Hitting up girls on facebook: legit or gay?

[Amb1valence]

What do you guys think? I'm talking about for the first time. Say you:

1. see that a hot girl has added/followed you on facebook/twitter

2. see a hot girl on facebook/twitter, and add/follow her

And then you proceed to send her a message and start talking to her.

Personally I feel like that's completely a pussy way of going about things (#2 more so than #1, I never add people I dont know, period) - I've always thought meeting a girl in real life at least for the first time is key, and THEN you can add/follow/text her. But in this generation of chiefly electronic communication, I'm thinking maybe I should hop on the bandwagon of guys who get girls through facebook. I always thought guys who did that were pussies, and I still have this feeling that meeting in real life is so much better that it's not even worth it to meet over facebook.

However I finally got to a point where my schoolwork is at a lull, and I have free time on the weekends, so my dick is all armed and ready to go meet some new girls. But then I came to the realization that it's hard to meet girls only in real life, since 1. there are basically no parties right now, and 2. going the social game route (meeting friends of friends) is more difficult than I thought since I don't have really good friends who are friends with hot girls that I could just go meet.

So I'm thinking well, maybe I should just give in and use facebook to meet girls. I just wanted to see what you guys think about this though. Cuz i've been creeping on SO MANY RANDOM BABES MMMMMMMMMMMMM but I have no way of talking to them because the social connections I have to them are pretty weak.

[qaz]

I have a friend that used to do this alot. He got alot of girls numbers after IMing them. It worked alright but he did this to apparently a lot of girls and is now labeled a creep.

I would personally meet the girl first in person no matter how short of a meeting it is and message her on Facebook afterwords rather than hit her up on fb first because I think when you actually met her in person it would be slightly awkward but it's really up to you.

[Michal]

I don't want to live on this world anymore...

where guys are asking if they can hit on the internet, FUCK even 7-8yo boys have bigger balls then you. No its not normal and its creepy hit on FB,coz if some girl which I don't know her add me on FB she is probably : 1.Ugly,2. No friends ,3. Mental or physichally disordered...
Now you can start to think what would girl thinks if you add her...

[looknlisten]

^ Hahah .. Well honestly what you believe is what you'll get. I believe if your in abundance (which your not) then its cool to creep on the nets. If your in scarcity, needy, need validation then no your just wasting time that should be spent outside

[qaz]

Jan 8, 2012 8:14:14 GMT -5 Michal said:

Now you can start to think what would girl thinks if you add her...

that reminds me, my other friend adds literally everyone in our area which is definitely weird but he makes it work and dosnt come off as creepy, he does have amazing social connections though like he is the role model for being social. I don't think he really talks to the chicks unless they like his pictures or something.

[Sloth]

all i'll say is if you do it a lot you become a creep

[Contempt]

I will use it to set myself up so that when i see a girl in real life I can approach her really easily, or to follow up some sort of interaction. For example, I visited a school a couple days ago to see if i wanted to go there next semester and I was in this one class and there was the decently cute girl that i had been making laser eyecontact with (try this sometime, its like most of my game) the whole period, but didnt say a single word to, this builds alot of attraction (hopefully lol) so when i messaged her on facebook Like 3 days ago i didnt come off as so much of a creep and she was actually interested. All i did was ask her if i knew her, etc. Didnt respond legitimately to any of her questions cause i think i'm really cool and what i have to say is so much more important and then said nice to meet you and got off. Now, next time i see her, i'll have somewhere to start the interaction off and she'll remember how fucking awesome i am. Stuff along these lines is basically the only way i use facebook at all in the beginning of an interaction.

I never, unless i'm absolutely desperate, will try to number close on facebook. I also dont add girls on facebook or really "open" them there because i feel like my mindset should be i have such an abundance of women its completely unnecessary to do so and they're going to want me and add me no matter what anyways.

Just my thoughts on facebook game

[Adam]

Facebook is gay and gets you no where. It's like walking up a down escalator you think you are doing something but your not. You may have sex charged convresations but thet rarely (in my experiences) carry on into the real world.

I only use facebook to meet girls ASAP. If a hot girl adds me the only game I use is about a 5 minute chat saying "Hey your cute let's meet up"

I wasted so much time online gaming girls I'm highly aginst it.

[Amb1valence]

Yeah you know what you guys are right. Now that I think about it, there's just like literally no way you can meet a girl purely through facebook and go hang out with her and have it be even remotely close to as normal as it would be if you met her in real life first.
I just picture showing up a chicks house and being like heyyy how are you..and hearing her voice for the first time and shit......yeah there's no way that would work out smoothly hahaha.


Anyway. So then.....what would you guys recommend as the best way to get connected with girls outside your social group? Cuz I'm literally cut off from everyone else in school (who's friends with the hot girls anyway) thanks to the wonderful IB program.....it's difficult to stay good friends with everyone outside of it when I don't have classes with them and I never see them since they live in a different neighborhood.

And contempt, the laser eye contact......good pointttt brahhhh. Hmmm I need to work on that haha. I've been regressing into that thing where I look away instinctively if they meet my eyes and I feel like a retard lol.

[Parkwhore]

Its not impossible. There are many factors but it can be done.

If you live a fun life that others want to be a part of and that is reflected through your page, girls will message you.

-I got pictures from a girl who messaged me then a bj at the party she invited me to.
-Dated a girl for 6 months who added me then I messaged her. I'm still fucking her.

Those are the two instances that stick out in my mind. It's difficult sometimes but definately acheivable. Don't be a creepass and straight up message her though. If she adds you thats a good time to message a variation "do i know you" and a like on a photo or a comment is a good sign too.

You have to know though that you will get judged hardcore on your looks and your profile, mainly your pics. This is much easier if you're good looking.

Also, the girls that are tops of the top of the social ladder will likely laugh at your pathetic messages. The only way I ever got a hangout from one of these girls was by posting "gross" on a pic that all dudes were sucking her cock on. I'm not telling you to do that, that was a long story. But legit, my buddy hacked one of these girls fb's and checked the messages....100's of unanswered messaages from various chodes.

[canadiankid]

When a girl adds me I'll I'll hit her up, but not usually in an overly sexual way I you can gauge her vibes. If she's pretty receptive then I can escalate it, otherwise its tough.

Essentially, like everyone else has all ready stated, its a grey area.

[jp94]

it's cool if u already know her, asin chilled with or at least talked to her before, but hittin up random hot chicks is sum creeper shit unless ur on myearbook or sum other shit like that

[Amb1valence]

Idk. This girl keeps telling me this. She said today that a guy she knows didn't get girls till he talked to a few on facebook, now he's fucking all of them...wtf

[amarok]

All you chodes saying facebook game is gay need to learn a few things! My last two girlfriends (the first was a lesbian till she met me, I'm still dating/fucking the second one almost every day) I picked up by hitting them up on facebook. It's the easiest shit if you remotely know what you're doing. Facebook is easy to pick up girls on, it's not complicated. I pick a random hot girl from my friends list and start chatting with them. Next thing you know they're at my house with friends for a hang out/party getting wet at how boss I am.

[545]

I didn't feel this was worth making a topic for, so...
If you're interested in a girl (or a few I guess =p), is it worth friending her on facebook for the small chance that you may get some attraction going over it, or is it better to see if she friends you, as an indicator to see if you're doin' it right?