Post by NorwegianDJ on Dec 10, 2011 16:26:40 GMT -5
This is straight up copied from my original post on SS, created a year ago.
What excactly is it that makes high school different from the real world? In this post I will assert some of the major differences in HS.
First of: in HS you will be around the same people for 4 years. It's a social environment by itself. Because of this, several things that aren't as important in the real world is quite important in HS.
HS is a cohesive “social scene” in and of itself, and guys who have the most success with women understand this scene and rise to the top of it.
Being pre-selected. Girls will watch how other people react to you, in order to figure out who the top dog is. Girls don't really want to be hit on, they want to 'select' who they want to hook up with.
Pre-selection is something you demonstrate with your actions and your personality traits, not your words. if you do have pre‐selection, it triggers MASSIVE sexual attraction. In fact, it overpowers things that cause sexual attraction in “real world game”. Being pre-selected implies that you are wanted, there is no better way to do this than by gaining reputation.
Reputation: You want to be known in your school. You want to be known as a cool, fun, positive guy. You will seem higher value, more intimidating, social and a pre-selected alpha to almost any group.
Your reputation is what people know you as. Getting a decent reputation is not very easy. Most people either have a loser reputation, or don't have one at all. A reputation is very important for your social life in high school. Chicks like to be on the edge with everything, like a good time, like to be seen with popular people.
How to gain a good reputation; You will need:
A good attitude!
A decent relationship with the popular kids.
Something that makes you unique.
1. A good attitude. This one is SOO important. It's the foundation of it all, it's all of these things we keep talking about on the forums. You want to bring those skills into your school. Being positive and having a positive outlook on life is key. The world is a light place. Noone wants to be with a boring, negative guy, with nothing interesting to say. Say what is on your mind. Spread your energy and happiness, people will return the favor. Have a strong reality, don't let people abuse you. And so fourth, this is what you will always keep improving. I recommend Tolle's books (I'm such a Tolle fan, please shoot me for advertizing now).
There are four personality traits you want:
*Fun – We are to enjoy life, smile, joke around and have fun. An amazing line that you should always think to yourself (especially with chicks) is: «How can I make this fun?», not «What should I do next?».
*Dominant – Being dominant means being assertive and confident about what you want and expect from others. Not «What should I do?», but «What do I want?».
*Leadership – Take initiative. Know when to organize an event, be a guy that comes up with cool stuff and brings people together.
*Easygoing – Guys that are succesfull in HS are VERY easygoing. They’re having fun in their own way, but they’re never neurotic or overly concerned about anything. They have the confidence to know that things will be ok.
Be advertureous, try out things that others wont (Not talking about drugs and dangerous **** here).
«Bros before hos» Always look out for you buddies, a lay is not as important as your friends. Elevevate your friends, and they will lift you even higher.
Be the guy you want to be around.
How to achieve these traits? Simply push your comfort-zone. The more you push it; the faster the process. Character transformations happen when you stretch the limits of what kind of behavior is possible.
2. A decent relationship with the popular kids.
Unless your school is small, getting a good rep is not gonna be a one man job. Get to know the popular kids, hang out with them. Make them like you, and you will be pre-selected. Make other people spread your name, it doesn't always matter what you did. Just make sure that everybody knows you.
***Censored***
That's an example of getting your name across. You can also do this by sports.
3. Something that makes you unique.
Why should people know your name? Is it because you are the life of the party? Do you have an unique style? Are you good at sports? Do you connect people?
Don't be a copycat. Dont do what other people do simply because its normal. Don't be afraid to not be going with the norms – but swimming against the current can be both hard and unnecessary.
Don't adopt the attitude that every girls you're talking to is a «cold approach», like a random girl you meet one night in a party/bar/mall in the real world. If you do this, and use lines and routines, the chick will be weirded out. Why? Because you're acting like an outsider. You're acting like you're not a part of the social environment. Your value is lowered, you are literally coming up to her with an empty cup, asking her to fill it. Noone wants to be around a value taker.
Give value
Giving value is big in any setting, not just in HS. Why? Because we as humans are drawn towards any kind of value. Value is like a magnet.
What is value? Value for a man is different for what's value for a woman.
