Conversation help ?

[kidd]

How can I get better at having conversations?? I suck at it :/ I never know what to say and theres always those akward monents when nobody says anything. Ive ruined too many chances Ive had with girls just because I cant hold a conversation. this is the biggest problem i have when it comes to getting with a girl. So what can I do to get better at it and actually be able to hold a conversation with someone??

[Sloth]

it's hard, your mind can just go blank, it's just about being inventive really. Like think of something relative.
I'm at uni, so i'll ask what degree they're doing and what their dream job is, it usually leads on from there, but think about it. What can you say to a girl based on the relevance of your conversation, if you're at a party you can ask what the best party shes been to is, etc etc.

other than that i come out with random wild lines, as the guys will tell you these sound ridiculous but work well, practically insulting the girl (nothing strong) as long as you're pulling a cheeky grin..

[amarok]

Oct 1, 2011 13:08:48 GMT -5 Sloth said:

other than that i come out with random wild lines, as the guys will tell you these sound ridiculous but work well, practically insulting the girl (nothing strong) as long as you're pulling a cheeky grin..

Those are the best. Especially if you have a playful girl that'll come back at you with something just as ridiculous.

Like Sloth said, a conversation is all about relevance. Look at what you've been talking about, what's blatantly going on around you, and talk about it. it takes practice, but it'll happen.

[Amb1valence]

Oct 1, 2011 13:08:48 GMT -5 Sloth said:

other than that i come out with random wild lines, as the guys will tell you these sound ridiculous but work well, practically insulting the girl (nothing strong) as long as you're pulling a cheeky grin..

Like what specifically?

[Sloth]

i usually point to a really weird looking person and say 'that guys checking you out' or 'isnt that your boyfriend' or 'there's my boyfriend'

[canadiankid]

Its all about about congruence. Lots of guys have the high energy crazy shit that works awesome for them (ei east coast, contempt) but some people are more smooth and suave. Theirs is probably easier to start with but once you have shit going and you talk to people a lot, you will find your personal balance. You get better by putting yourself in situations where you have to overcome your difficulties. In this cause its simple, just talk to lots of people!

[Adam]

I use to be the same. Advice? Practice

[pipe1x]

you can also just get some good opened ended questions memorized just incase you freeze, but practice. Get with a friend and pretend you guys have never know each other and start a convo, or talk to yourself in the mirror. that also helps.

[looknlisten]

Practice .. Hold conversations with random guys and friends and it will flow with girls, don't stop talking, keep talking nonsense but basically more reference experience will show you the light. You get lots of exceptions cos of diff chicks and situations .. I used to find going in low key,solid and even telling her shit did it for me but iv made a 180 -- give off good vibes, good emotions and you will be in form my man, you won't have to talk they will do the talking .. But to do that you have to be @ a higher level of consciousness and confidence and want to bring people into that light with you, that's why being in my presence is a privilege. Basically in conv; always be leading it, don't react keep on influencing her, talk nonsense, to give good emotions u yourself need to have good emotions within u so if your states in the mud don't fight it, embrace it .. Also very important you repeat this in ur head a few times -- "JUST LET IT GO" .. Let go of it all, the tension, the ego, the perceptions and assumptions, the judging - let it go and be u

[Amb1valence]

Hahahahahah savant....your rep...lmao and yeah dude you always have it right but I think the way you explain it sometimes makes it hard to understand

[looknlisten]

Haha my rep is sick dude

[canadiankid]

Absolute value? Unreal. Actual rep? Wheeeeuuuuu

[looknlisten]

Haha all what I talk about is from my perspective, I'm not trying to impress anyone ey like iv said before do what you want when you want. I don't wanna come here and act like I know too much shit, I just say what I know. The guys that are dishing out the rep are the guys getting pissed infront of a computer screen haha nothing I can do my my mate

[Rusty]

Dude half of the conversations I have are about fuck all, just chill out and talk about whatever, just keep it light. I found conversations hard to, but that's because I was too in my head, and it stopped being about giving value and interacting in a healthy way. Just talk about whatever, have a laugh, don't take yourself too seriously, smile, learn to laugh. Know when it's not your fault, not all hot girls have awesome conversation skills, they find it a little hard to just talk off the cuff to random people so sometimes you have to lead them to where they're a little more comfortable with your natural high value. But if you can just relax and talk to her on equal ground but still give value, you can talk to anybody man. Don't oerthink it, be high value and just tall about whatever is situationally relevant. And as you get more comfortable with it, you'll be able to talk about things that aren't so situationally relevant in a normal, fun way.

[bouncer]

Yhea and a good advice that I discovered a few months ago works great is;
Look at her! Look for something special you know, an easy example is if they're wounded, you can say something like what happened? Or if its a big wound, and youre asking:'How are you' And she says 'good' you can say: no your not (pointing at the wound) and usually they will come up with a story about what happened.

Of course this is a bad example, but with a tattoo, words on a shirt, inkt on the hand, everything thats not usual (or things which are, but you know a funny thing to say about it) you can use to let the conversation continue