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Post by jmac on Jul 27, 2011 0:09:58 GMT -5
After seeing Sloth's thread I figured I can definitely help some more people with more private or public (your choice) by answering any questions seeing that I think I have basically everything covered so hopefully I can answer all questions. You can either post a question on here so it can be debated or if you want send me a PM and if you have a single question/scenario/problem then you can write it but if there's a few things then send me your skype and once I have enough time I can either chat you or video call. I am thinking of doing a conference call with a few people and maybe someone else who knows what they are talking about but this will be more of a wait probably it depends on my schedule. Alright guys, don't be afraid to ask this site is for learning so might as well take the opportunity. And I don't judge so even if it may be "stupid" to ask by you, it's still something you'd like to know so don't be shy.
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Post by tozer on Jul 27, 2011 5:17:21 GMT -5
How do you build a social circle with people from different schools? can cold approaching actually help with this?
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Post by jmac on Jul 27, 2011 10:27:37 GMT -5
Do you mean creating a circle of friends who are from different places? If so then what happened with me since I went to different schools was, say I was at the beach with my friends from school 2 I would hit up my friends from my other school saying "yo im with **** *** and ***" come to the beach or just something simple like that so that they can get to know each other. But if your talking about making friends with them I would say the best place to do that is sports events like varsity football games or parties since its a "chill" atmosphere. Because in places like that you have a common ground if you want to talk to them and don't know them, you can talk about the game or the party and move on from there.
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Post by tozer on Jul 27, 2011 23:04:53 GMT -5
ok thanks man, have you brought any people you met from cold approach into your group?
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Post by jmac on Jul 27, 2011 23:39:46 GMT -5
To be honest, i don't "cold approach" like a lot of people consider it, i dont even think of things like that as "cold approaches" i think of it as meeting new people. Having to name things like that in a more technical term just over-complicates shit. But I have been with friends at the beach that like i had made from my new school and also chilled with my other friends so they got to know each other and shit and its just more people so more fun. But I just realized that it might be different for me since I am in most of the different groups i know so it's not like i meet kids in school who i dont know or dont know me. So even though some kids hate each other and are in different "groups" I stay out of drama so I am friends with everyone and have no grudges against me. I would honestly recommend that so you dont need to worry about only have one friend group.
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Post by tozer on Jul 28, 2011 4:01:17 GMT -5
yeah that sounds good i really need to start actually making an effort with my social circle.
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Post by jmac on Jul 28, 2011 9:39:07 GMT -5
They key is not judging people because it really is easy to make friends if you are outgoing and especially if you are funny. But what happens is some people get so involved with their social group especially once they become popular and start judging other kids just because someone in their group doesn't like them. So even when I went to my new school last year for that one year I became friends with kids in all groups then I meet their friends and am a part of almost all the groups (except the ones I didn't want to be in because they really were too weird). It's a lot easier and especially if you rid yourself of any of the drama situations which is really easy by saying "yeah i don't really give a fuck about all the drama" when kids are talking about it and you can change the subject.
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Post by tozer on Jul 29, 2011 1:39:44 GMT -5
That is true, thanks for this man  |
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Post by jmac on Jul 29, 2011 17:03:13 GMT -5
No problem brotha
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Post by thesaphireflame on Jul 29, 2011 23:36:49 GMT -5
I need some help getting over some LMR with my gf( just under a month) whose a virgin =/ Basically after all our friends were left it was just me and her so we made out and started escalating. She'll let me (and gets really turned on) when I feel her up, touch her ass, and when I started rubbing her inner thigh she moved my hand to her clit. So after a while I slipped my fingers under her bathing suit and kept rubbing her clit, but then after like 30 secs she says to please stay above her bathing suit =/ I was gonna try again in a little bit, but then we heard her dad so I hid and she covered for me =P So what do I do if this comes up again? Maybe I need more experience to turn her on more, but I think it's more because she's a virgin/insecure about her body. She'll rub my d*ck over my bathing suit too but doesnt go farther. I don't want to talk to her about it and have her feel I only want her for sex because I actually do love her. Or should I just keep escalating and she'll get over it. Any advice is cool man  |
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Post by Parkwhore on Jul 30, 2011 0:50:12 GMT -5
Just under a month and you love her?
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Post by jmac on Jul 30, 2011 10:24:07 GMT -5
Just under a month and you love her? You never know, they could have been together but not going out or may be he really does, some people fall in love fast if they really have amazing chemistry. But then again a person who has not been with a lot of people (not saying he hasn't idk him) may mistake a strong feeling for love. I know I did when I was young but whatever. Flame, if I were you I would probably at least talk to her a little about it but be sure to say something like "Why is it that you start getting nervous when we are progressing sexually? If you are uncomfortable it's fine with me because I'm in this relationship because i like you a lot as a person and not because of sex but I want to know you can trust me." You don't have to say exactly that because I just made it up on spot but the reason for something like that is because if she knows she can trust you she might open up to you more about it or just knowing that you are there for her as a person and shit she could possibly go a bit farther knowing you like her for who she is and wont just take advantage of her. |
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Post by thesaphireflame on Jul 30, 2011 16:59:37 GMT -5
As for the love thing I feel like we have good chemistry and we were seeing each other before going out. I'm only 17 though so maybe I don't know what love is yet. But anyway thanks for the advice Jmac I'll try talking to her about it. She never even made out with anybody before me, isn't confident about her body because she'll say it's not fair how I'm so skinny, and she says that she'll go to hell for lying to her dad to cover for me. Maybe I'll call her like she's been asking me to. Hopefully talking to her about it helps her feel more comftorable |
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Post by jmac on Jul 30, 2011 17:59:17 GMT -5
It should, just don't push for it too hard because even if you say you aren't only in it for sex girls can get insecure easily and think you are
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Post by smoob on Aug 10, 2011 20:04:00 GMT -5
Alright so...
Right now I'm trying to be naturally flirty and your good at that. I can build attraction (bear with the pua terms for a sec) but I wanna get that flirty vibe going from the get go - nah mean? I see you use a lot of pet names calling girls baby and honey n stuff like that, and I'm going to try to start doing that (I dont really use petnames like so I'm going to ease into it and get comfortable with it). What I got going for me though is I do use good eye contact and smile at the right moment and can flash a smile at the right time but what advice you got for me on being flirty?
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