1.Anything that helps you survive
2.Anything that helps you have more kids
3.Anything that helps those kids survive.
4.Anything that gives good emotions (As we don't always know what is gonna help us).
Now, keep in mind: Value is a personality trait or an action; not something you say.
Value can be many different things. A line of coke to a cokehead can seem to have value for him, when it in reality doesn't.
Value is hardwired to be mostly short-term (due to living 200,000 years as cavemen + 3 million as cavemen but not fully evolved).
Women are looking for:
*Deciciveness
*Resourcefulness
*Dominance
*Fearlessness
*Strong reality
*The «good attitude» traits.
Deciciveness – Being decicive is important. How could you ever survive back in the day if you weren't decicive? Make quick decicions based on your information in the present moment.
Resourcefulness – You have the «tribe». You have a lot of friends and people know you. This is rep. This is NOT money. Money is not an attractive quality at all. It's the lover/provider theorem. You will end up as a provider.
Dominant – Being dominant means being assertive and confident about what you want and expect from others. Not «What should I do?», but «What do I want?».
Fearlessness – Don't be afraid to act in spite of fear. I remember many things seeming dangerous and scary, and some shouldn't be. People always respect the guy that does things others don't dare do. Don't get into trouble.
Strong reality – Having a strong reality is important, but it takes time. It is built up as you learn more about this stuff and get more experience. Learn to think and act for yourself, don't assume that others will think for you.
HS is Social
If you’re being strategic, moment by moment in HS, you’re doing something wrong.
Being strategic means that if you are routinely stepping out of the present moment to
assess and re‐position, if you are not really enjoying yourself. This goes against our attitude. Of course, starting off, you must have some strategy. Sometimes you must take a step back and look over what works and what doesn't.
BE SOCIAL
You have to be socially proactive.
Don't look at meeting new people as cold approaching, look at it as giving love. Giving love is crucial. Spread good vibes, assume attraction. Assume good responses, don't look for reactions, just assume them.
In the classroom you want to get to know the people as early as possible; don't wait untill the end of the semester. Simply talk to people before class starts or maybe say hello towards the end. This should be easy; just don't fart on them.
Ask the professor interesting questions, try getting them off-topic and talking about interesting stuff. Be active in discussions, don't be afraid to speak your mind. However, you don't want to be the nerd who asks about exposition on unimportant details.
Use notes. Be direct. Don't ask about what she thinks of the subject, say «Hey, what's your name?». From here, expand to talking about social stuff, who she knows, common people etc. You can soon be all love, kisses and hugs.
If you’re catching a girl as you’re both leaving class, strike up a little chat. “Katie, for
****’s sake, I just sat there for 90 minutes thinking about what we could talk about after
class, and you’re just gonna run away from me?”
You don't want to do this too much to a chick though. You don't want to be her «classroom friend». Break the pattern by inviting her to hang with you after school, in school or to a party.
You simply have to be social with people. I'm talking high fives in the hallway, being a bit higher energy than everyone else, hugs, chatting to people. This also applies in recess. Don't stay with one type of people, go mingle! Try bringing groups together, which brings me to:
Being the bridge.
A bridge is a guy who easily connects with and is friends with a lot of girls, or vice versa.
The easiest way for a guy to become a bridge is to have a girlfriend with a lot of cute friends.
There are also, of course, some guys just get along well with women and naturally become bridges to the opposite sex. These can be guys who love women and love to be around them.
So each clique has these bridges, and they will call or text when they’re making their plans.
You become a bridge naturally by BEING the things in this article.
You don't want to be using memorized lines and routines in HS, trying to structure your converstations a specific way, thinking «What do I say to get this girl to stay with me?», cause that is what you're doing. You're sucking value, you're a value taker. This isn't supposed to be logical, men are logical, women are not. You want to communicate with emotion. Chicks want to feel good. If you can provide this, you will be of massive value. The good emotions is:
1.The positive energy you share
2.The dominant masculinity you project.
Acting disinterested has never worked for me in HS. Being direct is the way to go. If you like a girl, then you go for her. Your qualities provide the value needed. An abundance mentality is something that comes natural from being succesfull in HS. An abundance mentality means that you know that you can get many chicks, you have the ability to get some whenever you like. Because of this, you will not come off as needy. There is a fine line between being needy and being persistent, and this is it.
