Relationships are crap?

[jainarihant]

Hey, Im with this girl for almost a month now,

It is really strange the first three days she was loving me too muhc, constantly texting me and more...

She was really into me when I gamed her also, constantly seeking aprobal and more...

Now we're in this relation, and there is almost no texting anymore, we have gotten some strange situations and discussions. I don't see and speak herr that much anymore, not much fun also since we don't see and speak eachother often.

Sometimes she "breaks" and is like: " I love you but I don't know if I'm good enough for you?" or " I facking love you ,asshole" after some small arguments.

But today on msn she was really bitchy.
And I have the feeling there is a constant battle of who is in control. She picked up some things what I say in these situations and uses it against me, and somehow I fell like she is trying to get in a discussion with me.

Should I say: fuck it and ditch her or are there any other ways?

[enigma]

Well if you're not having any fun in the relationship and nothing good is coming out of it I'd say get out for sure.

[Chris]

Yeah I would say get out if you don't wanna be there anymore.

On the other hand, if you do but the relationship is losing some of it's "heat" and you wanna get it going again:

SHOW YOUR WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY.

A huuuge reason relationships go boring is because there is no tension of her losing you. there needs to be some fear of loss.

Call her out on her bullshit, its okay to get angry now and then when you are in a relationship. Give her the fear of losing you. Im sure you can think of some proactive ways to do that, you're creative.

[optimus]

If you're in a relationship, it should be because you're invested in the girl. The whole relationship just for sex thing gets really messy.

Chrispb7 is right, you need to be willing to walk away, but if you are invested in the girl, then you don't want her to fear losing you for some arbitrary reason; living in fear does nobody any good. You need to let her know that you won't tolerate any of her crap and that if she isn't mature enough you're willing to walk out.

In a complete 180, some of the stuff she's saying makes it sound like you're gaming her too hard right now. If you're in a relationship, you need to keep up C&F, a little push-pull, etc., but you also have to establish a connection. If you can't do that, you're going to alienate her.

It's about walking the line. Let her know you have a connection with her, but make sure she knows that connection isn't a leash.

[jainarihant]

Ty for your advice, you guys really make sense, and indeed maybe I kept continue gaming her a bit too hard.

Im goin to see how it goes the next days , if it gets better I'll keep her otherwise i should dump her for the best to both of us.

[SamethP]

all that in less than a month.. o.O

she reminds me of my ex (lol)

[virtuoso]

"When relationship is crap, it is called relationshit."
-Dane Cook

[SamethP]

amen ^

[nine]

My friend and I had a discussion last wed about this type of thing, we came up with four questions to ask yourself if you're unsure about your relationship:

1) Has she made you happy today?

2) Has she made you happy this week?

3) Last week?

4) This month?

If you answer no to 3+4 then it's time to get out.

Nine

[Paetar]

OR, if you really like her... do some qualification. Yes, she loves you but is insecure about you. If you quit it now, she'll see you as an asshole. Qualify, make her like herself.

[Rusty]

That's gotten way outta hand man! Relationships aren't about power and battles for control man. You shouldn't have to game your girlfriend at all. I run NOTHING with my girlfriend, it's all about rapport and fun. You gotta be real with her and she should be real with you man. Otherwise it's going to be this destructive waste of time that going to hurt both of you. If you still want her, ring her and talk about it. If your not willing to be straight with her for any reason, like if she try's to use shit on you, then just end it. A relationship should be a team effort, if she isn't putting in then she has to go. You gotta put in to though. Don't worry about it bro, there are others =)! If she's insecure about not being good enough for you and if that's why she's doing it, just grab her around the waist, pull her close, look her in the eye and be like 'Baby, don't worry. It's ok, you make me happy'. Gotta mean it though, otherwise don't even bother and just end it. They'll be other =D!

[hotdemon]

king nice post again bro.......you like grabbing girls from a waist ,eh ?

Dude just remember there are a lot of fishes in the sea.....

[jainarihant]

Hi there again,
I tought I couldb etter update you guys,
well we broke up like a week ago,and strangely enouh It wasn't affecting me at all,
she thinks I'm an asshole probably, but she tought that before so that doesn't change much

Sadly the only thing I miss atm, is some love, well I don't miss her but I do miss the moments we were together and her right boob, other then that I'm pretty good.

I'm having exams atm so no room for girls anyway. Altough a friend of her start contacting me again (which I gamed very succesfully, great jealous plot)

But Im going to talk with her (my ex) soon to clear everything out becasue before the relation she was a very cool person so she would be good friend I guess.

Ty for the advice

Take care

[SamethP]

keep on...