Background Info

[grindtime69]

Alright, say what you have to say about me after this post. Basically my life until this point so you know where Im fucking coming from. I have read almost every article, name kne and ill tell you what it was about.

Born in Cali, moved to Richmond, Vagina when I was 6. Then moved to Fredericksburg city where I reside now. Im part white, black, and asian. Half black/white dad and asian mom.

Im a Junior in High School, but in a slump. Ill TELL YOU WHY. Middle school I was popular, I got laid, captain of football and wrestling, had connections and good grades. Talked to girls at ease, good convos, kino, I was good. I ignored the ugly girls, which hurts now cause they moved on and talks talks other guys.

High School fucking hit and I started getting nervous. I was cool with everyone in the beggining of freshmen year but after an incedent (Fucked an ugly ass chick) during the heat of the moment, shit went down...

People started bagging on me about that and girls knew me as the guy who fucked the ugly chick. It died down NOW but that tore me to shreds. Got rejected left and right and I basically blew it that year. I lost ALL confidence.

Sophmore year I got some back but still I was 60% of what I used to be. THIS is when I lost my cknversational skills and STOPPED talking to girls. I got approached by a chick didnt have the confidence to do anything. Year went by with NO chicks. By this time I had lost popularity in school with the girls.

This year i have the confidence back and I want to get laid like I used to. But I lost conversational skills (Which by the way I wasnt that good at, I just have looks and kino). So I want it all back and I want my title back.

Its going to be hard but I can do it and I will. But thats where I come from. Used to be really popular, made a mistake and fell, but wants to make a comeback. Im not a self conscious guy, I just gave up and that was a mistake. Still I want you to know I dont take shit from ANYONE. Dont try to argue with me, honestly.

[Parkwhore]

First of all, things got out of hand in the other threads, I'm sorry. But fact of the matter is you were in the wrong and rather than "not taking shit from anyone" you should have just accepted that. One more thing I would like to point out is that "Specialist" is simply a word under one's name. Whether or not Sloth (or anyone who has their shit down) has that there, we know he knows what he's talking about.

As for your help, I'm sensing you had a good reputation going plus your good looks and that contributed alot to your success. Based on the few posts you've shared here (and don't take this to offense, no insults intended), you likely overreacted/took things more personally than you should have when people gave you shit for the ugly girl. The ugly girl thing happens to the best of us (ussually thanks to alcohol), and I'm doubting it is what ruined your success.

I think that your bad reactions to people's shit-talking (which was likely more lighthearted than it sounded) made you appear to have low confidence levels. And things only spiraled down from there. For instance, maybe in the locker room you were getting "yo jimmy, i heard you got with a grenade last weekend hahaha" and rather than laughing along saying "yea bro I was fawked upppp" youtook it very personally and may have gotten pissed.

So as for fixing your situation, just bring the confidence you once had back. Be that friendly guy everyone wants to be around. Say hi to everyone, hi-5's with your buddies, small talk ("bro those shoes are sick, whered you get 'em?" "That sack you had in the game yesterday was mind blowing" "What did you think of that spanish test?"), bantering, and all in all having a good attitude and having fun. Don't take things personally and don't even worry about small shit that doesn't even matter.

[Parkwhore]

Oh and another thing, you'll notice that there's often times that one of the people in a conversation is totally running shit. As in they're the one who's confident in what they say wether its right/wrong/good/bad. Be that person. At the moment you are not that and you feel awkward and nervous which causes you to respect the other person and put them on a higher pedestal than yourself. Be the one in control and get people a bit out of their comfort zone (where their trying hard and are awkward and nervous about what they say). You can make it a bit of a game/challenge for yourself, be more confident than the other person. Some key components of this are eye contact, smiling, and not being caught off guard by anything anyone says to you.

[perceverance]

i made a mistake with a girl once and now im regarded as shit by all her social group. i got over it though.

[DanZy]

I'm just going to say this once: your name is fairly homosexual and makes you seem like a fat wanker behind a screen all day.
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[grindtime69]

Thanks parkwhore for your help and I tired it in school today. Not very successful but Im getting there. Making a more conscious effort to do those small things.

As for DanZy, you make it seem like its a bad to be that. I am a fat wanker behind a computer, arent we all? ;P

[qaz]

Richmond dang dude that's like an hour or two away from me, idk about fredricksburg.

As for your question about conversations, I used to have the same problem and still do sometimes. Really most of it for me was just in my head, I thought I would run out of things to say and it would get awkward which still happens sometimes. But the whole thought is counterproductive and will really bring you down if you believe it.

After all that really all you need to do is talk about anything more interesting than "hey what's up, nothing you, nothing" avoid conversations like that. If you hear about something crazy happening that involved them, bring it up. It's pretty easy getting it started, then once your in it branch off of what they say and you're set. You'd be amazed at how much different the topic is in the middle of the conversation from what it originally was.