Post by def454 on Jun 29, 2010 22:26:21 GMT -5
I posted this article in Ohm's Bootcamp forum, and it got some good reviews, so I am reposting it here. I HIGHLY reccomened you take part in the bootcamp forums. I go By Gatsby over there, so excuse my signature.
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THE NATURAL
We are all inevitably here because at some point in our lives, we were unhappy with our options among the fairer sex. SOme of us may have been able to get 7s, but wanted tens. SOme may ahve gottent he occasional 10, but wanted consistency, Most definitely, some would've settled for a 3 on their worst days.
Then you turned to your peers. It was clear from an early age who the "naturals" were. You knew before any of you ever talked to girls. He was leading leading your first grade class to the blacktop at recess because that day he wanted to play handball. He was calling people for more plydates then you could ever imagine. He was also probably the one who stopped calling them playdates, then everyone else did too.
There were probably ten standouts in your elementary school grade level that you could've pointed to and said- that is a natural.
Once you got older ( age 10,11,12) these naturals set their sights on the same girls that you did- the ones who just grew boobs. These were the same girls every guy in the class wanted, but only one would snag her first kiss. You wanted to be that guy, but it was the naturals who got to her first.
Now, we have only scracthed the surface of the development of a natural. Around age 12 many other kids in the rgade developed theirr own ways of interacting with girls, many were naturally decent at picking up girls, they got a fair amoutn of decent looking girls. Many, many more became frustrated. These are Your AFC's, this is probably you at age 12.
The natural is not just the guy whos satisfied with what he gets without any help from PUA or self help. The natural is the guy who can game even the hottest bitches without ever cracking a book on how to do it. This is who we wwant to emulate.
First, the natural was from an early age smart, funny, sociable, and athletic. Thats how he came to lead the class. This attracted the little girls' attention
This brings us some of the most important traits a natural develops:
1) Leader of men
2)Well rounded
3)Funny
4) Outgoing
5) CONFIDENT (having all the kids in the palm fo your hand will give you a lot of confidence)
So the natural attracted girls' attention long before they attracted his (girls usually hit puberty first). SO he became dismissive of girls who approached him, while still getting comfortable talking to women. the guys who didnt attract female attention had to learn to talk to them later, only after they wanted to get in the girls' pants.
This created a mindset for the natural- girls approach ME. Girls want ME. I will talk to them, i will acknowledge them, but until they prove that they are worhty of my full attention, they will not get it. Girls prove themselves to ME. Not the other way around.
That is the NUMBER ONE trait to gain in emulating a natural- the "girls want me" mindset.
So how do we become the natural? Its actually quite simple
(NOTE: i said simple, NOT easy)
We take on these traits for ourselves. Some will be easier than others.
become outgoing and funny.
Take an improv class if need be, improv classes can help you hone your comedic prowess, help you think up clever responses on your feet, they can help you in projecting your voice so you don't sound timid and they will gain you a social circle. Go out and talk to random strangers even, which brigns us to our next point...
Go out and talk to women
As i addressed, naturals became comfortable talking to women at a very early age. It is important that you make yourself more comforatble with women, that way, you dont freeze up in conversation. Go talk to a few, if you're too scared, websites like Omegle and Chatroulette are a great palce to start. David deangelo proposed this kind of practice when AOL was still popular and Video chat only took place in movies. Well guess what, now v chat is real and you can sue it to yoru advantage.
Become Well Rounded
The natural Was good at lots of things, you should be too.
Look at neill strauss's transformation from lowest AFC to highest MPUA. He changed EVERYTHING. He went to the gym, he got lasik, he changed his style, he learned about fashion. he learned alexander technique, borrowing from theatre. He learned to surf, he took voice lessons, HE DID EVERYTHING. This gives you a lot to talk about, it is a HUGE DHV.The PUA's who take the renaissance man approach are most successful. As Style himself always said- "the best way to pick up women, is to have something better to do than pick up women." Find some shit to do that isn't about women.
Become a leader of men
Really hard to do, admittedly. However, all the above traits will get you well on your way. Just being able to attract women, will attract male followers (kinda funny how ti works both ways, right?) Stick with these traits, become a renaissance man. others will pick up on it, they will respect you for it, and they will want to be around you because of your vast knowledge and experience, as well as your winning personality.
Become Confident
This trait and the next are very codependant. Basicly, confidence comes from your past experiences. Gainign the above traits will inevitably make you better with women. This will boost your confidence. Somethign you can do immediately- Fake it til you make it. Fake confidence will help you pick up women which will create real confidence, its not ideal, but its a start, and the experiences you gain in becoming the natural will help you.
Develop the "Girls want me" mindset
Most difficult probably. Becoming all the above thigns will boost your confidence and help you to develop this, again, fake t until you make it. Also write down things you expect from a girl, things you want in your ideal women, a lsit of morals that you starkly abide by. Use these as a checklist when talking to women, whetehr it be as a friend or a suitor. If anyone in your lfie doesn't meet your standards, elt them know, and do not reward them for it. The natural can ahve any women he wnats and any friends that he wants. "why should i pick you?" should eb playing on loop.
(PS: use this carefully, don't be a dick about it)
In closing
The natural has a state of mind, a collection of experiences, and a persona. Thes traits will give you all of those thigns in the way a natural possesses them. if you use these traits as a guide, you will inevitably become a natural. You will also be ahppier, and more fulfilled. Think about everythign you ahve to gain in pursuing these traits, even without the added benefit of getting laiud on the regular. Becoming the best version fo yourself can only lead to good things.
