"Breaking Free"

[america]

The more I hear about social circles and how they so greatly affect how you do with the ladies in high school, the more I've come to the stunning realization that I've gone down a path from which there is no return.

I go to a very small high school with maybe 500 students in total from freshmen-seniors. I've gone to this school my entire life, and literally EVERYBODY knows me. People always say that I'm cool, funny, and fun to be around. I'm friends with most of the various social groups in our school. "What's the problem here?" you ask. Well, in spite of the fact that nearly everyone seems to know/like me, it's very rare that I get invited to parties (I've gone to maybe 2 this year)... or really just to even hang out for that matter. Besides with the couple of close friends I have, I rarely do anything with anybody outside of school. It seems like over the years, people have just started to look at me as "that cool kid that makes my school day bearable" but nothing more.

So how does one break free of this stereotype?

[Parkwhore]

Haha youre not in a bad situation at all bro. The answer your looking for is pretty clear to me. Dont wait for others to call you up, take action and make plans. Get out there and give value and be that fun crazy guy you want to be.

[nolimit]

The key word is HANG OUT!
When i say hang out I mean after classes or on weekends, that's when everyone makes there plans for the night. Since you know a lot of people you can just ask them where they are going after classes (they will probably be heading to a bar or a cafe...), once you do this with several different social groups and go to different party's you will notice that there are only 20 % of the kids you know, that really go out and party! Thus are the guys you want to hang out with extra time!
You get it?

PS : If you really want people to invite you to parties host your own House Party!
Believe me it's worth the hard work, people will remember you!

Nolimit

[Sloth]

Dec 22, 2011 5:22:16 GMT -5 nolimit said:

PS : If you really want people to invite you to parties host your own House Party!
Believe me it's worth the hard work, people will remember you!

Nolimit

if you throw a bad house party, it is a major downer on your image, you have to make sure people are going (be well organised) and make sure there is alcohol in plentiful amounts, oh and good lighting actually helps a lot if it's mainly outdoors. I used to hate standing in the dark it was just shitty.

[america]

I think the house party thing is out of the question lol... my parents are Nazis.

[fullbang]

if im not wrong, next week you have holidays and that mean no school. And no school mean parties So if i were in your place, and if i couldnt use my house, i would rent a place for party. And if you find it, ask few friend to help you organize it, and share the costs so that you wouldnt go bank-rupt. And most of you fellows in USA have driving licence, so its no big deal if its a bit far away.

[looknlisten]

Haha you've asked the wrong question so your answers have suited you. I think your complicating life by making rationalizations. 1) what is the problem 2)what are you gonna do about it. I think its that easy

[Amb1valence]

I think I'm sort of in the same situation as you lol. At least with the people I'm in classes with. For some reason I'm a lot more chill with people here and there in other grades, from other schools, at my workplace etc. than my friends in my IB classes. My 3 or 4 best friends are in my classes but other than that I'm just chill with the people in IB, not exactly really good friends with them though. Maybe I should make an attempt to become friends with them.....idk I'm just extremely lazy. I might at some point. The thing is that most of the "cool" people in IB are girls, and they have this pretty tight clique going on. There's only like 10 guys in my IB class total, of which 2 or 3 are actually chill besides my best friend, so I can't go the bro route.

But anyway I digress. I think what you needa do is as follows. First find some bros. You say you're friends with everyone, and the great thing about being a guy is having bro power - you can easily become friends with almost any guy, really easily. Do you work out? Ask to go to the gym with some guys who do, and you'll instantly become tight with them. That's what I've done recently and it works great. Then you can just talk about girls and cars and guy stuff if you carpool back from the gym, which solidifies the bond, after which you can text them to sleep over or whatever some time. Even if you don't do that, you can always get info about where the party's at if you ask them, chances are you'll find someone who knows, and you can go with them or whatever.

For example, my friend at my workplace got off at the same time one day and we were talking on the way out about how he just broke up with his gf or something, and I had time so we just chilled in his car and talked about all kinds of shit for like an hour; the next day we did it again and my other friend from work came with us too, now we got like a regular chill sesh in andrew's car going on every time we all get off at the same time and we just talk about all the girls we're talking to hahaha. We got like this crazy bond now it's great.

For girls: just meet them through your new bros. Easy as pie. Or at the parties you go to, with your bros.

Idk this is just how it's worked in my experience. There's ways to meet girls here and there without bros, but I've found it's just so much easier to know guys who know girls, and just get introduced that way. Also, once you've made friends with girls, you can meet their friends (not their EXTREMELY CLOSE friends mind you, but just other girls that they hang out with sometimes. If you meet girl 2 through your female friend, girl 1, chances are things are going to be a little awkward when you start trying to hook up with girl 2 because girls talk.)