Post by def454 on Jun 7, 2011 3:00:14 GMT -5
Most people think that problems with women are still occurring because of lack of touch, lack of natural ability, or lack of good looks.
They break down their game so far and analyze everything, their touch, their eye contact, their little gimmicks.
What they don't see is something I call the invisible sticking point. You're so busy looking at all your tangible sticking points, while this one is tearing you up inside. Having an asexual, weak, or non-existent frame.
ALWAYS HAVE A STRONG FRAME
Your frame is essentially the character you portray in an interaction. How a person would describe all comes from your frame.
If you have a strong frame then it is congruent, and you are beign your true, most attractive self. You take risks, you trust your faculties, you escalate, you lead, and you do it naturally.
If you have a weak frame, then you are not acting yourself. You may be using routines to portray yourself a certain way, but once your story ends and you are forced to go into your own headspace again for a moment, your frame changes and puts everyone in the group off, as they havve come to see you a certain way.
this happens because a frame is set in mere minutes.
If you MUST create a new person based on untrue stories (i dont recommend it) , then make it somewhat close to your natural personality and actual lifestyle so that you are not completely incongruent.
The asexual frame is a problem for most guys, because they DO want to get sexual but often wait until they've known a girl for a while or even wait until 20 minutes in to take it there. She sets a frame for you early on, and its hard to get the sexual ball rolling after that, she will already have lost the idea of sexual chemistry between you two. So remember, she wants to be lead so lead her where you want to go right from the start.
The 0 frame. Interview style, "how about this weather?" conversation. BORING. let your personality come out in your expression, let your sexuality come through, this is the most common, and most detrimental frame in the world. At least the others let you get lucky, this one not so much.
SET A STRONG, SEXUAL FRAME and people will fall into it. You will be looked at exactly as you intended to, simply draw people into it the moment u meet them, don't hesitate, or you may fall into someone else's frame for you.
WINNING.
They break down their game so far and analyze everything, their touch, their eye contact, their little gimmicks.
What they don't see is something I call the invisible sticking point. You're so busy looking at all your tangible sticking points, while this one is tearing you up inside. Having an asexual, weak, or non-existent frame.
ALWAYS HAVE A STRONG FRAME
Your frame is essentially the character you portray in an interaction. How a person would describe all comes from your frame.
If you have a strong frame then it is congruent, and you are beign your true, most attractive self. You take risks, you trust your faculties, you escalate, you lead, and you do it naturally.
If you have a weak frame, then you are not acting yourself. You may be using routines to portray yourself a certain way, but once your story ends and you are forced to go into your own headspace again for a moment, your frame changes and puts everyone in the group off, as they havve come to see you a certain way.
this happens because a frame is set in mere minutes.
If you MUST create a new person based on untrue stories (i dont recommend it) , then make it somewhat close to your natural personality and actual lifestyle so that you are not completely incongruent.
The asexual frame is a problem for most guys, because they DO want to get sexual but often wait until they've known a girl for a while or even wait until 20 minutes in to take it there. She sets a frame for you early on, and its hard to get the sexual ball rolling after that, she will already have lost the idea of sexual chemistry between you two. So remember, she wants to be lead so lead her where you want to go right from the start.
The 0 frame. Interview style, "how about this weather?" conversation. BORING. let your personality come out in your expression, let your sexuality come through, this is the most common, and most detrimental frame in the world. At least the others let you get lucky, this one not so much.
SET A STRONG, SEXUAL FRAME and people will fall into it. You will be looked at exactly as you intended to, simply draw people into it the moment u meet them, don't hesitate, or you may fall into someone else's frame for you.
WINNING.