Good luck, brethren.
~The Great Gatsby
ohmprojectpua.proboards.com/index.cgi
THE NATURAL
We are all inevitably here because at some point in our lives, we were unhappy with our options among the fairer sex. SOme of us may have been able to get 7s, but wanted tens. SOme may ahve gottent he occasional 10, but wanted consistency, Most definitely, some would've settled for a 3 on their worst days.
Then you turned to your peers. It was clear from an early age who the "naturals" were. You knew before any of you ever talked to girls. He was leading leading your first grade class to the blacktop at recess because that day he wanted to play handball. He was calling people for more plydates then you could ever imagine. He was also probably the one who stopped calling them playdates, then everyone else did too.
There were probably ten standouts in your elementary school grade level that you could've pointed to and said- that is a natural.
Once you got older ( age 10,11,12) these naturals set their sights on the same girls that you did- the ones who just grew boobs. These were the same girls every guy in the class wanted, but only one would snag her first kiss. You wanted to be that guy, but it was the naturals who got to her first.
Now, we have only scracthed the surface of the development of a natural. Around age 12 many other kids in the rgade developed theirr own ways of interacting with girls, many were naturally decent at picking up girls, they got a fair amoutn of decent looking girls. Many, many more became frustrated. These are Your AFC's, this is probably you at age 12.
The natural is not just the guy whos satisfied with what he gets without any help from PUA or self help. The natural is the guy who can game even the hottest bitches without ever cracking a book on how to do it. This is who we wwant to emulate.
First, the natural was from an early age smart, funny, sociable, and athletic. Thats how he came to lead the class. This attracted the little girls' attention
This brings us some of the most important traits a natural develops:
1) Leader of men
2)Well rounded
3)Funny
4) Outgoing
5) CONFIDENT (having all the kids in the palm fo your hand will give you a lot of confidence)
So the natural attracted girls' attention long before they attracted his (girls usually hit puberty first). SO he became dismissive of girls who approached him, while still getting comfortable talking to women. the guys who didnt attract female attention had to learn to talk to them later, only after they wanted to get in the girls' pants.
This created a mindset for the natural- girls approach ME. Girls want ME. I will talk to them, i will acknowledge them, but until they prove that they are worhty of my full attention, they will not get it. Girls prove themselves to ME. Not the other way around.
That is the NUMBER ONE trait to gain in emulating a natural- the "girls want me" mindset.
So how do we become the natural? Its actually quite simple
(NOTE: i said simple, NOT easy)
We take on these traits for ourselves. Some will be easier than others.
become outgoing and funny.
Take an improv class if need be, improv classes can help you hone your comedic prowess, help you think up clever responses on your feet, they can help you in projecting your voice so you don't sound timid and they will gain you a social circle. Go out and talk to random strangers even, which brigns us to our next point...
Go out and talk to women
As i addressed, naturals became comfortable talking to women at a very early age. It is important that you make yourself more comforatble with women, that way, you dont freeze up in conversation. Go talk to a few, if you're too scared, websites like Omegle and Chatroulette are a great palce to start. David deangelo proposed this kind of practice when AOL was still popular and Video chat only took place in movies. Well guess what, now v chat is real and you can sue it to yoru advantage.
Become Well Rounded
The natural Was good at lots of things, you should be too.
Look at neill strauss's transformation from lowest AFC to highest MPUA. He changed EVERYTHING. He went to the gym, he got lasik, he changed his style, he learned about fashion. he learned alexander technique, borrowing from theatre. He learned to surf, he took voice lessons, HE DID EVERYTHING. This gives you a lot to talk about, it is a HUGE DHV.The PUA's who take the renaissance man approach are most successful. As Style himself always said- "the best way to pick up women, is to have something better to do than pick up women." Find some shit to do that isn't about women.
Become a leader of men
Really hard to do, admittedly. However, all the above traits will get you well on your way. Just being able to attract women, will attract male followers (kinda funny how ti works both ways, right?) Stick with these traits, become a renaissance man. others will pick up on it, they will respect you for it, and they will want to be around you because of your vast knowledge and experience, as well as your winning personality.
Become Confident
This trait and the next are very codependant. Basicly, confidence comes from your past experiences. Gainign the above traits will inevitably make you better with women. This will boost your confidence. Somethign you can do immediately- Fake it til you make it. Fake confidence will help you pick up women which will create real confidence, its not ideal, but its a start, and the experiences you gain in becoming the natural will help you.
Develop the "Girls want me" mindset
Most difficult probably. Becoming all the above thigns will boost your confidence and help you to develop this, again, fake t until you make it. Also write down things you expect from a girl, things you want in your ideal women, a lsit of morals that you starkly abide by. Use these as a checklist when talking to women, whetehr it be as a friend or a suitor. If anyone in your lfie doesn't meet your standards, elt them know, and do not reward them for it. The natural can ahve any women he wnats and any friends that he wants. "why should i pick you?" should eb playing on loop.
(PS: use this carefully, don't be a dick about it)
In closing
The natural has a state of mind, a collection of experiences, and a persona. Thes traits will give you all of those thigns in the way a natural possesses them. if you use these traits as a guide, you will inevitably become a natural. You will also be ahppier, and more fulfilled. Think about everythign you ahve to gain in pursuing these traits, even without the added benefit of getting laiud on the regular. Becoming the best version fo yourself can only lead to good things.
Good luck, brethren.
~The Great Gatsby