Effect of Momentum

[slyman]

Hey guys,

here's a common problem I see in high school, one that I am experiencing right now and unsure of how to handle it. A lot of times, I will hang out with chicks on friday or saturday, but then if I don't have any classes with them, I won't see them until the next weekend. I feel like this kills all momentum with the girl, that by the next time I see her, shes been hit on approx. 50 times and maybe one guy had game and got with her in the interim. This even has happened when I hooked up with a chick on a friday, then on the next thursday (happened 2 weeks ago), she hooked up with someone in her chem class. grr. I use texting, but are there any other ways to get around this? also, am I overhtinking how important momentum is? DOes anyone else have these problems? Thanks.

[Validus]

Hang out with them outside of school, during the week.

Read my first field report for example..

I've just recently learned you don't really have to be doing anything special with them, just hanging out.. As long as you keep a fun seeking vibe, things will just kinda.. Fall into place.

Meet up with them somewhere, if you can, have it close to your place or somewhere you can go and actually hook up if you want.. Don't mention it though..

For me, there just happened to be a big hill, with a flat top overlooking a cornfield.. Go somewhere, say a park.. Sit for a bit, kino, talk, escalate.. Just have fun, get to know them.

Then, go somewhere else.. If you have any forests or anything like that near by, go take a stroll. Then somewhere else.

More places you go = seems like she's known you longer = good.

Sidenote: I'm no expert on this, just my experiences..

[slyman]

thanks...yeah i deffintely agree with you. at my school, because it is a boarding school, usually you will go and "hang out" with a girl for a night and stay on campus. we have a huugeeee campus so really if a chick just says "lets hang out this weekend," it means you'll be on campus hooking up somewhere. but yeah thats a great point that it really doesn't matter what your doing, just that your chilling with them.