. A girl in this club thinks she’s a 15….because in that room she is. If you pull her, it’s less a measure of skill and more random luck coupled with game….coupled with a few lucky logistical breaks.”
This is why SCM is so important. Create a lifestyle where you are naturally in the path of hot hot women all the time. Can you sniper off a 10 in a shit venue? Yes. Consistently? No. Do you get a special blue ribbon if you can? No. Do you want to make things easy on yourself so you can see her 3..4…5..10 times and not have to be so pushy and desperate, so things can happen more organically? I do.
Even if you are limited to cold approach because you don’t have time to build a social circle, you are still greatly increasing your odds if you are in a room full of beautiful women. If you normally go 3 for 10 in any club, regardless of quality, wouldn’t you rather go 3 for 10 in a room full of super hot women? I would.
Guys develop major Inner Game issues over this very simple distinction.
Classic Inner Game Issues Stemming From This:
“I get shaky around hot women, true 10′s. I can’t be myself. I’m great on 6′s and 7′s.”
(Guess what…we all do when we only go to shit bars with 1 hot girl in them and we can feel that we have 1 shot and it must be a homerun. Of course you are going to act like a retard around hot girls. When you only see 1 in the entire room, it feels like you are approaching a celebrity).
“When I get a hot girl I can’t walk away from her no matter how bad the relationship is, because she is so hard to replace.”
(Yeah….when you snag the one hot girl out of of the shit venue after going there 3,000 times…you’re going to feel a complete lack of abundance. When you build a Social Circle full of hot girls and you start penetrating the hottest clubs in your area…you will get used to being around hot girls. You will warm up on hot girls…get blown out by hot girls…and land some of those hot girls. Your body will calm down and you will start to feel less stressed about any one girl.
How to penetrate this places and social circles? That’s a whole post in itself. It starts with getting your lifestyle together, getting involved, and surrounding yourself with a team of cool guys who get it. (Not “pickup guys,” just normal guys who get it and understand this naturally.)
Am I saying you don’t need good game? Of course not. You need to have some skill…..you probably just need less than you think.
Ok, next caller.
-Braddock
www.braddocksblog.com/2010/07/31/dating-tips-how-do-i-date-hotter-women
Follow him on Twitter at www.twitter.com/ls_braddock
One of my favorite quotes and the foundational pillars of Social Circle Mastery is, “Proximity is power.”
At the end of the day you guys wouldn’t be doing this if you didn’t want to date hotter women. If it was just sex or quantity, then you could just take down a drunk bar pig every night. However, at the end of the day you got into all of this to date hotter women, not what you are currently getting.
What I have discovered is that at the end of the day, the guys who date the HOTTEST women ARE NOT NECESSARILY the guys with the best game….No. They are the guys with “enough” game…but superior proximity. They are the guys who have consistent close proximity to beautiful women.
I know some of my boys back in Oklahoma who have some of the best game I’ve ever seen….who AREN’T dating beautiful women consistently. When they come visit me in LA, they smash it. They are like a kid in a candy store. However, in Oklahoma they are fighting for 1 of the 3 hot girls in the club or Social Circle and the margin for error is insanely small.
On the other end of the spectrum, I have buddies in LA who have very average game, but they have access to beautiful women through their Social Circle and as a result they are consistently dating hot women. If they went with me to another city outside of these circles they would struggle, until they built a new social circle.
Guys are always asking me, “How do I get hotter women?” They think I’m going to give them some trick line or Inner Game shift that will set them free and unleash the inner cocksman. The are usually disappointed by my answer.
1. “Figure out where there is a large gathering of hot girls…social club…class…hobby….and join that.”
2. “Fall into friend mode with at least 3 hot girls who has gorgeous friends.”
3. “Become friends with a few club promoters…get access to all those clubs that won’t let you in. Or figure out how you and your buddies can get in.”
4. “Stop beating yourself up wondering why you can’t pull the one 10 out of that shit local bar near your house where there are 300 dudes….10 girls….and 1 hot girl. A girl in this club thinks she’s a 15….because in that room she is. If you pull her, it’s less a measure of skill and more random luck coupled with game….coupled with a few lucky logistical breaks.”
This is why SCM is so important. Create a lifestyle where you are naturally in the path of hot hot women all the time. Can you sniper off a 10 in a shit venue? Yes. Consistently? No. Do you get a special blue ribbon if you can? No. Do you want to make things easy on yourself so you can see her 3..4…5..10 times and not have to be so pushy and desperate, so things can happen more organically? I do.
Even if you are limited to cold approach because you don’t have time to build a social circle, you are still greatly increasing your odds if you are in a room full of beautiful women. If you normally go 3 for 10 in any club, regardless of quality, wouldn’t you rather go 3 for 10 in a room full of super hot women? I would.
Guys develop major Inner Game issues over this very simple distinction.
Classic Inner Game Issues Stemming From This:
“I get shaky around hot women, true 10′s. I can’t be myself. I’m great on 6′s and 7′s.”
(Guess what…we all do when we only go to shit bars with 1 hot girl in them and we can feel that we have 1 shot and it must be a homerun. Of course you are going to act like a retard around hot girls. When you only see 1 in the entire room, it feels like you are approaching a celebrity).
“When I get a hot girl I can’t walk away from her no matter how bad the relationship is, because she is so hard to replace.”
(Yeah….when you snag the one hot girl out of of the shit venue after going there 3,000 times…you’re going to feel a complete lack of abundance. When you build a Social Circle full of hot girls and you start penetrating the hottest clubs in your area…you will get used to being around hot girls. You will warm up on hot girls…get blown out by hot girls…and land some of those hot girls. Your body will calm down and you will start to feel less stressed about any one girl.
How to penetrate this places and social circles? That’s a whole post in itself. It starts with getting your lifestyle together, getting involved, and surrounding yourself with a team of cool guys who get it. (Not “pickup guys,” just normal guys who get it and understand this naturally.)
Am I saying you don’t need good game? Of course not. You need to have some skill…..you probably just need less than you think.
Ok, next caller.
-Braddock