Post by rayj123 on Sept 22, 2011 19:50:03 GMT -5
Hey,
I am gonna tell you guys the straight up truth.
I am an AFC (Just learned that term yesterday lol).
I am new to pickup. Probably saw this niche when I saw The Pickup Artist show which got me hooked and interested. I am 17 so not really legal sex age but that's why I joined this forum. I am in highschool and I have this one girl that I don't even want to sleep with. I just want to have her as my girl friend cause I fucking love her. You can say I am basically addicted. In before years, I got some talking started (I WAS REALLY SHY THEN, Still am some today.)
Had her in some of my classes in grade 9 and talked to her/interacted as much as I could (before I knew all these PUA strategy or even what PUA was).
Everytime I tried to think of talking to her, I literally was cold in the face with shyness but I forced myself to go to her and somehow I would act like I was confident when I got in her presence. So I was moving very slow. Had her for 6 months time when I could've talked to her almost everyday BUT I would just make small talk once every week.
As the semester came to an end (2 weeks left), I realized that I would get nowhere, so I accelerated my progress and got as much close to her as I could and talked to her as much as I could until that semester was ended hoping I would get into a relationship (Girlfriend or normal friend).
We almost got into the friends zone but not quite reached there. I fell a bit short of the friends zone. I realize ppl say "If you get into the friends zone, you can never have an actual relationship" but a girl like her was someone I wanted to be around. Whether it be friend (to start it off) or girlfriend, I just wanted to be with her.
Had her for two classes in Grade 10, and somehow after praying to god to get her seated near me, we had a new seating plan where she got switched RIGHT BESIDE ME!
. As you can imagine, I was happy. This time, I went a bit of a more flirty approach then the normal nice guy personality that I am. I only had her for a month before the seating plan changed so we drifted apart again.
Now 2 years later, I haven't made any attempts in talking to her cause I didn't have her in any of my classes. So I told myself that she wasn't worth it, that I didn't need to get so desperate over her.
Everytime I walk in the halls, as I see her, I feel this guilt/regret of the time that I had with her and what I could've done with it.
I don't even like her as much as I did (took 2 years but I got most of my desperation out - STILL SOME LEFT THOUGH). I think I really just want to prove to myself now that I can get her but for some reason, I am even more scared to approach her.
Overall, I am pretty shy around girls (hot ones mostly). I never try to make conversation with them, not even a hi. E.g. There is this one girl in a class sitting beside me who is decent but I have never tried to make conversation with her. She even started a convo once but all I said was Yes and continued with work after that.
I am pretty dedicated to schoolwork so I don't want PUA to interfere with it.
Sorry for making this thing very long but I wanted to tell the main story and my motivation to learn more about pickup.
I don't even mind if I don't get any girlfriends. If I can get myself to easily talk to girls and be comfortable around them, that would be AWESOME!
Looking forward to spending time on this forum.
I am gonna tell you guys the straight up truth.
I am an AFC (Just learned that term yesterday lol).
I am new to pickup. Probably saw this niche when I saw The Pickup Artist show which got me hooked and interested. I am 17 so not really legal sex age but that's why I joined this forum. I am in highschool and I have this one girl that I don't even want to sleep with. I just want to have her as my girl friend cause I fucking love her. You can say I am basically addicted. In before years, I got some talking started (I WAS REALLY SHY THEN, Still am some today.)
Had her in some of my classes in grade 9 and talked to her/interacted as much as I could (before I knew all these PUA strategy or even what PUA was).
Everytime I tried to think of talking to her, I literally was cold in the face with shyness but I forced myself to go to her and somehow I would act like I was confident when I got in her presence. So I was moving very slow. Had her for 6 months time when I could've talked to her almost everyday BUT I would just make small talk once every week.
As the semester came to an end (2 weeks left), I realized that I would get nowhere, so I accelerated my progress and got as much close to her as I could and talked to her as much as I could until that semester was ended hoping I would get into a relationship (Girlfriend or normal friend).
We almost got into the friends zone but not quite reached there. I fell a bit short of the friends zone. I realize ppl say "If you get into the friends zone, you can never have an actual relationship" but a girl like her was someone I wanted to be around. Whether it be friend (to start it off) or girlfriend, I just wanted to be with her.
Had her for two classes in Grade 10, and somehow after praying to god to get her seated near me, we had a new seating plan where she got switched RIGHT BESIDE ME!
. As you can imagine, I was happy. This time, I went a bit of a more flirty approach then the normal nice guy personality that I am. I only had her for a month before the seating plan changed so we drifted apart again.Now 2 years later, I haven't made any attempts in talking to her cause I didn't have her in any of my classes. So I told myself that she wasn't worth it, that I didn't need to get so desperate over her.
Everytime I walk in the halls, as I see her, I feel this guilt/regret of the time that I had with her and what I could've done with it.
I don't even like her as much as I did (took 2 years but I got most of my desperation out - STILL SOME LEFT THOUGH). I think I really just want to prove to myself now that I can get her but for some reason, I am even more scared to approach her.
Overall, I am pretty shy around girls (hot ones mostly). I never try to make conversation with them, not even a hi. E.g. There is this one girl in a class sitting beside me who is decent but I have never tried to make conversation with her. She even started a convo once but all I said was Yes and continued with work after that.
I am pretty dedicated to schoolwork so I don't want PUA to interfere with it.
Sorry for making this thing very long but I wanted to tell the main story and my motivation to learn more about pickup.
I don't even mind if I don't get any girlfriends. If I can get myself to easily talk to girls and be comfortable around them, that would be AWESOME!
Looking forward to spending time on this forum.