What excactly is it that makes high school different from the real world? In this post I will assert some of the major differences in HS.
First of: in HS you will be around the same people for 4 years. It's a social environment by itself. Because of this, several things that aren't as important in the real world is quite important in HS.
HS is a cohesive “social scene” in and of itself, and guys who have the most success with women understand this scene and rise to the top of it.
Being pre-selected. Girls will watch how other people react to you, in order to figure out who the top dog is. Girls don't really want to be hit on, they want to 'select' who they want to hook up with.
Pre-selection is something you demonstrate with your actions and your personality traits, not your words. if you do have pre‐selection, it triggers MASSIVE sexual attraction. In fact, it overpowers things that cause sexual attraction in “real world game”. Being pre-selected implies that you are wanted, there is no better way to do this than by gaining reputation.
Reputation: You want to be known in your school. You want to be known as a cool, fun, positive guy. You will seem higher value, more intimidating, social and a pre-selected alpha to almost any group.
Your reputation is what people know you as. Getting a decent reputation is not very easy. Most people either have a loser reputation, or don't have one at all. A reputation is very important for your social life in high school. Chicks like to be on the edge with everything, like a good time, like to be seen with popular people.
How to gain a good reputation; You will need:
A good attitude!
A decent relationship with the popular kids.
Something that makes you unique.
1. A good attitude. This one is SOO important. It's the foundation of it all, it's all of these things we keep talking about on the forums. You want to bring those skills into your school. Being positive and having a positive outlook on life is key. The world is a light place. Noone wants to be with a boring, negative guy, with nothing interesting to say. Say what is on your mind. Spread your energy and happiness, people will return the favor. Have a strong reality, don't let people abuse you. And so fourth, this is what you will always keep improving. I recommend Tolle's books (I'm such a Tolle fan, please shoot me for advertizing now).
There are four personality traits you want:
*Fun – We are to enjoy life, smile, joke around and have fun. An amazing line that you should always think to yourself (especially with chicks) is: «How can I make this fun?», not «What should I do next?».
*Dominant – Being dominant means being assertive and confident about what you want and expect from others. Not «What should I do?», but «What do I want?».
*Leadership – Take initiative. Know when to organize an event, be a guy that comes up with cool stuff and brings people together.
*Easygoing – Guys that are succesfull in HS are VERY easygoing. They’re having fun in their own way, but they’re never neurotic or overly concerned about anything. They have the confidence to know that things will be ok.
Be advertureous, try out things that others wont (Not talking about drugs and dangerous **** here).
«Bros before hos» Always look out for you buddies, a lay is not as important as your friends. Elevevate your friends, and they will lift you even higher.
Be the guy you want to be around.
How to achieve these traits? Simply push your comfort-zone. The more you push it; the faster the process. Character transformations happen when you stretch the limits of what kind of behavior is possible.
2. A decent relationship with the popular kids.
Unless your school is small, getting a good rep is not gonna be a one man job. Get to know the popular kids, hang out with them. Make them like you, and you will be pre-selected. Make other people spread your name, it doesn't always matter what you did. Just make sure that everybody knows you.
***Censored***
That's an example of getting your name across. You can also do this by sports.
3. Something that makes you unique.
Why should people know your name? Is it because you are the life of the party? Do you have an unique style? Are you good at sports? Do you connect people?
Don't be a copycat. Dont do what other people do simply because its normal. Don't be afraid to not be going with the norms – but swimming against the current can be both hard and unnecessary.
Don't adopt the attitude that every girls you're talking to is a «cold approach», like a random girl you meet one night in a party/bar/mall in the real world. If you do this, and use lines and routines, the chick will be weirded out. Why? Because you're acting like an outsider. You're acting like you're not a part of the social environment. Your value is lowered, you are literally coming up to her with an empty cup, asking her to fill it. Noone wants to be around a value taker.
Give value
Giving value is big in any setting, not just in HS. Why? Because we as humans are drawn towards any kind of value. Value is like a magnet.
What is value? Value for a man is different for what's value for a woman.
1.Anything that helps you survive
2.Anything that helps you have more kids
3.Anything that helps those kids survive.
