Stuck on the attraction phase NEED HELP

[nikkidaamog]

Hey guys my name is nikki and i am a freshman in High School.
OK so in two months i had already shown that i am kinda alpha and most girls think im attractive. I NEG AND DHV ALOT. BUT i am scared to show interest in the girl because im afraid people is going to gossip. And another reason that i am stuck in the atrraction phase is because I barely have time to build comfort.
My classes are filled with ugly chicks and i dont have time in the hall to build confort.

ANY TIPS?
Thank you
NIKKI

[Deleted]

Welcome to the boards man!

Firstly, about gossip: Don't give a shit. Gossip only affects you if you let it. Be a man, let the bitches talk. Besides, I'm going to let you in on a secret. High School is not important. It's 4 years out of your life. There is more to life than "social issues" in high school.

Secondly, about comfort: That's what outside of school is for. If you have attraction just get the number. Hell, girls will give you their number even if they aren't attracted to you. That's what high school is for. Once you got that text/call/ or meet up with them outside of school and work from there.

Thirdly, be careful about negging. You should not neg a lot. Keep it to a minimum, it is definitely not needed.

[zegoni]

You should only 'neg' the girls whose self-esteem is extremely high - or else you'll have a hard time hooking her properly, since she is "so much better" than you, no matter who you are.

[nikkidaamog]

Aaron and Zeg: thanks so much man. YEAH i neg alot and DHV i think i over do it. I will stop
Aaron thax u blew my fucking mind about getting them to meet up, any ideas about number closing in school. Because its hard for me to number close a HB because they are always with their friends. any tips.


NIKKI

[slithroat]

The only way to get to know one of them is to get to know the whole group. You will probably need to introduce yourself to the whole group. Seclude one of the group that you know has to split up from the rest -- there normally is at least one. Ask a few friends, girls normally know all the gossip that goes around and know where other people are at at what times. This is just how these things are normally.

I tend to not chase at all, but I think you may need to get her like, after school. Find a friend that's on her bus -- if she is on a bus and doesn't get driven home -- and take that bus with that friend, get that friend to sit with you closer to wherever she sits. If she sits on the back of the bus, just roll up to the back and chill there, glance over at her a few times and she'll wonder why you're glancing. Make sure it's noticeable. If there is at least somewhat of an attraction, it normally makes people feel awkward so to break the ice say something to her like, "Hey, I'm sorry for looking, but your eyes are truly beautiful..."

Or, you could meet up with someone near her locker at the end of the day when her friends and her would be broken up, or you might not even need to meet up with someone. I tend to find it's easier to solo, but you may need a wing if she's in a clique.

Just find her by her locker and be like, "Hey, you look really pretty" or some shit like that that normally makes girls feel good about themselves.

From that... just carry it on, if there is an attraction and then the best part is -- it's after school. You both have to get home. Ask if she can quickly jot down her number or type it into your phone then you have her number.

People are a lot different alone than in their select cliques. I know this through experience. If you can, just think something up, and if these two scenarios fail, send me a pm with the situation and tell me what you've attempted and I'll try to assist you the best I can.

As a freshman, I know how annoying that shit can get. Best of luck mate.

Oh, and just a BTW, try to make sure it's you talking. Make sure it's genuine and make sure that you don't come off too strong, otherwise this will FAIL.

[Alek]

First man, i wouldnt neg. But teasing is great. Theres a difference!

And as far as interest, so what? Like their personality, and let that win over your interest. It shouldnt be an issue. And gossip, if its positive, is a good things. Its called buzz, the more you have, the better you are. If its negative buzz tho, that shits bad.

[Grape]

Nikki, it's easy to build comfort in class.
I do more comfort game than attraction game in general and even more during class.
It's hard to do anything with attraction that you've made in class. I say maintain relationships and build comfort by easing down and opening up more and attract outside of school when you can go crazy.

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[acezero]

Lunch, Hallways, making plans, phone calls etc. I use those to get out the attraction phase. Or just being missing to that person for a bit and pulling off big ass moves, like telling her I was thinking about her for the last 2 days or something.

Attraction phase is really simple I think. You can get her number within 5 minutes, you can also build comfort through text messages and sitting with her at lunch.

Alpha Male doesn't care what other think, if you do, you're a wuss. I tell myself I'm a man when I am about to wuss out of something and lose that feeling.