Post by dante3x3 on Nov 27, 2008 13:52:05 GMT -5
I used to be a nerd. A total loser, bottom of the social order, no girlfriend, no game. Then, somewhere in 9th grade, i realized that, at a new school, I could remake myself as a person. These are the steps I used to accomplish this, and my personal examples of the process.
Make an objective
Decide on what you want to be like. Try to come up with five words that would describe the identity you wish to possess. Watch Movies, read books, watch Tv, actively looking for characters who you would like to be more like, whose traits, mannerisms, and dress you might want to adapt.
My example:
words- suave
Sophisticated
tough
clever
confident
As influences on the identity i was creating i used:
Sean Connery as James Bond, Brad Pitt as Tyler Durden, David Duchovny as Hank Moody, Clint Eastwood, Clive Owen as Mr Smith.
Actively analyze traits you currently posses
Know yourself. You cant change if you don't know what you are working with. What traits to you want to change? What to you just want to enhance? What works for you already?
I knew that i already had the intellectual resources to appear sophisticated, and I already had a sort of biting sense of humor that I could channel into appearing clever and negging. However, my body language was anything but alpha, and i seemed awkward, and lacked confidence.
Look at Yourself in a Mirror
Visuals are very important. A girls first impression of you is the up- down look she subtly, or not so subtly gives you when she meets you. Its not even the clothes that matter so much, though as ZZ Top once said "Every Girls Crazy About a Sharp Dressed Man." Its the connotations of the clothes you wear. Mystery wears nail polish, not because it looks good, but because it implies to girls that he has been preselected by other women, who have put it on him. Other clothes imply similar preselection, as do bracelets, earrings, necklaces, all that good stuff. Clothing that stands out, or is outside the norm implies to the woman that you have something special going on, that you must have something good about you, to be able to have the confidence to dress like that on normal basis.
I used to be a t- shirt and jeans guy. Actually, I still wear T- shirt and jeans all the time. But I added various items of clothing that fit with my persona. Motorcycle boots, leather jackets, aviators, scarves, whatever.
Start the Change
You have already Identified the Changes that need to be made in your personality. So make them. Eliminate those bothersome characteristic's. Alter that wimpy body language. Bit by Bit, incorporate material into every day conversations.
Life Style Changes
What do you want to be good at? This does not have to have anything to do with seduction. Have you always wanted to play guitar? then do it. Been feeling a little flabby recently? then go to the gym. Its up to you to decided the man you want to be.
Take a Step Back
If you followed all of these steps to the letter, you should now, truly, be the man you want to be. Your lifestyle has changed, and you have been able to access your true potential as an alpha male. Now go have fun. Party. Meet some members of the opposite sex. Get Laid. Go forth and be happy.
-Dante
If anyone has any comments, or ideas for expanding this, Feel free to tell me, Im always open to suggestions.
Make an objective
Decide on what you want to be like. Try to come up with five words that would describe the identity you wish to possess. Watch Movies, read books, watch Tv, actively looking for characters who you would like to be more like, whose traits, mannerisms, and dress you might want to adapt.
My example:
words- suave
Sophisticated
tough
clever
confident
As influences on the identity i was creating i used:
Sean Connery as James Bond, Brad Pitt as Tyler Durden, David Duchovny as Hank Moody, Clint Eastwood, Clive Owen as Mr Smith.
Actively analyze traits you currently posses
Know yourself. You cant change if you don't know what you are working with. What traits to you want to change? What to you just want to enhance? What works for you already?
I knew that i already had the intellectual resources to appear sophisticated, and I already had a sort of biting sense of humor that I could channel into appearing clever and negging. However, my body language was anything but alpha, and i seemed awkward, and lacked confidence.
Look at Yourself in a Mirror
Visuals are very important. A girls first impression of you is the up- down look she subtly, or not so subtly gives you when she meets you. Its not even the clothes that matter so much, though as ZZ Top once said "Every Girls Crazy About a Sharp Dressed Man." Its the connotations of the clothes you wear. Mystery wears nail polish, not because it looks good, but because it implies to girls that he has been preselected by other women, who have put it on him. Other clothes imply similar preselection, as do bracelets, earrings, necklaces, all that good stuff. Clothing that stands out, or is outside the norm implies to the woman that you have something special going on, that you must have something good about you, to be able to have the confidence to dress like that on normal basis.
I used to be a t- shirt and jeans guy. Actually, I still wear T- shirt and jeans all the time. But I added various items of clothing that fit with my persona. Motorcycle boots, leather jackets, aviators, scarves, whatever.
Start the Change
You have already Identified the Changes that need to be made in your personality. So make them. Eliminate those bothersome characteristic's. Alter that wimpy body language. Bit by Bit, incorporate material into every day conversations.
Life Style Changes
What do you want to be good at? This does not have to have anything to do with seduction. Have you always wanted to play guitar? then do it. Been feeling a little flabby recently? then go to the gym. Its up to you to decided the man you want to be.
Take a Step Back
If you followed all of these steps to the letter, you should now, truly, be the man you want to be. Your lifestyle has changed, and you have been able to access your true potential as an alpha male. Now go have fun. Party. Meet some members of the opposite sex. Get Laid. Go forth and be happy.
-Dante
If anyone has any comments, or ideas for expanding this, Feel free to tell me, Im always open to suggestions.
Looks good man, +1
Stuffs good, you?