4.Anything that gives good emotions (As we don't always know what is gonna help us).
Now, keep in mind: Value is a personality trait or an action; not something you say.
Value can be many different things. A line of coke to a cokehead can seem to have value for him, when it in reality doesn't.
Value is hardwired to be mostly short-term (due to living 200,000 years as cavemen + 3 million as cavemen but not fully evolved).
Women are looking for:
*Deciciveness
*Resourcefulness
*Dominance
*Fearlessness
*Strong reality
*The «good attitude» traits.
Deciciveness – Being decicive is important. How could you ever survive back in the day if you weren't decicive? Make quick decicions based on your information in the present moment.
Resourcefulness – You have the «tribe». You have a lot of friends and people know you. This is rep. This is NOT money. Money is not an attractive quality at all. It's the lover/provider theorem. You will end up as a provider.
Dominant – Being dominant means being assertive and confident about what you want and expect from others. Not «What should I do?», but «What do I want?».
Fearlessness – Don't be afraid to act in spite of fear. I remember many things seeming dangerous and scary, and some shouldn't be. People always respect the guy that does things others don't dare do. Don't get into trouble.
Strong reality – Having a strong reality is important, but it takes time. It is built up as you learn more about this stuff and get more experience. Learn to think and act for yourself, don't assume that others will think for you.
HS is Social
If you’re being strategic, moment by moment in HS, you’re doing something wrong.
Being strategic means that if you are routinely stepping out of the present moment to
assess and re‐position, if you are not really enjoying yourself. This goes against our attitude. Of course, starting off, you must have some strategy. Sometimes you must take a step back and look over what works and what doesn't.
BE SOCIAL
You have to be socially proactive.
Don't look at meeting new people as cold approaching, look at it as giving love. Giving love is crucial. Spread good vibes, assume attraction. Assume good responses, don't look for reactions, just assume them.
In the classroom you want to get to know the people as early as possible; don't wait untill the end of the semester. Simply talk to people before class starts or maybe say hello towards the end. This should be easy; just don't fart on them.
Ask the professor interesting questions, try getting them off-topic and talking about interesting stuff. Be active in discussions, don't be afraid to speak your mind. However, you don't want to be the nerd who asks about exposition on unimportant details.
Use notes. Be direct. Don't ask about what she thinks of the subject, say «Hey, what's your name?». From here, expand to talking about social stuff, who she knows, common people etc. You can soon be all love, kisses and hugs.
If you’re catching a girl as you’re both leaving class, strike up a little chat. “Katie, for
****’s sake, I just sat there for 90 minutes thinking about what we could talk about after
class, and you’re just gonna run away from me?”
You don't want to do this too much to a chick though. You don't want to be her «classroom friend». Break the pattern by inviting her to hang with you after school, in school or to a party.
You simply have to be social with people. I'm talking high fives in the hallway, being a bit higher energy than everyone else, hugs, chatting to people. This also applies in recess. Don't stay with one type of people, go mingle! Try bringing groups together, which brings me to:
Being the bridge.
A bridge is a guy who easily connects with and is friends with a lot of girls, or vice versa.
The easiest way for a guy to become a bridge is to have a girlfriend with a lot of cute friends.
There are also, of course, some guys just get along well with women and naturally become bridges to the opposite sex. These can be guys who love women and love to be around them.
So each clique has these bridges, and they will call or text when they’re making their plans.
You become a bridge naturally by BEING the things in this article.
You don't want to be using memorized lines and routines in HS, trying to structure your converstations a specific way, thinking «What do I say to get this girl to stay with me?», cause that is what you're doing. You're sucking value, you're a value taker. This isn't supposed to be logical, men are logical, women are not. You want to communicate with emotion. Chicks want to feel good. If you can provide this, you will be of massive value. The good emotions is:
1.The positive energy you share
2.The dominant masculinity you project.
Acting disinterested has never worked for me in HS. Being direct is the way to go. If you like a girl, then you go for her. Your qualities provide the value needed. An abundance mentality is something that comes natural from being succesfull in HS. An abundance mentality means that you know that you can get many chicks, you have the ability to get some whenever you like. Because of this, you will not come off as needy. There is a fine line between being needy and being persistent, and this is it.
