qaz
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Post by qaz on Oct 10, 2011 22:40:35 GMT -5
So basically I feel like my relationship is losing energy or interest or whatever you want to call it. I feel like my girlfriend is less interested than she was before we started dating and it's really bugging me. I'm still staying playful and all but I can't really respark that interest like it used to be and thats what I really need help with, we haven't gotten very physical so that might be it we just hug and kiss alot. I honestly don't know what to do at this point.
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infamous93
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Post by infamous93 on Oct 10, 2011 23:03:13 GMT -5
This happend to me to, I just bore through it and kept being playful and she came around and now we have a great relationship.  Get more physical. |
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Post by qaz on Oct 10, 2011 23:10:42 GMT -5
Ya that's the plan I'm just really inexperienced physically so I feel like it would be kinda awkward. But I'm gonna go learn some stuff about escalation then put it to work. Would you suggest any specific articles?
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Post by Parkwhore on Oct 10, 2011 23:37:03 GMT -5
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Post by qaz on Oct 10, 2011 23:53:58 GMT -5
^Thanks I've read that a few times and remember a few key things from it but it's a good refresher, my real problem is transitioning, like from making out to fingering, stuff like that and I can't really find anything on it. Can someone explain this to me.
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Nick
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Post by Nick on Oct 10, 2011 23:55:48 GMT -5
Maybe instead of discussing it with a forum of random guys, you should discuss it with her... Don't know about anyone else, but I think it's pretty freaking important that you are able to open up to your girlfriend. I mean, if you're going to have a girlfriend, why not be close to her and be able to talk with her? Although, if I had any actual advice for you - you said it yourself - you're not physical enough. Turn it a little more sexual. Push your limits. If you've only gotten to making out, try taking her shirt off. If you've gotten her shirt off, try taking her bra off. If you've gotten her bra off (and are both comfortable with playing with her boobs  ), then go for the pants. Once you've gotten her pants off... From there is kind of up to you two. I don't know what the normal escalation is, but for me I've always jumped right to sex. Fingering and other dirtier foreplay stuff has always come after sex. Then again, to me, I would think fingering would come before sex. I don't really know... Anways... Yeah... /rant |
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Post by Parkwhore on Oct 11, 2011 0:20:13 GMT -5
If i try to finger my girlfriend before sex she gets pissy and says "just put your penis in me!" But if i try to afterwards shes too worn out.
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Post by DanZy on Oct 11, 2011 9:38:41 GMT -5
If i try to finger my girlfriend before sex she gets pissy and says "just put your penis in me!" But if i try to afterwards shes too worn out. I want your gf simply for that |
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Post by Nick on Oct 11, 2011 15:33:44 GMT -5
If i try to finger my girlfriend before sex she gets pissy and says "just put your penis in me!" But if i try to afterwards shes too worn out. Same thing happens to me. It seems like it should be a good thing, but it sure isn't. Sometimes the D isn't always available. Lol |
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Post by amarok on Oct 11, 2011 16:42:01 GMT -5
This lull happened to me too. You need to take her on a date, even something small. Get out of the normal routine and do what couples should. Go out, have fun. Don't just sit around someone's house and talk and make out. Go do something fun instead, see a movie, go out to eat, have sex on a train idc! Just do it.
Also, I noticed some common problems with that sex article so i'm prob gonna write one soon.
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Post by canadiankid on Oct 11, 2011 22:46:19 GMT -5
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Post by tykenfitz on Oct 15, 2011 1:02:41 GMT -5
If i try to finger my girlfriend before sex she gets pissy and says "just put your penis in me!" But if i try to afterwards shes too worn out. Same thing happens to me. It seems like it should be a good thing, but it sure isn't. Sometimes the D isn't always available. Lol Unfortunately, this man speaks the truth  |
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), then go for the pants. Once you've gotten her pants off... From there is kind of up to you two. I don't know what the normal escalation is, but for me I've always jumped right to sex. Fingering and other dirtier foreplay stuff has always come after sex. Then again, to me, I would think fingering would come before sex. I don't really know...
